“Sometimes, I end up saving lives or marriages.”
This companionship may include sexual favors, depending on the consensual agreement between parties.
“I was working four jobs, then got into a program for my Master’s.
I spent a lot of time talking to potential daddies.'
I hate the term; it’s so infantilizing and creates a huge power imbalance.
It worked for me, but I dont recommend it in general.”
“Sugaring is sex work lite, but with a bunch of emotional baggage and boundary crossers.
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“I’ve been a sugar baby for close to five years.
I met my first sugar daddy on Tinder, and weve been happily together ever since.
Others tried to push my boundaries when it came to using protection.
In general, a lot of these men are expecting tons of attention and emotional labor for very little.
It’s definitely a form of sex work, whether people want to admit it or not.
“In my early 20s I was working full-time, but still mostly broke after paying bills.
I had met an older friend who was an up-and-coming professional and was still closeted because of his career.
It worked out great for the both of us.
He is now very successful, married to a wonderful husband, and has two kids.”
“This was my first and last sugar baby date.
I met a guy who initially told me he was 6 feet tall.
He ended up being 5'5”, if that.
I could look past that height was not the issue.
No sex, just sniffing.
If that’s your thing, OK.
But, when I ask you beforehand what you’re into, maybe mention it!
He just told me he was into the basics.
I made $300 and blocked him as soon as I left.”
“I never really had a sugar daddy or mama.
They all scammed me and I never received actual money from them.
They were so fake and askedmefor money when it was their job to pay me.”
“I’m a bit of a ‘spicy’ sugar baby.
My arrangement is with a wealthy, submissive sugar daddy.
We met through a sugar baby website.
My profile stood out because I’m an aspiring dominatrix.
Much of what we do is the same companionship, shopping, allowances, etc.
What’s special about us is the BDSM aspect.
I’m his domme and he is my submissive.
He wants me to own, control, and dominate him.
I’m happy to oblige!
We play out this consensual, kinky dynamic through scenes, rules, and tasks.
I like to think I’m balancing out the patriarchy and redistributing the wealth.”
“This one sugar daddy ghosted me because I made a joke he didn’t like.
He only gave me $70, and it only lasted a week.”
“Im in the adult film industry.
My sugar daddy went and bought me one.
I dumped him right after.
I never ended up giving that guy any sugar.”
“I used a sugar baby website for about eight months when I needed the extra money.
Honestly, it wasnt that bad.
There was one older guy who tasted like cooked spinach…that was pretty gross.
One guy brought everything he could possibly think of to our meet-up because he wanted to be prepared.
He brought snacks, water, mouthwash, and an extra blanket.
There were a few guys who were interested in someverykinky things.
But, I dont regret it at all.
It was fun.”
“I started sugar dating when my last real relationship crashed and burned.
I still had physical needs, but was hesitant to put my heart on the line again.
I was going to join Tinder for casual hookups, but I found a sugar baby website instead.
And yes, of course I have sex with him.
If sex isn’t something you’re comfortable with, you won’t do well as a sugar baby.
A doctor in the city sent me a swipe note about being a sugar daddy.
He did not reciprocate, and things fell off.
Now I have two new sugar daddies who treat me very well and have completely changed my life.”
“Ive been working as a sugar baby for about a year now!
Its actually my full-time job.
I have an ever-changing rotation of daddies who I see, and they each give me weekly allowances.
I get the pay of two full-time jobs while working no more than 20 hours a week.
Part of that comes with first dates though.
They can be frustrating, boring, or really fun.”
“I was on Seeking Arrangement for a couple of years.
Then, I moved to Taipei and got so many sugar daddies right away.
There was also this super old dude who gave me debit cards to use.
Most of my experiences were short-term.
The long-term daddies kind of freak me out because I dont want it to become a lifestyle.”
“More money, less problems.
No pressures, no promises.
No more ‘I love you’s.’
So worth it.”
I don’t think I can ever go back to normal dating ever again!”
Financially, I’ve been so stressed and I looked into other ways of getting money besides working.
My first sugar daddy was a normal, older guy who took me to dinner and gave me money.
Since my first experience wasn’t bad, I decided to do it again."
“The second guy was much older and married.
I do PPM, which means pay per meet, up front in cash.
I had made it very clear that those were my rules and he’d agreed to them.
I said fine and was going to call it a night.
He tried to save the date by saying he did have the money and showed me an envelope.
I asked for him to open it.
He did, and it was empty.
He alsoverbally harassed meand tried to keep me there.
I had to call a friend and come up with an escape plan.
This man insisted on taking me and going with me I couldn’t shake him off at all!
I told him we weren’t a good match and to leave me alone before I called for help.
I left and drove around for a while to check that I wasn’t followed.
I felt taken care of, appreciated, and respected.
And, theyre not all old, sleazy men that are interested in this key in of arrangement.
I actually had a sugar daddy who was younger than me.
He called himself my sugar cub.”
“I tried to sugar for a bit while in a tough financial spot in 2016.
I didnt sign up for anything like that.”
“I’ve been on Seeking for years.
21.Finally: “Being a sugar baby has its pros and cons just like any situation.
It shows you what you’re really looking for.
It was just for fun.
The relationships with no strings attached were appealing to me.
Fast forward a year, and it’s not so appealing anymore.
Falling in love with a married man is not a pleasant experience.
You realize you’re just a ‘side chick’ to the man you love.
To those who submitted stories, we appreciate your honesty and vulnerability!
Thank you for sharing your experiences.
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
