“Never saying sorry to the kid when the parents make a mistake.”
dumbtrovert
“I honestly never got this.
I apologize to my kid all the time.
Why should they when I won’t?”
They_Are_Against
2.
“Your own children being afraid of you.
No child should be afraid of the person that looks after them nearly 24/7.”
69narcos
“Also, when a parentpurposelymakes their kid afraid of them and is then proud of it.
“faithle97
3.
“Ironically, never thinking you’re a bad parent.”
devon890
“What is WRONG with our son?!
It cant be us, were awesome!”
illustriousocelot_
4.
“Mothers who see their own daughters as competition.”
pizzapocketsogood
“Same with mothers who see their sons wife as competition.”
FrenchynNorthAmerica
5.
7_Rush
6.
“Trying to be your childs friend and not setting structure or expectations or disciplining them.”
Leeser
“‘We dont say no in this household.’
‘Ive been in numerous 504 meetings where the behavioral issue can be mitigated by boundaries.”
Practicing_Anonymity
7.
“Using children as pawns in divorces or separations.”
KarlTremblay
“Alternatively, using the kid as a pawn to keep the marriage together.”
that_guy2010
8.
“Treating your kid as your therapist.”
They had just hit a rough patch and it was really hard on my mom.
I think it can be hard once your children become adults to remember boundaries like that.”
TakethThyKnee
9.
“Zero interest in the kid.
Doesnt care what they do or what happens to them as long as they dont inconvenience them.”
ThalassaAeliana
10.
“As someone who works with elementary-aged kids, being too controlling about everything.
Not just when with your kid but trying to control what your kid is around when you arent there.
(We are a Catholic private school owned by the archdiocese and there are so many restrictions.)”
TheBattyGoddess
11.
“Giving your kid everything they want.”
Expert_Topic5600
“I had permissive parents and am beyond f’d up now.”
sad_gorl69
12.
“Constantly yelling and losing it on your kids.
How are they going to learn about stability and communication with parents like that?”
sPLIFFtOOTH
13.
DeviousWhippet
“That was my brother to me and then me to my sister.
He had to raise me and made a lot of mistakes.
I learned from them.
Then, I had to raise my little sister and I made less mistakes.
He ended up unhoused and addicted to a bunch of stuff.
Now he’s super toxic and a husk of who he once was.
We all struggled with compliments.
Giving them or receiving them.
A_Confused_Witch
14.
“Not showing up for your kids.
DogInner1553
15.
“Blaming the teacher for bad grades.”
iamthemosin
16.
“Being on your phone while the kids are running rampant.
Youre the adult, set the example.
If your children see you thriving outdoors doing sports/activities somehow theyll want to follow your lead.”
But you sure as hell can blame them for treating the children differently based on that.”
SuperPowerDrill
18.And lastly, “Sheltering children from uncomfortable feelings.
You have to let your kids learn to process and handle those feelings.
“This also goes for punishments too.
Nobody likes to make their kid mad or cry.
It’s not fun.
0rangeMarmalade
you might read the original thread onReddit.
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
