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Breakups are really tough.
It can be so, so hard to realize that the relationship you’re in has run its course.
Sometimes, though, you’re able to pinpoint that exact AHA!
moment when you stop and think, “Yeah, I’m done.”
I am genuinely so goddamn proud of them for cutting off these walking red flags.
Here are 17 of the stories they shared:
1.
“He was in a club when I went into labor.
I had been showing signs for days, but he still went.
When I said I was leaving, he told me I should fight for our relationship.
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2.
“I was with a guy for 10 years, and we had a 6-year-old daughter at the time.
I suspected cheating after he started spending more and more time away from home.
On one of his days off, he took our daughter to an arcade.
He had his girlfriend hang out with them!
It was hard adjusting at first, but I’m so glad we’re not together anymore.”
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3.
“I was with my (now ex) boyfriend for over two years at this point.
For me, it was a good way to stay connected and show I was thinking about him.
So, I sent a pic and joked about how this was such a cool dog and setup.
His response was, ‘Why would I care, its not my dog.
I dont get why you send me stupid stuff like this.'”
I ended things a few weeks later.
I have no time for people who shame me for having joy and excitement for life.”
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4.
“My mom and dad were both in the hospital at the same time.
I could have cried from his compassion.
“I was absolutely dumbfounded.
When he packed up for Florida, he asked me how I could throw everything away over this.
Seriously?!?!
He really thoughtIwas overreacting!”
It was pretty traumatic for me and my coworkers.
I called my ex after my shift to tell him what happened and how upset I was.
Once I got home, I told him it was over.
I didnt get his food, either.”
“I was dating someone when I was mid-20s who was very financially irresponsible.
I had been done for a while, but that was it.
“My husband was always buying things and then hiding the bills when they came in the mail.
I found out after a year that he had bought a fishing boat for his best friend.
I accidentally found a letter stating they were going to repossess it.
The last straw was when he bought a racehorse and I found out from someone else.”
“Id been dating this guy for a couple of years.
I was divorced with two young children.
He bought the house.
Then he got a dog.
OK, we all liked the dog.
I grabbed our stuff and left.
He married another girl the following year.”
“Back when I was freshly 18, I met someone online, and we ended up dating.
He lived in an entirely different country and, at one point, we talked about getting married.
I realize now that this was unhinged behavior.
We dated for less than a year, but in the last few months, things were really rocky.
We fought every single night for months.
I decided to spend time reading a book and playing a video game I enjoyed.
The other men in question were BOOK and VIDEO GAME CHARACTERS.
I almost ended up packing up my entire life for him, but Im glad I didnt.
I just moved in with my current boyfriend of three years and couldnt be happier.”
One time after a big fight, I said, ‘Not this time!’
It washisturn to make things right for once.
I was going to wait and see how long he would continue not speaking to me.
It was a whole month!”
“I couldn’t take it anymore, broke down and did the usual fixing.
I realized he was SO prideful that he would let our relationship completely implode before apologizing or fixing it.
I was never going to be important enough.
I left him six months later.”
“I was with my husband for 10 years, and we had one daughter.
That was the moment I knew this person did not care about me.”
We divorced shortly after this."
“My last straw was on Mothers Day.
Two days before, wed had a small argument.
I got back around 6:30 p.m., and he completely ignored me, so I didnt press the issue.
The next day was Mothers Day.
My daughter and I were up long before him.
He finally came downstairs and wished me a happy Mother’s Day.
I thanked him, thinking this was the start of us getting over the petty argument.
He sat for a moment, then said, ‘Ive already been speaking to somebody else.'”
I told him to watch our daughter because I needed to be alone in another room for a minute.
I left the room furious and heartbroken, so I texted my mom straight away.
I knew that was the final straw for me.
My mom rang straight back, and we talked about it.
His response was, ‘Youve told your mom already?’
All I could think about was how fast hed found somebody else.
He paid no mind to the fact that he had to have a job there.
He was always a grump, grousing about everything, being mean to the children, and selfish.
I still feel guilty about what they must have gone through."
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16.
I was in the worst pain, crying and throwing up all night.
My mom had to drive me the following day because I could barely see.
He sulked and hung up on her."
I was DONE with his tantrums.
A week later, I broke up with him (much to his shock).
For me, it was a long time coming, and I felt only relief."
17.And finally, “It was the very beginning of me seeing this guy.
We had talked for three weeks, then it progressed into going on dates for another three weeks.
He and I had slept together about a month and a half into everything.
I stayed at his place which was at his moms house a few times.
They did not allow overnight guests unless they had met them prior.
On the day he was supposed to meet them, he said his mom got sick.
Then, it quickly became an emergency where she had a seizure.
I asked if he needed me to come be with him, which he declined.
About a week after the incident, we arranged for him to meet my parents again.
I immediately cut it off.”
So thanks, Derek, for being a walking red flag!"
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