Sometimes love is worth fighting for.
Their stories were very eye-opening, providing insight that many people probably haven’t heard before.
Sometimes women believe “once a cheater, always a cheater,” while others believe in second chances.
hey proceed with caution.
“We broke up for about a year.
A few months post-breakup, I decided to pick myself up.
Nothing really came from that.
About six months after the breakup, my ex hit rock bottom.
He saw how empty and alone he was.
“It was painful but necessary.
We talked regularly after that, and a few months later, we started dating again.
It’s going well.
Healing is a slow and painful process, but there’s been no rug-sweeping.
We’re building a new life together, and I’m glad to have him as my partner.
u/Ice31
2.
I broke up with him immediately.
We would talk off and on because he was remorseful, and we shared a lot of hobbies.
He decided to go to therapy and work on his issues without me asking him to.
It was about two years later that we decided to give it another go.”
The important part is that I know that I will leave without a moment’s hesitation.
This is his only chance.”
u/cats_tats_smiles
3.
“For one, the fact that I cheated too.
We forgave each other and vowed to start a clean slate.
This was 13 years ago, and we will celebrate 17 years together this fall.
Sometimes you get lucky and grow up.
We’re such better people now than we used to be back then.”
u/Icleanforheichou
4.
I didn’t have to corner him with evidence.
He was honest in the aftermath of the cheating and so very remorseful about it all.
I, however, was in pieces.
I left him after his confession, and we weren’t together for the next eight years.
I infuriated him mainly because he had a whole heck of a lot of self-hatred to be projected."
“He had an extremely rough childhood and needed a lot of healing and growth.
For anyone on the outside looking in, they’d think we both moved on.
But he had nowhere ‘safe’ to live and couldn’t secure an apartment.
I wanted my daughter to have a chance at her relationship with him more than I cared about anything.
So that’s how it all began again.
Within a week, we were officially back together.
We have a beautiful life now, and I honestly owe it all to that day.
Had that day not happened, we definitely wouldn’t be here today celebrating anniversaries together!”
u/Klutzy-Chest-3217
5.
“My dad has cheated on my mom over and over for their entire 40+ years of marriage.
She has been with him since she was 14 years old, so I guess she knows nothing else.
All of us kids (all grown now) cannot understand why she continues to stay.
I wish she’d leave him.
It feels abusive at this point.”
u/blacksmokehammerdown
6.
I cried the way you would cry for a close family member dying.
Wed had the perfect day the day before I found out.
I thought our relationship was perfect he was always kind, reassuring, and patient.
He even got my name tattooed on his throat (his idea).
I fully believed he didnt check other women out, let alone have a porn problem.
“When I found out, he didnt deny it he took full accountability.
He said hed go to therapy, get a flip phone, and have a joint bank account.
Its been the hardest thing Ive ever had to go through.
We do couples therapy now, and I do solo therapy and NA, like I said.
Surprisingly, I feel our relationship has become better in a lot of ways.
To know everything about one another (the good AND the bad).
Its harder to stay than it is to leave.
When you do the research on porn addiction and the shame surrounding it, it helps.
Ive never seen it as a problem of me not being enough because I know that I am.
His addiction to porn has nothing to do with me.
I cant help but look at his inner child and believe he is capable of change.
His desire to change is the biggest thing.
He said, ‘Ill get help.'”
u/Big-Percentage1286
7.
“He never blamed me and took full ownership and responsibility.
He went to therapy on his own and then with me.
It took a couple of years of consistent reassurance, but I can genuinely say I trust him now.
Im glad I gave him another chance because hes my best friend.
We grew up together through it, and we became closer.
It forced us to communicate better.”
u/Simpleconundrum
8.
That’s probably hard to wrap one’s head around, and I am omitting a lot of details.
I would have never known if he didn’t tell me.
u/Accomplished-Echo783
9.
Im glad I did it and dont regret it.
He has proven himself.
Would I do it again?
u/zeldaluv94
10.
He cheated on me while we dated, and I didnt find out until much later.
He was honestly super childish back then.
I was wary at first and set a lot of ground rules and expectations.
Were now married and have a baby.
I think about the cheating almost every day, and I know my now-husband regrets it.
I forgave him, though, and know he loves his family.
We addressed the root cause of the issue and his self-esteem, too, so that get through it.
That doesnt mean it doesnt sting, but I know my husband loves me."
u/ryeone180
11.
We broke up and didnt speak for about six months.
We ended up getting back together, so Ill keep you updated."
u/hahahahahasallybitch
12.
I wanted to give him a second chance, and I’m glad I did.
Over a decade since, and we have been stronger than ever."
u/emotional-empath
13.
The times after that, I stayed because leaving was very dangerous."
u/HungClits
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