“It’s been seven years, and I haven’t heard from them since.”
Here’s what people revealed:
1.
He became my best friend while she and I raised her son together for six years.
She and I broke up amicably, but then I noticed she stopped responding to me.
I was still hanging out with my ex-boyfriend/best friend until he suddenly stopped responding to me.
My entire family knew about this but never told me.
Two people ghosted me at the same time."
shilop
2.
“We had been living together for a couple of years when he lost his job.
He decided to take a solo camping trip to clear his mind.
He was supposed to be gone for a week but never returned.
A month later, a mutual friend told me he had moved to another state.
He left me with all his stuff and HIS DOG.”
Anonymous
3.
“A year and a half into the relationship, he just started ignoring my messages.
He’d say we would hang out later, and then he wouldnt get back to me.
He promised to spend the holidays with my family and then made excuses for that, too.
He also skipped a New Years party I held.
A few days later, he woke me up with a text (!!)
before the sun was even up deciding we were done.
Thankfully, it was benign…not that he stuck around to learn this.”
comfysnail63
4.
“I’m the one who ghosted my husband of three years.
I came home from a particularly difficult workday to find him lying in bed with another woman.
I turned right back around and went to sleep in my office.
Weve been communicating via his mistress, aka my SISTER.”
“I was with him for three and a half years.
The last nine months were long-distance.
We spent family vacations together; I spent time with his children.
The last time we got together, his children and parents came with him and stayed at my house.
We texted a couple of times after that, but then he stopped answering my texts.
Sometimes, he would do that when things got busy, so I didn’t care too much.
Then, one month later, it was my birthday and nothing!
No text, no call, absolutely nothing!”
“The day after my birthday, I tried calling, and he sent me to voicemail.
After several unanswered calls in a row, he finally texted, saying he’d call me later.
I still hadn’t gotten a call three days later, so I tried again.
I typed, ‘What do you want me to do with all your stuff?’
His reply was, ‘you’re free to just donate it.’
And that was it.
“I had been with my S.O.
for almost three years, and we’d lived together for six months.
We talked about it, and they encouraged me to pursue it.
We agreed to try long-distance and maybe they would join me someday.
They barely texted back, and the two times I tried to call them, they didn’t answer.
They said they’d try harder to be available.
That was the last message before they went silent.
It’s been seven years, and I haven’t heard from them since.”
ebennet71
7.
“I’ve sort of been ghosted.
He was supposed to visit me for the weekend and never showed up.
The next day, he video-called me and dumped me.
He’d visited the previous weekend and told me how much he loved me.
After a couple of years, my friend checked out of curiosity, and he never moved.”
“We were together for seven great years.
We talked about kids and marriage and looked at houses together.
We were both in our 30s, had good jobs, and were ready to make things official.
He said he would take me and pay for an abortion.
We decided we couldn’t go through with the abortion, and I thought everything was all good.
The last time I saw him was eight days before I gave birth.
I kissed him goodbye and wished him a happy birthday.
That was the last time I heard from him.
By the time I got to work, I was blocked on everything.
I gave birth at the height of COVID-19 to a beautiful baby boy by myself.
“He was cute, charming, funny, and charismatic.
He was covered in tattoos and had eyes I could (and did) get lost in.
We met in the fall of 2001.
Both our chemistry and attraction were noticeable to everyone around us.
We met by fate two years later on a telephone chat line on Christmas 2003.
Finally, things started to feel better during the summer of 2020.
One week turned into two, which turned into five.
He didn’t call, and I had no desire to call him either.
I could tell he was mad, and I didn’t care.
In the summer of 2022, we reconnected after ghosting.
What I once found attractive made my skin crawl, and I had an anxiety attack.
I was hurt, angry, confused, and sad.
I didn’t understand how or why this happened again.
Ghosts are better off left alone.
Things are great and keep getting better.
As for my ghost?
A weight has been lifted, and I’m better than ever.”
