Here’s what they had to say below:
1.
“Separate blankets, and we each do our own laundry.
We have had fewer arguments because of this.”
“‘Do you want comfort or to look for solutions?’
Both things are helpful, but there’s a time and place for each.
Also, be with someone who will tell you the truth.
I adore my husband.
If I hold you close, I am going to hold you accountable and call you out.”
analeehope
3.
“My husband and I have been married for 14 years, together for 17.
I’ve seen so many friends and family member’s marriages fall apart.
My advice:”
4.
“‘Roll a D20’ has solved so many little things over the years.
Who is going to take the kids to the dentist appointment tomorrow?
Who is cooking dinner tonight?
Who is taking our daughter to dance class?
Who is making that phone call, we’ve both been putting off?
I’m odds, and he’s evens.
LambNic18
5.
“Separate bedrooms, assuming you have the space.
It’s not only for snoring.
Sound: I need silence; he needs TV on.
And animals: I refuse to allow pets in the bed; he likes kitty snuggles.”
“We have a rule about fighting: you gotta be naked!
It absolutely defuses the tension and anger most of the time since we only fight about dumb stuff.
Makes us both crack up!”
missyh
7.
Just celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary last December.
While we were sitting in the living room, our friends were upstairs having a very cruel argument.
Kindness wins; patience, tolerance, and understanding have been our foundation.
Respect is a biggie.
And being too stubborn to quit and walk away during the rough spots works wonders.
I am so thankful we found and still have each other.”
Resentment doesn’t just go away; it builds.
Things always seem much worse when you’re tired.
Go to bed, even if you’re angry."
coaster26
9.
“We’re thirteen years happily married.
“Not married yet, but in six months, I will be.
We’ve been together for almost six years.
I take care of the bathrooms, wash the towels and blankets, and I put clean dishes away.
This has been working for us because I deal with stuff he doesnt want to do and vice versa.
He actually makes fun of how much I have physical reactions to it.”
Colleen
11.
“I make a point to sit and hold hands when we are upset or angry.
“Learn how to use ‘I’ statements to decrease defensiveness.
It makes people actually listen to you instead of getting up in arms to defend themselves.”
Mysterykitty
13.
“Respect and courtesy are soooo huge.
