“Australia is pioneering the use of a home kit for pap smears.
If HPV isn’t detected, you’re okay.
So what the hell did I go through that uncomfortable exam for?!

I couldn’t even stand up straight after the procedure.”
I have a long family history of birth defects and a couple of chronic health problems."'
“Since I was a teenager, I have battled a serious stomach issue.

Every test always ends with the same diagnosis.
It’s a rare disease mostly found in postmenopausal women.
He said it has nothing to do with biology but everything to do with family history.

“I had to have my gallbladder removed due to severe pancreatitis.
After the surgery, I was wheeled back to my recovery room, where my parents were waiting.
Then, the nurse helped adjust my bed to lie down, and I was suddenly in terrible agony.

I felt like my chest was going to burst, and I could hardly breathe.
And, though my surgery was abdominal, the pain was focused in my shoulder and neck area.
I was shaking with tears pouring down my face, and my parents started freaking out.

The nurse starts patting my hand and asking what’s wrong.
Was I anxious about something?
What was making me sad?

“I was told I had HPV from an obstetrician.
I was married and lost my virginity to my husband.
I never went back for follow-ups due to the humiliation and pain.

A year later, I was experiencing health issues and went to PlannedParenthood.
They did an exam and listened to me.
I was properly diagnosed with cancer.

Three months of chemo and losing my opportunity to have children.
If it had been caught earlier, I may have been able to do so.”
I consulted my gynecologist, who was very supportive, but her staff definitely were not.

I bluntly told her that wasnt true; she was taken aback and could only muster an ‘Oh.’
The nurses who came into the room after asked me what my imaginary future husband would want.
I provided them the same bluntness, telling them it didnt matter and I was doing this for myself.

They nodded in unison.
It was so degrading and mind-boggling how women in healthcare were so ingrained with misogyny.
“It took me visiting three doctors all women before I was able to get an IUD.

It wasnt a question of whether or not my insurance would cover it; it did.
She didnt tell me how painful it was to insert, and she didnt offer any numbing medication.”
“30 years ago, I was a single mom with a 7-year-old son.

At that time, I decided to have a tubal ligation.
I told him I had neither.
He seemed confused at my answer.

After a couple of minutes, he finally agreed to perform the procedure.
Anonymous
12.
Of course, it was broken.”

Im in the US in Michigan.
Had she come and said no, he wouldnt have done it.”
“Mybest friendtried to get her uterus taken out due to severe endometriosis multiple times.

Meanwhile, she has two sons, both starting college.”
poisonistic
16.
“Just got my vasectomy and am currently resting up with frozen peas.

The doctor asked me quite a few questions, including how my wife felt about it.
“In 1995, my husband had to sign ‘his permission’ for me to get a tubal ligation.
No clue what the current situation is, but it was a thing at least.”

iwasarealteenmom
19.
“I had my tubes tied after my C-section.
I knew I was having it done.

I signed all the consents and paperwork beforehand.
My doctor and surgeon knew it was happening.
You may want another baby!'

All of this was WITH my partner’s support.
Note: Some submissions have been edited for length/clarity.
