“It used to be considered rude to ask for money as a gift.
They had bridal purses to conceal checks and cash, but the couple never asked for it.
Now, you have people listing GoFundMe accounts for their honeymoon.
Here are the fascinating results:
1.
It was a yucky fruit cake.
So, the fruit cake was pre-cut and wrapped for you to take home as a guest.”
Even as a kid, I didn’t get it.
51, Canada
2. lovelytiger68
3.
“Are thank-you notes a thing of the past?
Out of four cash gifts we sent over the past few years, we received only one written thank-you.
I have spoken to several friends about this, and they have all experienced the same trend.
Not sending a thank you for a wedding gift is just downright disrespectful.”
mushyasteroid21
“I agree.
demoncopperhead
4.
It could be a European thing, but it’s definitely an ‘old’ thing.”
mariset
5.
“It was considered rude to ask for money as a gift.
They had bridal purses to conceal checks and cash, but the couple never asked for it.
Now, you have people listing GoFundMe accounts for their honeymoon.
claudiam434ea2a4b
6.
Another one was that you had to sleep with a piece of your wedding cake under your pillow.”
Miss you, Nanna."
libby77
7.
“I design wedding invitations and used to have a brick-and-mortar store that opened in 2008.
Over the years, things have shifted so much.
Weddings have become more and more a reflection of the couple.”
I love it!!!
Your wedding should celebrate you!"
annie_matronic
8.
“These were the customs in the Midwest where I grew up.
In college, I learned from my friends that there were different customs in other parts of the country.
All the other greats (aunts, uncles, etc.)
Children were never excluded, and there was no dress code.”
“Your parents invited some of their business partners and some neighbors.
All in all, there might be 150 guests.”
70, Illinois
9.
31, Canada
10.“Mints!
What happened to mints?
I never see them, but back in the day, they were a must.
We couldn’t afford that, so we made ours by hand.”
vibranttortoise122
11. luckyangel30
12.
68, New Mexico
13.
People had a little more consideration for their guests budgets."
Plus, multi-day bridal showers and engagement weekends?
Get over yourself."
55, California
14.
“Fifty years ago, in 1974, we never sent out save-the-date cards.
We just let people know by actually talking to them.”
“Also, my husband and I walked down the long church aisle together.
I didn’t want anyone ‘giving me away.'”
pastellight93
15.
“I was never allowed to loosen my tie or remove my jacket unless the groom did it first.
53, Ohio
16.
Now, people do cupcakes, donuts, or any baked good that’s not a traditional wedding cake.
luckycloud901
17.
No one cared what you wore to a wedding even if someone wore white.
The expectation was that you dressed nicely.
It wasn’t a big deal because couples were just happy you came.
“You have a wedding day, not a year.
It wasn’t a big deal if someone brought kids to a wedding.
52, USA
18.
“Gifts were opened at the reception, which was not quite so much of a party.”
66, Tennessee
19. Who comes up with this stuff?”
46, Georgia
20.
“I got married in the ’80s in the UK.
The norms were: Invites read something along the lines of ‘Mr.
grumpyship541
And finally…
21.
“I dont think it was a rule but more of a belief system.
The wedding day was only the beginning of a lifetime.
The day was less important than the days that followed.
We were also careful not to spend more than you could afford.
We got married on under $500.”
“We have good memories of the day, and we have been together for 38 years.”
59, Minnesota
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