“I (28F) was dating my partner (28M) for a year and a half.
Everything seemed to be going fine.
He broke up with me using a vague, hand-written letter and refused to answer my calls.
That was the closure I needed.
He was undoubtedly the most emotionally stunted human being I’ve ever met.
Still very inconsiderate.”
blueporcupine36
11.
“We had flirted for a year and decided to start dating officially on March 2.
Five days later, she returned to the boyfriend she had before me.
“I dated a girl about 12 or 13 years ago for a year and a half.
We lived in the same city for the first half of our relationship, so it was good.
Then, she moved about an hour and a half away for a job.
She still came home quite a bit, so we still talked.
Then, the excuses started.
‘My phone died.’
‘I didn’t have good service.’
‘I canceled my phone plan to save money, so I can only text on Wi-Fi.’
I was young and dumb.
This went on for a few months.
By then, I considered myself single and stopped trying since she clearly wasn’t.
flyerboy6
13.
“My ex-fiance ghosted me.
We met in late 2019 and started dating in early 2020.
He was on active duty in the military and was ordered to change stations to Europe in 2021.
When it came time for him to leave, we discussed our future and agreed to a long-distance relationship.
We would FaceTime all the time and talk every day.
When restrictions were lifted, I flew out there to visit him in July, and he proposed.
I still flew out there, and we talked everything through together.
I thought things were fine between us after we talked.”
I was completely blindsided.
I was confused, blindsided, hurt, and desperate to know what was happening.
I was going through all the stages of grief while not knowing what was going on.
He did the same thing a week before he was supposed to fly to the States.
He texted me and said he needed some time because of a stressful email, then blocked me everywhere.
Turns out, he was cheating on me with multiple women the entire time he was in Europe.
I got my stuff back, sold the ring, and haven’t looked back since.
However, I have been in therapy.
How can someone do that to someone they say they love and have been in a long-term relationship with?
I was questioning everything and didn’t know what to believe.
I didn’t even trust myself.
I wasn’t sleeping and wasn’t eating.
It took me a while to trust myself again, and therapy has been beneficial.”
“I was very close friends with this girl at an all-girls boarding school.
She was openly bisexual, and I didn’t know I was a lesbian yet.
After we graduated high school, we shared an apartment together very briefly.
I realized I had romantic feelings for her after she broke up with her then-boyfriend.
When I was ready to tell her, she got back together with her ex-girlfriend.
I decided to tell her how I felt and let the chips fall where they may.”
“I had to tell her online because she was traveling and unavailable for a phone call.
She replied that I could return as her friend once I overcame my feelings for her.
She refused to have a conversation over the phone or in person.
This was exclusively over DMs and email.
I never saw or heard from her again after that.
All our mutual friends chose her in the ‘divorce.’
To this day, I find myself subconsciously bracing for relationships to end suddenly.
It takes me longer than average to relax and fully trust relationships.
Fortunately, I have an incredible and patient girlfriend of almost five years.
We’re planning a life together, and I couldn’t be happier.”
“I had this friend for approximately eight years, and we both had some feelings for each other.
We would talk every day, though it was long-distance.
Even so, we were pretty close.
Crushes cloud the judgment.'
I apologized, and we agreed just to keep going with the friendship.
They said everything was cool.
When we did speak, it was all minimal and calculated.
16.And: “I was dating a man from Brazil.
We had both been married previously and were starting to date again.
We lived about two and a half hours from each other, so we met about every other weekend.
We had fun together, like dancing, camping, and traveling.
I met his Brazilian friends, and they were all amazing people!
He, of course, was still learning English, so I took up Portuguese on Duolingo.
I could make basic sentences.”
“We spent a year and a half together, and then he wanted to have a discussion.
He wanted to know what I thought about getting married.
We decided we would eventually get married but would move in together first.
It seemed best for me to move to his city, so we started researching apartments.
I never got an answer as to who that woman was.
I’m very grateful we never found an apartment.”
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