“Needless to say, that friendship was over.”
“We were 20/21.
I wasbest friendswith both the bride and groom.
Meanwhile, the other guy hid in her bedroom and she kicked him out after her now fiance left.
I slowly removed myself from the friendships and was kicked out of the wedding party.
I haven’t spoken to either since and it’s been almost 20 years.”
“I quit after the bachelorette weekend.
I calculated what that would cost me and realized I would need to drop another grand.
I was the financially mature bridesmaid.
I could do it, but I was the only one who could without undue financial issues.
I started to worry about the burden on the other bridesmaids and talked to the bride before the bachelorette.
I told her that her friends were struggling to pay for the bachelorette.
“At that point, I thought I was too far in to back out.
But her lack of grace and appreciation during the bachelorette changed my mind.
I told her I would remain a member of the bridal party but was backing out for personal reasons.
She demanded I continue or we were no longer friends.
I saw how she treated her friends.
I saw how little she cared for them and I told her our friendship was over.
I then invested $1000 that I would have spent in the stock market.
I knew that I would at least have a positive return on that.”
Anonymous, Washington
3.
We found out via Instagram stories.
Needless to say, that friendship was over.”
“I was maid of honor in a wedding and my husband was a groomsman.
The bride and I were not close, and it became clear I was to be her wedding planner.
Out of the eight adult women, only two of us had functioning vehicles.
I agreed but quietly wondered why transportation hadn’t been discussed sooner.
mallariec
5.
“I didn’t leave a bridal party, but one of the bridesmaids did.
For an entire year, we all saved up money to buy the dresses.
The bride replaces her.
Her siblings were even confused.
The ceremony goes on and finishes.
We all get into the limo to take pictures in a park.
“I was invited to be the bridesmaid at my best friend’s wedding.
She didn’t touch alcohol and wandered off halfway through the party.
I went to find her and she was making out with another bridesmaid.
pinkwitch80
7.
“I was maid of honor for my older sister’s wedding in early 2023.
Multiple little things started to mess with my head.
I quit so quickly and just sent a gift.”
“Growing up, I had a friend that I went to school with starting in elementary.
We were never super close but knew each other forever.
After we went to separate colleges, we still met up a few times, even after graduating.
She asked me to be a bridesmaid about six months before her wedding, and I gladly said yes.
I was added to the bridesmaid group chat which had been established two years prior.
She sent me the link to buy the dress and to book a hair and makeup session.”
crookedflowers
9.
“I was maid of honor.
I told her I had to use the restroom while she went to get another pair of shoes.
Turns out, she switched the old pair of shoes for a new pair.”
“I was in two weddings after college.
One was a friend from college and the other was my future sister-in-law.
AJ, Pennsylvania
11.
I decided to fly in a day early to get things prepared and be ready.
I had picked the hotel we were staying at for the weekend.
“It was my sisters wedding.
This man was not her groom, and I recognized him as the groom’s father.
He freaked out and confronted them while they were still in the act, and called off the wedding.
Anonymous, California
13.
“I had a friend who was having a destination wedding at a luxury resort in the Caribbean.
It ultimately led to a big falling out and me backing out of the wedding.
Needless to say, we’re not friends anymore.”
My husband and I were trying to get pregnant in the period leading up to the big day.
She knew this and was supportive the few times we talked about it.
Well, we got pregnant.
She said I couldnt be her maid of honor.
She didnt invite me to her wedding.
She showed up in the hospital after my son was born and acted like nothing had happened.
I think she never wanted me there and was pleased to have an out.
L, British Columbia
15.
“I was the maid of honor in my college best friend’s wedding.
The week before, she got blackout drunk and cheated on her fiance with MY boyfriend at the time.
Caught them in MY house and ended things right then and there.
Obviously quit the wedding party and later on, the entire wedding was called off.
She’s still with him.
Its a very toxic situation but theyve got three kids and another on the way.
The fiance moved out of the state and I’ve moved on as well.
No contact from any party, though.”
Despite my reservations about Liz’s unconventional choice, I resolved to support her newfound happiness.
Yet, her clandestine affair left me feeling like an outsider in our once inseparable friendship.
As Liz cautiously introduced Jake into our circle, our daily conversations dwindled to occasional catch-ups.
Her excuses about Jake’s social circle and age-related concerns only widened the growing chasm between us.”
However, it soon became apparent that my role was merely symbolic.
Liz’s delegation of wedding duties to her fiance’s inner circle left me feeling sidelined and disconnected.
Feeling blindsided and undervalued, I confronted Liz about her lack of communication and inclusion in the planning process.
Her dismissive response shattered any illusions I had about the depth of our friendship.
Recognizing that our friendship had irreversibly changed, I made the agonizing decision to step down from the role.
It was a moment of clarity that laid bare the stark reality of our fractured relationship.
In the aftermath, Liz and I drifted apart, our once unbreakable bond reduced to a distant acquaintanceship.
Nicole, Kansas
17.
“I didn’t quit, I was fired.
Finally, she unilaterally announced a dress shopping excursion for a weekend I had a mandatory in-person assignment.
“I was kicked out of the wedding party, but the reason why is bizarre.
It was about a month before the actual wedding and I was one of the bridesmaids.
So, before the wedding, I find out I’m pregnant.
She then tells me I can’t be in the wedding.”
“I’m confused as hell, so I ask her why not.
I carried small the whole pregnancy.
I ended up still coming to the wedding to support her but we don’t talk anymore.
She didn’t even send her congratulations or anything when I had my son.
I had young children at the time and my husband worked weekends.
I called her and asked for a free pass as I had done two out of three.
She laughed and gave me the pass.
She’s still married to number three now going on 24 years and we’re still friends.”
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