Before I became a parent, I had never realized that there weresomany theories about childraising.

Should I start with purees or go straight to baby-led weaning?

And like all things in life, parenting trends come and go in popularity.

Macaulay Culkin as Kevin McCallister in "Home Alone," with a shocked expression, both hands on his cheeks

So I gathered responses from theBuzzFeed Communityaboutparenting trendsthat they strongly disagree with.

Here’s what they said.

“Parents never let their children be bored.

A young child runs joyfully through a field with dandelions, holding a stick, surrounded by trees

When my daughter complained about boredom, I gave her some chores.

She learned to embrace boredom, which is not entirely a bad thing.”

“Making parenting about you.

A child sleeps peacefully in bed, cuddling a stuffed animal. The child is in patterned pajamas and rests with a yellow pillow and blue cushioned headboard

Because of this, her kids are extremely self-absorbed.”

Anonymous

3.

“Parents giving their kids melatonin to help them sleep.

A kid dressed up as an astronaught.

“I hear parents threaten their child to behave a certain way.

‘I’ll take your presents back!’

or ‘We won’t come here ever again!’.

Close-up of a child's foot on a bicycle pedal. The bicycle is pink. The background is blurred, showing a street scene

My neighbor knocked on the door recently with her preschooler.

He needed to surrender a bag of candy to us because he hadn’t eaten dinner.

Wait, wait, wait.

A person takes a photo of a sleeping baby who is lying on their lap in a cozy setting, sitting by a window

Does your boss take away your paycheck when you make a mistake?…”

“…Are we teaching our children to hit when angry or frustrated?

Do you ever dislike a meal or do not feel like eating?

Child doing a headstand inside an open wicker basket in a messy living room. Toys and clothes are scattered around

First, let’s decide on family rules and consequences that are reasonable … ahead of time.

As adults, we know the speed limit.

We know we might get a ticket, and the rule is to keep us safe.

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Children behave well when they understand.”

“Telling your kids they can be literally anything.

They can go to an Ivy League university!

Two children in pajamas standing on stools wash dishes in a bright kitchen with large windows

They can be a movie star!

All you have to do is dream big!

Teaching your kids to work hard and develop their talents is great.

A young child with pigtails is sitting on a bed, covering their face with a blanket. The room has soft furnishings and star decorations on the wall

Parenting should involve conversations around bullying, mental health, basic manners, and sexuality.

It kind of stuck with me.

So, I do the same with my daughter.

A decorated table featuring a butterfly-themed two-tier cake, water bottles, flower decorations, and various boxed treats

If she falls, I let her pick herself back up.

I only intervene if she isn’t safe or truly stuck.

Otherwise, she’s good at problem-solving and figuring stuff out.”

Young girls in ballet class standing on tiptoes, wearing tutus and ballet shoes, practicing arm positions at the barre

“I hate the trend of parents using tracking apps to log baby sleep and feeding.

There is no need to try forcing a baby to eat/sleep.

These apps are maladaptive parenting aids that undermine parental instincts and attunement between parent and child.”

A young girl is sitting at a table, writing with a pencil, looking focused and slightly tired. She is surrounded by papers and appears to be doing homework

Andrea, 41

9.

“I think family vlogging should be illegal.

Profiting off your children ’s lives is disgusting.

A little modesty goes a long way!

“‘Free-range parenting’ is the worst.

My step-cousins were raised like this for the first few years of their lives.

The oldest has just started to learn discipline.

The others still treat people like jungle gyms, break into things, etc.

yo, control your kids.”

“I hate when parents refer to their kids as ‘mini-me.’

It gives me majorick.

Your kids should not be your clones.

Let them be who they are and grow into who they want to be with your guidance.”

“Gender reveal parties!

Its an unnecessary reason for an expensive party.

Share the news intimately with your partner at the doctors office or with family at home.”

“Not allowing kids to be hugged or kissed by grandparents.

Three of my grandkids are loving and warm.

They love snuggling with me.

Touch is an essential human need and provides a much-needed emotional connection.

Unconditional parental love undergirding the parent’s response to their child’s behavior.”

Jerry, 70

17.

“Not teaching kids emotional regulation or how to expressemotionshealthily.

When the emotions extend to poor behaviors, they are normalized.

“Using your ‘past trauma’ as an excuse not to give consequences to your child’s actions.

I’m not going to traumatize my kids like I was as a child.'

You’re rewarding your kids for their bad behavior.”

“Saying, ‘Good job!!!’

“Your four-year-old should not be in activities every day of the week!

I have kids with dance, piano, ninja academy, mandarin classes, and extra math lessons.

“Taking care of tough situations for your kids.

“People who don’t ever allow their kids to be unhappy.

Am I happy doing the grocery shopping plan?

Am I ecstatic about doing the laundry and putting it all away?

Am I ecstatic every day at the prospect of going to work?

Doing things you should probably but don’t like to build resilience and responsibility.

“Not parenting, but rather finding everything else to blame your child’s behavior on.

As a teacher, I see this all the time.

No, we don’t need to screen your 12-year-old for ADHD yet again.

They aren’t listening because you have no consequences.

SpookyB

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