Men: Can’t live with ‘em, can’t live without ‘em.
Sometimes, it ends well, and other times, it’s just a complete mess.
kindly proceed with caution.
“I messed this womans life up.
Its been over a year since I broke things off, and she still talks about me to coworkers.
She told me how much she missed me, and I knew at that moment it wasnt the money.
I know how much it sucks to have love for someone not being returned.”
Hell, I had talked to divorce attorneys, but ultimately, I just couldnt.
I hate myself for it.
I hate that I cheated on my wife.
I hate that I lost my affair partner as my best friend.
I hate that I hurt two people who I supposedly loved.
We fell in love, were extremely compatible, and the sex was the best Ive ever had.
There was a deep connection there unlike anything Ive had before or since.
My wife found out, and we are working through it.
I’m doing better now as a husband and a father.
u/1Hugh_Janus
2.
“Two of my coworkers were involved in an affair.
She was single and he was married.
He was able to save his marriage, and he started to ignore her at work.
It’s all over, but now she’s a single mom and everything is great for him.”
u/Master_Kenobi_
3.
“She was/is my dream woman.
Every single thing about her was exactly what I was looking for.
I never said anything to anyone.
We got close as friends over the years but never crossed the line in any way.
Both couples got married and had kids.
Still, no boundaries crossed…yet.”
“And then, one day, things seemed different.
Hello and goodbye hugs were closer and longer.
She seemed to want to be by me more.
She said yes, so we made plans to have an affair.
It went on for about six years and I was in heaven.
She never said anything to me, and we still haven’t discussed it over 10 years later.
She would look away when I looked at her.
Any attempts to schedule times to get together were either ignored or turned down.
Eventually, I got the hint.
I don’t think I could ever be with another woman after that.
I guess you’ve got the option to say I got what I deserved.
I never thought I would be a cheater.
I have never cheated before or after I wasn’t that punch in of person.
There was just something about this one woman that I had to see through.”
u/deplone1
4.
A woman I worked with (seven years younger than me) started to make passes at me.
I finally felt sexy again.
Within a few weeks of our escalating flirtations, we were having sex.
u/Strength-Certain
5.
So I did what a ‘stupid’ man does, and downloaded dating apps.
Then, that festered into using Tinder profiles to fuel a resurfacing porn addition.
Overall, I would NOT recommend cheating of any bang out.
Just be mature and communicate with your significant other about the problems you are going through."
u/CloggedAssassin
6.
I liked sex with her it was new, great, different, and fun.
I wondered if other women were just as good.
Another partner and I met and flirted, exchanged numbers, and agreed to meet.
I didnt feel much guilt at first just very horny.
We started to get to business and then the guilt hit me like a ton of bricks.
She loved me so much."
But I did what I had to do I got up and left.
We didnt have sex, but we did kiss and feel each other up.
But to me, that was bad enough I felt sick to my stomach on my drive home.
I never wanted to see her again ever.
I knew that I would run into this other partner at work.
I dont know how men go through with these things and go home to their families like nothing happened.
I felt so guilty and it showed.
The woman I cheated with and me are both garbage humans.
I do not need to lose my family just to play the field."
u/BodyElectric1334
7.
“I cheated and got caught after a three-year affair.
I was in a sexless marriage for years and there was no love anymore.
Our relationship was cold and robotic.
I met a woman who was also married and in a pretty bad situation as well.
We were really into each other and spent a ton of time together.
Divorce sucks, but I’m a much happier man now.
u/Jawnson765
8.
“She was a mess just like me there were no sensible boundaries.
I think of her with compassion and hope she got herself together and created the life she longed for.
But circumstances would never have allowed us to happen (in a different life, perhaps).
Still, theres no love like the one Ive built with my wife over many years.
Its two different things.
Today, I know the feelings for the woman I cheated with were just limerance.”
u/BrokenEscapist
9.
“I had a spiraling marriage that should never have happened.
She regretted accepting the proposal.
It’s a lot to bear.”
My marriage, her marriage, our post-divorce relationship.
We know what we did and we feel terrible.”
u/dtyler86
10.
And why does he want to ruin the happiness of his wife, people ask?
She admitted she still loves her first boyfriend."
Weirdly, he brings her around to introduce her to us like she is some possession.
I try my best to avoid him I disagree with his way of life.
u/Ren_3092
11.
“She was the greatest person Id ever met.
I had never met anyone in my life who’s made me feel the way she made me feel.
I wanted to put the work in I wanted her to feel special, and it came naturally.
I did cheat and I dont condone that I know it was wrong.
After two years of having an affair, I divorced my then-wife.
This new woman and I had an amazing two years together, and everything just worked so well.
It was a night and day difference from my previous marriage.”
Our time was short, but it was the greatest time in my life.
She was the most amazing woman Ive ever known, and I miss her every day."
u/Adventurous-Hall-424
12.
“Not sure if this is considered cheating, but I do think it’s mentally cheating.
She got fired from her job and seemed content staying home.
She appeared detached from me with her face buried in her phone.
There was no sex, and they barely addressed me when I got home.
I spoke with her briefly.
On that day, it was my birthday and I was in a good mood.
And oddly enough, it was her birthday, too (she proved it by showing her ID).
We exchanged phone numbers and agreed to meet the next day.”
“The next day came, and I was off from work.
So, while I was en route to her apartment, I stopped at this bridge over the freeway.
I saw my girlfriend in the car with her brother on her way home.
She said she worked as a sex worker.
And then it hit me.
I was seriously contemplating still going through with it, but my pride wouldnt let me do it.
And at the same time, I knew I couldnt continue the relationship knowing I had parts in infidelity.
So I went home and the whole thing lingered on my mind for a while.”
u/ConfidentAd9240
13.
“I’m still with the person I cheated with nine years later, and things are great.
I was unhappy in the previous relationship and had been for a long time.
I now have a great relationship with my ex-spouse.
I regularly go to therapy, take ownership of my poor choices, and have grown a lot.”
u/donotello
14.
“The other woman wasn’t a ‘bad’ person.
I eventually left and I lived with the woman I cheated with between my first wife and second wife.
She gave me a son and passed away from liver disease.
I would have never married her we were really toxic together and brought out the worst in each other.
She only slept with her ex and me (that I know of) after her marriage.”
u/SFC_Diablo
15.
“I was in a poly relationship with my wife and girlfriend when I met another woman.
My wife knew about her and was 100% on board, but my girlfriend was not.
I take full ownership that I cheated on her as for this other woman, I loved her immensely.
Way more than I should have, tbh.
I’m sure many people think they know my thoughts, feelings, and motivations better than I do.
u/SelectAirline
16.
Its just too much to ask.
I loved the woman I was cheating with to death, but I couldnt leave my family for her.
In all honesty, I think ‘mistresses’ get the worst deal out of everyone in the picture.”
u/Brilliant_Peanut_774
17.
My auntie was neurotic, he was always working, and neither of them was happy.
He’s the happiest I’ve ever seen him in my whole life."
Luckily, my ex-wife and me had no kids together.
My marriage has lasted longer than my first one, and we have two beautiful kids.
I regret not breaking up before cheating I was too immature, but Im definitely happier now."
u/Longjumping-Search42
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