It’s time to listen up.
Women didn’t hold anything back, and revealed some pretty eye-opening truths about their sex lives.
Everyone’s story is different.
“I got a divorce, and honestly it was the best thing I couldve done.
Im with a man now who Im really sexually compatible with, and Ive never been happier.
Turns out they do!
Being compatible and at least able to talk about those things made sex pretty mind-blowing.”
u/anxious_labturtle
“I also got divorced and don’t regret it.
I’m currently single, but had a partner who I was very sexually compatible with after the divorce.
I now have ‘a decent sex life’ on my non-negotiable list.
u/artipants
2.
“I didn’t have sexual chemistry with my partner during my first marriage.
We got married young and were like best friends.
When I first slept with another man…WOW!
I can’t do another relationship without that chemistry.”
u/PorshaKittens
3.
“Weve been together for 12 years and he has no desire to just me.
Ive only been with two people.
Ive brought it up with my husband loads, but nothing changes.
I dont know if he just doesnt care.
I honestly feel trapped because we have a child and a mortgage.
Outside of sex he can be a bit ignorant, but hes my best friend.
u/Buffster13
4.
“Weve been together for the better part of two decades and hes still my favorite person.
Disagreements never get nasty and there are never really hurt feelings.
For a while, it made me sad because I was a highly sexual person and he wasn’t.
Still, he doesnt have a huge libido.
However, weve always been and continue to be very affectionate with each other.
He grabs my butt, we cuddle were generally physically playful.
u/BethInTheWest
5.
“Overall it’s going great.
u/Viggos_Broken_Toe
6.
“Just got divorced and this was one of two big ‘irreconcilable’ reasons we did.
Communication issues were certainly there, so it just ate away at me.
When we did start communicating better about it, it just became clear we were incompatible.
So, I can’t see a way out unless one person is able to sacrifice their needs.”
u/Brokenmad
“I wasnt married, but I relate to this a lot!
I also had that ‘WOAH’ moment when I had sex with another man.
It made me realize how sex is supposed to feel.
I’m happily single today, and I now know how important sexual chemistry is.”
u/fisklukt
7.
“Sex isnt everything were doing great.
We have a solid relationship and respect each other.
I have several friends who married very good-looking men and had great sex lives until they divorced.
Their husbands were either unfaithful or poor communicators.
So, for me, (and her anyway) sexual chemistry is low-priority.
But then again, I also have a low sex drive, so it could be just me.”
u/Hopeful_Wanderer1989
8. u/TheGreatNyanHobo
“Oh my goodness I SO relate.
We never married, but we have a kid together (which was planned).
u/Appropriate-Ninja753
9.
“Currently living with him with the promise (from him) the sexual chemistry will get better.
I feel like I’ve wasted three years of my life with him and sacrificed my sex life.
Sex is so important.”
u/Commercial_Swan3391
10.
“I spent more than a decade with a man who wasn’t tickling my physical pickle at all.
We were the best of friends (and by the best, I mean THE BEST).
The rapport was unreal, we were pretty much having a telepathic connection.
Like, it was NOT supposed to happen.
It’s hard for me to describe it.”
But, it was all ending with me crying in secret.
It ultimately destroyed us.
I met someone new and fell madly in love.
I knew we were done the moment I felt it.”
u/RandomCentipede387
11.
I want out a lot, but I just dont think Ill leave at this point.
They would never understand and would hate me for wrecking what looks like a perfect family.”
u/mthr2humans
12.
“I want sexual chemistry.
My body doesnt allow it very often I hardly ever get horny.
I usually get into sex after it starts, but I wish I actually craved it.
And when they act like assholes, it doesnt help .”
u/Obvious_Technology49
13.
But I wouldnt trade the emotional intimacy for even the best sex of my life.”
u/Feyre_darling_
14.
“For us, we both dont need sex every day.
I think we do it, like, once or twice a week.
I honestly use my vibrator more often than have sex with him.
I just dont really connect having sex with masturbating.”
u/Shoddy_Addition_7460
15.
“I married him thinking the sex was…fine, I guess.
Nothing special, nothing terrible.
I had a lower libido than him, and I thought Id just indulge him and get through it.
Since then Ive grown to hate it I feel stuck.
My lack of desire for it coupled with shitty communication led him to having an affair.
I know intellectually his affair was not totally my fault, but sometimes I do blame myself.
I also think he has a sex addiction.
He wants to fix things with me.
I think I want to get out, but Im a giant ‘coward.’
Im in my mid-thirties and feel scared about starting over, so I just feel…frozen.”
u/bees_21
Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
