“It would tear the family apart if they knew.”
Here are 25 secrets people will take to the grave.
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*Along with a few from the originalReddit thread.
“I cannot stand my partners children.
We both had two children each before we got together.
His son is an egotistical narcissist, and his daughter is passive aggressive.
Both created by him and his ex-wife.
… Ive just gone silent and plan to leave him after nearly 24 years.
Id rather be alone than with that circus wagon of baggage.”
Anonymous
2.
He had her thinking she was being stalked.
“During COVID I donated sperm to a woman overseas so she could have a child.
She paid for all the stuff, and I shipped it.
They are now raising the daughter she had with my sperm.
I’m very happy I could assist with her journey.
I am married and have two kids of my own and would do it again if asked.
My family doesnt know and never will.”
She had dementia, and they made her get up at night to pee.
She died of complications of the resulting stroke.
He was devastated, but in his mind, he made no connection.
Medical care and drugs were always evil until he needed them.
“I’ve been cheating on my current fiance.
Neglect, being ignored, taking care of a man child, mentally draining years, feeling unattractive.
I thought I was gone as an individual, but I rediscovered myself.
“That my mothers sister was killed by her husband because she was cheating on him.
Everyone knows that, what they dont know is that the other guy was my dad.
It would tear the family apart if they knew.”
“That I was sexually abused as a child by a relative.
A repressed memory that I have just recently remembered.
u/Most-Recording-9835
9.
“My husband is perceived to be a very nice guy.
No one knows that hes almost financially destroyed us repeatedly.
Hes lost five jobs now, all for theft.
I actually was able to fix the situation, which shocks even me.
He spends his time off watching sports…nonstop sports.
colorandfury
10.
“I am a recovering fentanyl addict.
When I was in active addiction, I stole $10,000 from my 89-year-old grandfather.
The guilt and shame I live with because of it is hard.
Im terrified of telling them what I did.
Also, that I continue to be in the swinger lifestyle even after my separation.”
“We are homeless and sleep in the car with my 2-and-a-half-year-old.
I also have two older daughters who stay with us on the weekends.
I save up for hotels as often as possible.
No one knows except the kids.
It’s been 11 months, and there is no end in sight.
(Yes, I have gone to local homeless shelters and agencies seeking help.
I never get a call back.
Just ‘wait three months then do the survey again if no one reaches out to you before then.’
Trust me, they have already tried, twice.
Being a single parent is hard.”
“This was 25+ years ago.
Had it happened today, there wouldve been a much better outcome.
I always got away from him as quickly as possible, leaving the house with no explanation to anyone.
He finally gave up, and I continued to watch and teach their child.
I believed it would ruin them all.
While I debated it, he was diagnosed with a devastating disease.
His wife cared for and supported him until he passed.
“My parents did not want children, so they had two ‘accidents.’
I am the oldest.
My mother ran out on me when I was 7.
I had to take care of my younger sister.
This was a full-time job.
She would sneak out and get drunk while doing drugs at 11.
My father was extremely abusive, both mentally and physically.
He even told me how he wished I had never been born.
I would only see my mother a couple times a year.
She was too busy with her new husband, attending parties while he was a grifter.
She was never there for me.
When we went to visit, it was obvious she really didnt want us there.
I think she did it to save face (as little as that was).
I graduated high school at 16.”
“I now hold six degrees, and my life is pretty normal now.
There are times when I cry that I have no family.
I am not close to my sister.
We are complete opposites (she has been in prison twice for grifting).
All my mother wanted was for me to send her money.
I have not seen my father since I left home.
I ache when I see happy families doing things together.
I wish desperately for a family.
You cant chose your family.
I wish mine didnt keep me.”
“I think my father-in-law is a terrible dad and manipulative partner.
I could never tell my spouse because he sees his dad as his ‘hero.’
But the way this man treats his children is heartbreaking to watch.
They keep giving him more chances, and he proves me right at every turn.
I also believe that his treatment of my mother-in-law contributed to her dying by suicide.
I can feel myself get physically tense when I’m in the same room as him.
Oh, did I mention he currently lives with us?”
… My kid is literally my only anchor for sanity.”
u/Necessary-Buffalo288
17.
“The reason why I didnt cry much when my father died.
I remember comforting my mom when she was bawling over his passing.
You just lost your dad!
I should be the one comforting you!'
I didnt have the heart to tell her Id already mourned him years prior in middle school.”
We hadnt seen each other in years because my mom moved us across the country.
One day he had called our house, and I answered.
He asked for my older brother, but he paused and asked who he was talking to.
I told him it was ‘Jynx,’ and he didnt know who I was.
I cried the rest of the night.”
u/Jynxed_Storyteller
18.
“I’m still affected by the wreck I got into a while back.
My parents are super Mormon and only accepted my asexuality because they thought it was just for attention.
If they found out I like girls and guys, theyd freak out.”
“That Im asexual.
I even get uncomfortable when there are kissing or sex scenes on TV or movies.
“I reconnected with my high school boyfriend after 33 years.
We are both unhappily married for 30 years.
The pure love is incredible, and the sex is spectacular.
We plan on leaving our spouses this spring and getting married ASAP.”
“I’m considering abandoning my family entirely.
u/CatThrowaway95
23.
“I’m terrified of the cops.
I lie awake at night and worry about this so much my doctor put me on an anti-depressant.”
They deny it, but I secretly know they do.
Theyve given my brother the family business and excluded us from it.
On top of that, hundreds of thousands of dollars and housing.
They always praise him and kiss his ass when were all together which is rare.
They act like its always been equal, but its a complete lie.”
u/Upstairs-Ad-2521
25.And finally… “My wife and I are polyamorous.
No one in our extended families, besides my wife’s sister, knows.
Neither of our parents would understand, and my brother would be weird about it.
We have kids who are toddlers.
They know my wife’s boyfriend as ‘Uncle.’
Eventually, the truth will come out.
I feel a kid will say something down the road.
But right now, we’re just living our lives with as little disturbance as we can muster.”
u/PraetorCorvinus
Submissions have been edited for length/clarity.
