“Wash your sex toys and consider using condoms on them.
They’ll last longer and be more hygienic.”
Warning: This post includes topics of sexual trauma.
just proceed with caution.
“In my sex therapy practice, I specialize in kink-aware counseling.
Youd be surprised how many partners/spouses react negatively to their partner expressing an interest in BDSM.
The stigma around sensory exchange (my preferred term for SM play) is huge.
But neither mindsets are useful or accurate.
BDSM doesnt equate to abuse or domestic violence or imply a traumatic history.”
u/Seeking_Starlight
2.
Starting a sexual encounter doesn’t obligate you to finish it.
u/TheStalk_Freelancer
3.
This is a common misconception and can lead to some problems.
“Dry spells can become cycles.
u/oredditisgonalovdis
4.
“A lot of older men come in requesting Viagra because they want to start dating again.
Some of them have lost their wives, and some of them have had recent divorces.
These men haven’t been able to achieve an erection in quite some time.
So, they think Viagra is the answer.
Regardless, at least once a month, it never fails.
A man will come back to my office on Monday with his arm in a sling.
I ask them, ‘Mr.
[X], what seems to be the problem?’
and they tell me, ‘My date didn’t show up.'”
u/BlakeClass
5. u/Keohane
“I love scheduled sex.
u/ZZBC
6. u/esoteric_enigma
7.
“Sexual dysfunctions (like premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction, sexual pain, etc.)
are the most common problems.
It’s called Sensate Focus by Masters & Johnson.
Depending on the dysfunction, specific exercises can be added.
For example, the start-and-stop technique for premature ejaculation, dilators for vaginismus, or masturbation training for anorgasmia.
u/aRn0nYm
8.
I deal mostly with men with performance anxiety.
They are the most frequent patients, and they typically believe they have very severe problems.
u/[deleted]
9.
“Never stick anything in your butt that you might’t pull out easily.
If something ends up stuck in the butt, don’t make a run at get it out.
You’ll only push it in deeper (and prepare for a really weird poop).
you better wash your goddamned sex toys, and consider using condoms on them.
They’ll last longer, and be more hygienic.
Never use a silicone-based lube on a sex toy.”
“Also, female condoms have improved significantly over the years.
u/iNKisekki
10.
“Sex is just as mental as it is physical.
This will make your sex life better, whether it’s a relationship or a hookup.”
“I’m a sexual health counselor.
Any of these three can be washed in the dishwasher.
u/ElitistRobot
12.
“I’m a marriage and family therapist who specializes in sexual and LGBTQ+ issues.
This is especially true (and hardest to do) regarding sex.
Having expectations doesn’t make you selfish or needy it makes you a person.
Sex is a big part of a relationship, and acknowledging its importance doesn’t make you shallow.
u/DorothyGaleEsq
13.And finally: “A satisfying relationship inside the bedroom startsoutsidethe bedroom.
I used to intern with therapists, and they’d always stress the importance of communication.
So many patients throughout the years would say how learning their ‘love language’ helped save their relationships.
I’ve personally found it incredibly beneficial as well.
If nothing else, it opens the door for communication with your S.O.
We both were previously divorced from horrible first marriages.
The idea is so simple, yet the effects are pretty profound.
I cannot sing the praises ofThe 5 Love Languagesenough!”
u/nawtykitty
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