Some areliving happilyand don’t regret their choice at all.
Here are a few more responses that readers shared:
1.
“My husband and I got together at 16 years old.
He proposed before I went to university.
At school, I made many new friends, but they never seemed to vibe with my fiance.
Fast-forward 10 years later, I no longer speak to that friend.
(Eventually, she got married but is now divorced.)
anonymous
2.
My friends didn’t get that he was and still is my kindred spirit.
“My ex-husband alienated not only my friends but also my family.
He was arrogant and always put my friends, family, and myself down.
I don’t think he ever said one nice thing to anyone in my life.
He would brag to his friends about how awful he treated me.
I went out one night with my friends and got home around 11.
I still don’t know what I was thinking.”
“During my first year of college, I became really close friends with my roommate.
We told each other everything.
I started dating this guy, and as soon as my roommate met him, she hated him.
She made fun of him and tried gossiping about him behind his back.
I broke up with him about a month later.”
“I’m the friend.
She is still with him 20 years later.
I’ve stepped away from the friendship.
He lies, cheats, and is a general scumbag.
She is depressed, in therapy, and on meds but refuses to cut him loose.
The constant drama is exhausting.
My pity has worn thin.
“Ive been best friends with my bestie for 26 years.
We grew up together and experienced so much of lifes ‘firsts’ with one another.
I love her more than I can describe and consider her my sister.
There has only been one time that weve really fought with each other.
It was so insane that I couldnt keep my mouth shut, and we hashed it out.
It is still the only time weve ever fought or been angry with each other.
Years later, she admits how crazy the whole situation was and doesnt hold any resentment toward me.”
“I met my now-husband when I was 18 in my first semester of college.
My best girlfriend from ninth grade was going to a different university.
“I met my current boyfriend online.
He was also distant cousins with her boyfriend (very small world).
The relationship was tumultuous.
“My best friend married a guy who was embarrassed of her.
They had different social circles, he was heavy into drugs, and he eventually became a cop.
They divorced after a couple of years after he cheated on her.
Safe to say, our friendship suffered during that time.”
Long Linda
11.
“I had a large but very close group of friends during college.
Theyd be cold and unkind to her, but we could never understand why.
The last time we spoke was when they chose not to come to my wedding at the last minute.
No call, no show.
They just…didnt come.
It turns out we got on each other’s nerves because we had different manifestations of the same disorder.
We get along a lot better now.”
skimcrab626
13.
“Most of my friends approved of my S.O.
I ended up cheating on my S.O.
with a friend, and we’ve been happily married for eight years.”
She became toxic, and the relationship turned abusive.
Years later, she’s incredibly toxic.
The last time we spoke, she blamed me for not being there for her in her hardest times.
Needless to say, we are not friends anymore.”
Parisien Mama
15.
Even her best friend tried to warn me that she was just going to hurt me.
The longer we were together, the more my friends stopped coming around.”
“So, essentially, we started dating in high school.
I still liked him because he promised it would never happen again and was perfect otherwise.
“I met my best friend in kindergarten when we were 5 literally 49 years ago this August.
She married a narcissistic asshole, and I’ve never liked him at all.
He is a blowhard and a condescending mansplainer on his best days.
She stays with him because that’s what she believes she deserves.
It breaks my heart.
All I can do is be there for her.”
“It ended in a divorce six months into the marriage.
He also tampered with my SUV, which blew up my motor on a brand-new car.”
“anonymous
19.
Twenty years later, when I was ready to divorce him, she gave me the money to file.
Six years later, I was fleeing into the night with my barefoot 5-year-old daughter and nothing else.
Oh, and I think I’ve met the love of my life!
:)”
21.
My friends and family disliked him.
My best friend forbade him from coming to her home ever again.
We eventually decided to elope and only have my best friend and his brother there.
“My best friend and I have been friends for over 20 years.
She and her sister met my ex and INSTANTLY did not like him.
They thought he was a bum, and that I could do better.
If you or someone you know is in immediate danger as a result of domestic violence, call 911.
