He finally proposed, and he asked me how I felt.
He replied, ‘This is a big commitment…’ Not the answer youd want during a proposal."
They shared the heartbreaking signs that their partner actually wasn’t committed that they wish they knew before.
Here’s what they had to say:
1.
“My brother-in-law proposed to his girlfriend with a shut up ring.
He gave her a ring and asked if she still wanted to get married.
He went off camping, alone, with his dog.
He finally broke it off a month before their wedding.”
They are both now married to other people.
My current SIL is definitely a better match for my BIL."
mjjk31314
2.
I thought we both wanted the same thing in the end…we didnt.
Didnt get married until 2019.
Eleven almost 12 years, man one-third of my life!
grimchbettahavemymoney
3.
“Wed been dating about a year.
I had mentioned marriage, but he wasnt feeling it.
I went out to get Taco Bell for lunch and came home.
He pulled out the ring and said, ‘Thanks for the food.’
We lasted eight years.”
dtpapworth
4.
“I was young, around 20, and super naive.
They all lived in his parents house.
I eventually gave him an ultimatum, and my parents said he couldnt live in their house anymore.
I spent days deep cleaning it out and packing up their remaining things for our ‘fresh start.
When he saw me waiting with my things packed, he threw my bags out of the house.
I left, but months later, still reconnected with him.
I realized that I had outgrown this mistake and finally cut him off for good.
I messaged the baby mama and asked if I could go to the funeral.
She said yes, and we cried together there.
I told her that it was time for her to finally be free and focus on herself.
I think about her often.”
vitamincc
5.
A few weeks later, he asked her if he could wash her ring for her.
(He was a neat freak.)
He dropped her ring down the drain and ‘couldn’t’ recover it."
“The ring was uninsured, and he didn’t replace it.
A couple of years later, she broke off their relationship and married someone else.”
EventHorizon1028
6.
“The first sign was that he proposed with a ring pop.
He thought it was hilarious when I started to cry after seeing it was a joke.
Fast-forward a few months, he got me a real ring.
It was being sized, and the jeweler called and told me it was ready.
He freaked that they called me.
Called the store and told them not to give it to me.
We broke up.”
43, Missouri
7.
I always wanted a family, and he never really thought about the future.
I fact-checked, and it was true."
26, Colorado
8.
Right in the kisser!"
34, USA
9.
I left and filed for divorce a week after our first anniversary.
Afterward, they were married, and I began dating someone new.
My ex and I fell into a comfortable pattern of co-parenting."
Not my problem anymore, sweetheart!’
Before hanging up the phone."
50, Michigan
10.
“I’ve struggled with mental health issues since before I met my husband.
He complained that he always knew I would never change.
I asked him why he had married me if he’d always felt that way.
He said, ‘I felt obligated.’
Four years later, that answer still haunts me.”
But I’ll carry that with me for the rest of my life."
32, California
11.
A year into our marriage, he wouldn’t celebrate our anniversary.
66, USA
12.
“First words he said after giving me the ring were, ‘Thank God that’s over.'”
32, Virginia
13.
“My boyfriend kept moving the goalposts.
55, New York
14.
“When I walked in on him banging FIVE chicks at once.
I took the ring off and threw it at him.
One of the girls bit me.
Anyway, I ghosted him on what would have been our wedding day.”
34, New York
15.
Eventually, two months later, he proposed to me.
It was horrible.”
32, France
16.
“He proposed on Christmas the ring was my present.
He was divorced, and I dont think he will ever remarry.
He proposed, I said yes, then nothing.
No excitement, no planning, no talks of actually getting married; he did it to buy time.
But what do you do when you get what you think you want?
You shut up, too.
I never pushed marriage and neither did he.
We lived like that for two years, and then, I was done.”
“By the time I physically left, Id been checked out for months.
I started dating a guy not long after, and it was everything Id been missing for years.
I felt wanted, not a matter of convenience.
We have a fun, caring relationship, and a sweet baby.
39, Tennessee
17.
He finally proposed, and he asked me how I felt.
He replied, ‘This is a big commitment…’ Not the answer youd want during a proposal.”
“Two years later, he tells me he regrets marrying me.
34, Arizona
18.
“I had been dating my boyfriend at the time for two years.
It was my 21st birthday, and he told me he was going to get me something.
We had been looking for apartments to rent to move in together.
He tells me to go get his coat out of his car.
When I get back, I hand him the coat.
He threw it back at me and said, ‘I think there is something in the pocket?’
He then told me to pull it out.
It was a tiny box, I opened it, and it was a cute promise ring.
I got excited and said, ‘What does this mean?’
He said, ‘You know what that means.’
I was so excited that I didnt realize I was never asked.
He just assumed because it was a ring that he didnt have to ask me.”
We ended up eloping because we were moving into that apartment soon.
bethannjauron1
19.
“It was the same day I decided it was time for a divorce.
Then, I came home from work early one night to a note taped to my door.
From my best friend.
Telling him how awesome the night before was, and asking when they can do it again.”
bloodwynne
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
