“Luckily that life chapter is closed with many lessons learned.”
Breaking up is hard to do, even more so when you’re married.
We recentlyaskedpeople in theBuzzFeed Communityto share how their exes told them they wanted a divorce.
Here are their heartbreaking stories:
1.
“We were about to adopt a cat.
I did cry, but got the cat anyway.”
You eat cookies and ice cream and dye your hair.'
No, not a joke.
That’s how it ended.
Anonymous
3.
“She just moved out and we never actually had a breakup talk.
I didn’t talk to her for three years and then I filed the paperwork to move on.
Best thing I ever did.”
“He falsely accused me of having an affair to ease his guilt of leaving.”
“I was at the vet with the dog and he asked me when I was coming home.
We had only been married six months and I never did get a proper reason for it.”
“We were in a polyamorous relationship for a year with another couple.
I got a call from the other husband that my wife was leaving me for him.
He also broke the news to his wife through text.
We have all since divorced and remarried each other.
It was the best thing that could have happened to me and my new wife and combined family.”
Shania Twinners
7.
“His mother passed away suddenly six months before.
He was a self-proclaimed mama’s boy and I was very young and thought he was a nice guy.
He called me at my new job telling me to come home right away.
I also got stuck paying his taxes that year.
Several friends were at the house when I arrived.
They were as confused as I was; they assumed he had talked to me.
His reason for the sudden end to our marriage?
He was going out in the world to become a famous guitar player.
Instead, he had four more failed marriages.
I was close to his sisters and never got to say goodbye.”
This arrangement was agreed upon after much discussion and weighing the pros and cons.
He would stay in the other country with our dogs until I was established and could bring them.
He kept the dogs and was upset when I stopped sending him money to help with their expenses.
I do miss my dogs though."
Anonymous from North Carolina
9.
“My wife and I dated in college.
We were married when I finished my master’s degree and she completed her college career.
A friend at work brought me some fresh blueberries from her country house.
The family party went well, and everyone enjoyed the pie.
She was ‘working late’ with him for quite a while.
I told her I’d make her choice for her and thought she should leave.
She was pleased as could be.
“When we were married, my ex had a drunken meltdown while my 12-year-old was present.
I had to move out so she and I could get our own place.
He and I tried working on our relationship while living apart.
He called me on our wedding anniversary to call it off.
We ended our marriage over the phone.”
wickedowl243
11.
This was after almost nine years of marriage and while my mom was actively dying.
He refused to have an adult conversation and we haven’t seen each other since.
I know he was dealing with some mental health issues, but I was not expecting THAT.
Needless to say, we are not on friendly terms.”
“I came home from work one day to walk my dogs.
My husband was on the couch drinking.
Apparently, his side piece was hiding in the kitchen.
She attacked me with a knife.
I did more damage to her with my bare hands.
He went after her to check on her.”
Rizzo from Kansas
13.
Heartless…"
14.
“He didn’t explicitly tell me but ghosted me.
Even the bank wouldn’t tell me what had happened.
Luckily, that life chapter is closed with many lessons learned.”
I had just started a new job and couldn’t go with him.
Wow, that one DID come as a shocker.
Again, I had hardly any correspondence from him.
“We sat on separate couches in the living room after I put the kids to bed.
He then trailed off to let me fill in the rest of his leaving me.
After I asked, ‘What about the dog?’
he said he could stay with me for now.
It was his dog, and I still have him eight years later.
That was all on a Tuesday night.
I asked him why, and he said, ‘Because I just do.’
I never really got much of an answer besides that.
“The jerk was ignoring me as if I didn’t exist.
Lia from California
19.
Turns out that was the best paperwork Ive ever gotten.”
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
