“It’s my mothers default response whenever she doesnt like what Im saying.”
Note: This story discusses sexual and emotional abuse.
Here’s what they had to say below:
1.
“Sibling rivalry that goes unchecked by parents.
Man, I can’t believe how common/ignored sibling abuse is.
Neglectful parents plus unruly children is a recipe for disaster.”
“Harnessing therapy speak to absolve oneself of accountability.”
u/Comfortable-Ear-9186
“My favorite example is the misuse and manipulation of boundaries.
For example, a real boundary: ‘I don’t feel safe around you when you drink.
If you are drinking, I cannot be around you.’
A fake boundary: ‘You are not allowed to drink around me, I don’t like it.’
u/Em29ca
3.
“Mothers who treat their sons like surrogate boyfriends/husbands.
“Invalidating your feelings by making it about them and how you holding them accountable is upsetting them.”
Like eff off thats not what Im saying and you know it.”
u/SheepPup
5.“Neglect.
Neglect IS abuse.”
“Manipulation under the guise of caring for what happens to you.”
u/First_Catch_3919
“Love but with conditions.
He can’t celebrate his joy unless it’s with him.”
u/SnatchAddict
7.
“Continuing a certain behavior after the person you are affecting has (repeatedly) asked you to stop.
But-Im-Not-Touching-You-ism is a short route to abusive behavior.”
u/Mullet_Police
9.“Yelling.
Years of walking on eggshells will damage a person’s nervous system.”
Basically, abusers will poke and prod their victim so much until their victim has an explosive reaction.
u/BatmanandReuben
11.
“Commanding both parties finances.
“Gatekeeping hygiene and not teaching your child about normal hygiene and personal care.
I didnt even realize it was a common thing with narcissistic parents until recently.”
u/HealthyInPublic
“I’m realizing this as an adult.
Or how to cook.
Thankfully, the Internet has been invented.
u/elcasaurus
13.
“Messing with someones sleep.”
“Stonewalling a partner.”
u/enjoycryptonow
“Being on the receiving end of this, this is physically painful.
u/acct4dumbQs
15.
“Driving recklessly with you in the car.”
“Telling a child how they should feel: ‘You should be grateful.’
‘You should be happy.’
‘You should be sorry.’
It shows the child just how little the parent actually cares about their feelings.
The child is just a doll to them that they think they can control.
I will never forgive him for that.”
u/PocketGoblix
17.“Parentification.
“Using personal things someone has told you against them when you are angry.
My husband does this and tries to pretend hes being ‘constructive,’ rather than just cruel.
u/dixiequick
19.
“Not letting people express negativeemotionsbecause it’s ‘negativity.'”
You should be grateful!!'”
u/ITriedSoHard419-68
21.
“Breaking things while angry with their partner/kid (punching a hole in the wall for example).”
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger as a result of domestic violence, call 911.
