Sometimes organization is key.
Everyone’s story is different.
“In my case, we started scheduling things because my partner started anti-depressants that killed their sex drive.
“So it became ‘date night’ instead.
It became easier to actually progress to sex even if I had a bad week.
Sometimes, we’d just focus on me for that round.”
u/PieJudge
2.
“It started out as a joke, actually.
We both have Wednesdays off from work.
And we got into it.
Its not exactly every single Wednesday, but its almost every Wednesday with plenty of other days in between.
We have a healthy three times a week habit after 18 years (today is Wednesday!
I gotta go, guys).”
u/OsoRetro
3. u/FirstEvolutionist
4.
“We did it for about a year, but we have mismatched libidos.
She began to feel that it was an obligation/chore rather than an activity she looked forward to.
Putting it more than a week away didnt work either.
Were considering trying it again.
u/clovisx
5.
“We had scheduled sex while trying for kids, and the pressure to finish was distinctly unpleasant.
u/Obligatory-not-the
“As someone who went through IVF with my wife, I feel you.
There is no pressure now.
Im in my mid-forties, and sometimes things dont biologically work as well as they did 10 years ago.
And you know what?
Its not a big deal because theres no pressure to perform.
u/putsch80
6.
“We’re married with three kids who all play different sports and activities.
It’s not so much scheduled as a look.
Like, we have 30 minutes, so GO, GO, GO!
It’s like aZero Dark ThirtySeal Team Six operation.”
u/CTnaturist
7.
There is usually a date involved as well, but sometimes those dates are take-out and watching Netflix.
We got a little one, so it’s hard to do the involved stuff during the week.”
u/gunnie56
8.
“I used to think scheduling sex would be really rigid and/or make it feel transactional.
The opposite has been true.
One of us will ask earlier in the day or the next day.
u/MirrorConsistent857
9.
“It’s the energy you bring with you to it.
But for us, it’s something to look forward to.
you’re able to use the scheduling to build anticipation and foreplay.”
u/monkeyfeets
10.
And, to be frank, it has been fantastic!
We gave up our sexual spontaneity, but we are remarkably consistent and happier for that.
u/GlitchyMcGlitchFace
11.
I can’t believe she agreed to it.
I’m very excited!
We’ve been married for 20 years and have kids things have been great lately!”
u/kdh79
12.
“Scheduled sex just turned into scheduled rejection.
It didn’t take more than a few weeks of that for it just to fade out altogether.”
u/BigMax
13.
“It gives you something to look forward to for hours or sometimes days.
u/ShakeCNY
14.
“My ex and I scheduled sex and it was a nightmare because it became something expected.
And, when it didnt happen, we both felt frustrated, disappointed, or unloved.
‘If we are both awake later, I have been craving you’ or something like that.
I was hyped all day.
It would suck when the day’s worth of stress, tasks, and traumas meant a rain check.
It probably helped that we both loved each other and loved sex.”
u/Imaginary_Office7660
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