“Understand that love is an ebb and flow.
Here are some of the top-voted responses:
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“Resentment is the silent relationship killer.
If you feel it, talk about it, and be ready to act if your partner feels it.
Once resentment hits a certain point, there’s no recovery.”
u/Bluezephr
2. u/baltinerdist
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“Marriage is a team sport.
It’s you and your spouse on one team, and everything and everyone else on other teams.
“It’s also important to remember you’re a team if/when you ever have kids.
Its you and your spouse against the enemies.
Tiny, adorable, helpless enemies determined to suck every ounce of energy from you.”
u/DirtyMerlin
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“Understand that love is an ebb and flow.
Some days you wont feel so in love with your partner, and thats OK.
This is normal in long-term relationships, and it passes with the right person.”
u/no_tori_ous
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“Nothing makes me more uncomfortable than people shit-talking their partner in public.
It’s one thing to tease and playfully poke fun at each other’s foibles with friends.
But the dirty laundry must be aired privately in a safe and supportive environment.
I hate seeing someone get publicly embarrassed by their partner.”
u/SnuggleBunni69
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“Don’t shame your partner for walking away when their emotions are getting too high.
They may not be ignoring you or dismissing you, but trying to wrangle their emotions.”
u/StarFighter-51
8. u/Amarminalie
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“Throughout marriage, you and your partner with inevitably change over time.
It is important to make a conscious effort to adjust and change together.
Be flexible and learn to bend some as rigidity leads to breaking.”
u/Kinda_Ok_Upstairs
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“Any qualms we’ve ever had usually stemmed from one of us not communicating effectively.
u/Luke5119
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“Something I learned after 25 years: ‘Tell me what you think I said.’
So many fights happened because he ‘heard’ something other than what I said.
Hearing is NOT the same as listening.”
u/foureveralways
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Even if you think nothings wrong.
It helps with communication, keeping trust, and intimacy.”
u/AllLemonsNoLemonade
14. u/PromiseMental275
15. snufflepupagus
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“You dont have to do everything together; explore your own interests.
Time to yourself is good and allows you to enjoy the things you do together.”
u/Unique-Student-9955
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“Don’t ever stop falling in love and dating your partner.
Keep doing the stupid things that made you laugh until your stomach hurt.
u/Mizerooskie
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That way, you catch the small things that can begin to snowball into bigger things.”
u/History_Obsessed
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My wife and I constantly just blurt out ‘happy’ when we are enjoying a good moment.”
u/BadWookie
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If we dont communicate about it, its likely to be put off.
Not because we dont want to have sex life just gets in the way.
You go to bed, and its like, ‘Should we do it tonight?
No, I’m too tired.
And if youre not careful, it can keep going like that.
Communication lets you both know what to expect and allows everyone to get in the right headspace.
Sex is more frequent and, in my opinion, better when you talk about it.”
u/blewberyBOOM
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“I’ve been married for 20 years.
It’s about really listening and sharing a sense of humor.
And also knowing that the other person’s intentions are good, even if they aren’t perfect.”
u/OddSkill9557
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