I recentlyaskedthose of theBuzzFeed Communitywho ended their relationship or marriage over intimacy issues to share their story with me.
Here is what they shared:
1.
I would prefer to have sex every day, which I was upfront about.
Maya, 31
2.
“I’m asexual.
He thought he could ‘fix me.’
Spoiler alert: he couldn’t.”
Anonymous, 45
3.
“My ex-husband and I had amazing sexual chemistry when we got together initially.
It was a hard pregnancy for me physically.
“He wanted to have sex all the time, and I just didnt want to.
The pressure was so high that I started not wanting to see him.
I would dread spending time with him because I knew what was coming.
It was such a relief.
Ryan, 37
5.
But after a year and a half, I moved in with her.
The sex started to fizzle out.
It got so bad that she wouldnt even let me give her a hug around the waist.
But she still wouldnt let me touch her at all because she had such severe body dysmorphia.
That was more than ten years ago.”
“Now, he has completely transitioned from female to male.
In every other way, this was the greatest relationship I have ever been in.
He understood me on a level no one else had before or had since.
But intimacy differentiates between a friend and a partner, a couple, or a significant other.
And without that intimacy, I couldnt stay in the relationship, no matter how good everything else was.
I still wonder if I made a mistake by leaving.”
Anonymous
6.
“They were mostly boring, but there were other issues too.
Classic gaslighting, I know.”
“He wanted to start and drive.
Never did he heat up the engine before driving.
Sometimes, it was fun and interesting, but he was usually drunk.
He would turn over or go clean up, come back, and fall asleep.
I tried talking to him, but he responded that it was sensitive.
Fany, 40
8.
“It wasn’t JUST the bedroom, of course.
It’s never that simple.
We were together for 14 years.
The warning signs were so obvious now that I looked back at it but wasn’t paying attention.
I met him when I was 18.
I’d never slept with anyone before.
I was humiliated and completely devastated.
We began only having sex when he wanted so that wouldn’t happen.
Fast forward 14 years, we were averaging sex twice a year, maybe less.
He wouldn’t sit next to me anymore.
The last straw was when the same ex from all those years ago contacted me again.
I told my then-husband about it as a lark.
in an obvious attempt to seduce him.
And gently moved me off his lap.
The sex is still incredible, but more importantly, the connection is too.”
Alabama, 38
9.
He thought he could cure himself by drinking alkaline water because he wanted to be ‘natural.’
As a nurse, I know alkaline water changing your pH is a hoax.
I tried telling him that, but he would not budge, so I broke up with him.”
If the tables were turned, he would have done the same thing.
After all, we only dated for six months.
I do not feel bad at all.
Sometimes I wonder is karma getting him for sowing such wild oats in his youth.
He impregnated three women on the same day when he was 20!!!
Anytime I run into him in public, he says that I am the one who got away.”
Charice, 50
10.
I’ve never looked back.
“I knew after the first time my wife and I had sex.
Our future sex life depended on what I could do financially.
She was never a willing partner but did it to make me happy.
She knew from the beginning our physical relationship was very important to me.”
Bill
12.
“He released inside of me without my consent, and he has a very small penis.”
Bennie, 30
13.
“My wife completely lost interest in sex after menopause.
It was painful, and she refused to share sexual activities that did not require intercourse.
She eventually reluctantly agreed but said, ‘No woman would want you without the prospect of marriage.’
Dave, 67
14.
Everything felt great to start, but we never got sexual.
“My partner of five years had severe issues staying hard.
Anna, 26
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