just proceed with caution.
“Most of my anxieties and insecurities.
I don’t know how much is ingrained in her personality, but she can’t handle it.
After decades, I’m resigned to the fact that it just is what it is.”
u/Sax-Offender
2.
“How sad our sexual situation makes me.
She knows Im not satisfied with it, but I dont think she realizes how much it depresses me.
Im reluctant to tell her because I dont see any good outcome from doing so.
Our frequency has dropped more since then.”
Nothing good could result from that.
So, I never initiate (and talking about it would be one more form of unwelcome pressure).
I continue not to share my feelings with her."
u/MyNSFWside
“I left my marriage because of this.
Lack of intimacy brings about so much emotional damage.
You dont feel loved, and you envision yourself with other people because of it.
I’m currently with my new girlfriend and her libido is sky-high compared to mine.
We just had a son, so its slowed down a bit, but Im not complaining.”
u/ThatChillGuy_18
3.
I stopped communicating that way to her, and then she’s upset about that.
I can’t fucking win."
u/DernTuckingFypos
4.
I also can’t tell her how much of a hypocrite she is.
Our son is six months old I don’t want him to grow up without a father."
u/lanneretwing
5.
“When I was married, I had suicidal ideations frequently.
Crying in front of her got me an earful of grief about not being ‘a real man.’
So, I did my crying in the bathroom.”
“Also, when I was a stay-at-home dad, we had a two-year-old and a newborn.
I was struggling with keeping up with housework and cooking and all that.
She didn’t understand why it was so difficult.
A couple of years later, when the kids were older, we switched and she stayed home.
She eventually apologized for what she said to me.
I said it was okay, but I never forgave her for that.”
u/Prior_Accident_713
6.
“Im scared of not being able to provide a half-decent life for her and my kids.
Lifes getting so expensive and challenging.”
u/arent_they_all
“I definitely feel you, brother.
I’m only 22, and even I can see significant changes from inflation.”
u/Funkeysismychildhood
7.
“While I love my spouse deeply, I struggle to share my childhood traumas.
The memories are painful and sometimes I feel like shielding her from that darkness.”
I forget that what Ive become numb to isnt always relatable to a lot of people."
u/Gemmedacookie
8.
“Sometimes the things she says to me in arguments break my heart.”
u/justVinnyZee
“I use, ‘When you said X, I heard Y.’
u/Life-Coach_421
9.
But when shes around, hes combative, whiney, rude, and a little terror.”
u/d00deitstyler
10.
“She’s always in the way.
If I’m working outside, she’s always in the next place I’m going to go.
If I’m trying to leave a room, she’s always in the doorway.
u/Lonecoon
11.
“Literally anything that isn’t within the realm of her personal interests.
Otherwise, she clarifies that she’s not interested in what interests me.
u/ChefBillyGoat
“I feel this.
Her eyes just start to glaze over, and I can see she’s mentally checking out.
I end the conversation and go do a chore or something.
She doesn’t ask questions or find gifts that align with my interests.
It’s a little maddening.”
u/IsaacB1
12.
“When she says she feels like I’m not listening, it’s because I’m not.
“I’m very abundantly aware that sometimes she just wants to be heard.
u/Squirrel009
13.
“Deep down, I really just want to be lazy.
u/LeutzschAKS
“I feel this one.
Im only happy when Im sitting on my ass.”
u/jordanmc3
14.
“That she almost ended the relationship.
I spent years raising her children as my own.”
u/YYC-Fiend
15.
Meanwhile, the entire house is her canvas for heraesthetic.
It makes me feel really lonely and small sometimes, and she doesn’t care.
u/Kimblethedwarf
16.
In reality, Im praising the lord for a day or two alone.”
Id go play cards once a week if I could!”
It’s some of the best sleep I’ve had since she started snoring super loud many years ago.
Once we recover, I don’t know if I want to sleep together again.”
u/c_c_c__combobreaker
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