We recently shared a post where people got super candid about theunhealthy relationshipsthey have with their moms.
c’mon proceed with caution.
“My mom knew how uncomfortable her sexual relationship with my dad made me.
It didn’t stop there.
‘No can do, kiddo.’
I haven’t been back since.”
princesspuffypants
2.
“I love my mom dearly and I know that she loves me.
But, because my parents are prominent community members, no one ever responded.
“I now translate this as a sick or dead daughter is preferable to a healthy daughter.
I’ve been in therapy for five years now my therapist is a godsend of a woman.
I am much healthier and have been working on intense boundaries, which has saved my life.”
Anonymous
3.
“I have many stories.
I could only find one, so I didn’t get to eat half the meals that weekend.
I refused, so she left me there.
My father came to pick me up and told me that I should have just told her.
I reminded him that they didn’t like it when I lied.
“She always preferred my friend over me, who had better grades.
She wished she was her kid instead of me (until our SAT scores came in).
Brown-nosing doesn’t help SAT scores; I scored significantly better than my friend.
So, there weren’t any more comparisons.
It was also my fault that she was ‘fat.'”
lisarubinf
4.
“Recently [the abuse] kind of came up again in my life.
I’ve been looking at her cruelty to me about male attention and heartbreak.
I felt unworthy because my mom would say, ‘Why are they with you?’
like I was very unattractive and unlikeable.
I internalized that.”
“When those boys found someone new, she never comforted me.
It was always, ‘Well, of course what were they doing with you anyway?
He was too good-looking for you.’
I believed her for a long time and thus shot low.
I see now that it was all her unhealthy jealousy of me so mean.”
altenbas
5.
“My mother was abusive both physically and mentally.
I didn’t know how she found us at the time.
She poured gas on our wooden deck and was holding matches.
I called the cops terrified she was going to kill my children and me.
I came to find out that a private investigator had tracked me down for her.
The shit stain wasn’t even sorry when he found out what she’d done.”
“My mom is really temperamental.
As the oldest kid, most of you know what that means.
I’m the guinea pig and the punching bag.
She hates him which means she hates me because I’m exactly like him.
We get along, but I’ve since given up on the idea of us being close.”
morgang41a3f2f87
8.
“My mother beat me with a belt one morning before school because I mixed plaids and stripes.
My parents divorced when I was eight years old.
“The Camaro was gone, and our old station wagon was parked there.
The lover became our first stepfather.
After they divorced she would blame us for it.
One of the worst beatings I ever received was when she blamed us for our stepfather leaving.
I said, ‘If that’s true, you should kneel down and kiss our feet.'”
shinygamer90
9.
She said I owe her for not doing it and the resulting loss of her marriage.”
natttgeo1
10.
“My mother was a nightmare.
She had six children (four girls and two boys).
The boys were treated like kings and the girls like absolute garbage.
She was insanely jealous of the girls, which is sickening.
She then forbade me ever to mention it again.
She died about six years ago, and none of us girls miss her.
He was scared to death of her and never stood up for us.
Good riddance, mom.”
deirdre222
vizslaowner2
12.
“My mother is very manipulative.
Then, when I lower my volume, she says my tone is wrong.
I am always ‘in the wrong,’ and I am ‘what is destroying our family.’
“I love my mom because she’s my mom, but I definitely don’t like her.
Last month I was having chest pains and I was scared.
I called my dad but he wasn’t answering.
I can’t get a hold of dad.’
‘I have to get my taxes done today.’
ieat2muchcandy
14.
“I’m an only child, and my mom and dad split when I was four years old.
My mom essentially raised me as her surrogate spouse and has always treated me like her own personal therapist.
Not to mention the guilt trips when I don’t respond or interact how she wants me to.
It’s a toxic, toxic loop.”
So, I would finish the section I was working on and then shower quickly.
She said I couldn’t, and I reminded her of our agreement.
So she threw her scraper down and screamed, ‘Fine!
Go hang out with your boyfriend!
I hope you wind up worthless and alone like you deserve!’
I cried in the shower, and started planning to move out.”
That turned out to be true, and my mental health has improved so much since.”
Note: Some submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
