“STOP TALKING ABOUT YOUR EXES ON FIRST DATES.”
First dates are all about first impressions.
Weaskedmembers of theBuzzFeed Communityto tell us about red flags they’ve noticed while on a first date.
Here are their responses:
1.
I babysat her while he devoured his Chick-fil-A.
I bolted as soon as I could."
rachadach23
2.
Theyll drop you for anyone else who looks the same or if anything about you changes."
oceanraynewolf
3.
“He told me a story about traveling in South America.
Great, I love a well-travelled person.
Then, he said he contemplated eating human flesh while he was there.
Nope nope nope.”
carolines4f3e1a91c
4.
“If theyre late for the first date, it shows a lack of consideration for the other person.
Anonymous
5.
“Last time I was asked on a date, we didn’t even get to the actual date.
I replied yes, coffee was still on, and all was well.
He proceeded to send three more messages with the same question at similar intervals.
He cancelled the date and blocked me within minutes.
“Dude, you are in your 30s and a grown adult.
Pestering people is never a good look, and I called you out on it.
The solution would be to apologize and stop the behavior so everybody can move on.
Or, youâre able to also choose to be dramatic, I guess.
That was supposed be my first date in over four years!
meaganhibbert1
6.
Meeting up and being like ‘What now?’
is no good.”
The bartenders did recognize him, however they seemed to be going out of their way to avoid him.
As a server passed by, he reached out to physically grab her and she recoiled.
It was just painful to watch, and I promptly excused myself and left.
Obviously he didnt treat staff with respect, and thats a maaajor red flag for me.”
yesbutalsonoway
8.
“Red Flag: ‘I love your name, definitely something I would name my kids.’
*Proceeds to tell me all the other names he wants to name his future children.
*”
avechisholm
9.
“HE BROUGHT HIS CAT ON THE DATE.
Needless to say, I didn’t.”
“Wanting to get too serious too quickly is a red flag.
‘I want to show my mom a picture of us.’
“I went out with this guy for like two weeks.
I got up, said thank you, went home and blocked his number.
I never saw him again.”
“If they challenge everything you say…red flag.
karzeen
13.
“He talked about herpes for 30 minutes.
He did not have herpes, but he discussed it for quite a long amount of time.”
willowred
14.
They were focusing on what they were going to say.
Always have a partner that is willing to listen and communicate.”
bexgee
15.
“STOP TALKING ABOUT YOUR EX ON A FIRST DATE MY DUDES!”
“I was in Naples, Italy and went on a date with an Italian guy.
It was so embarrassing.
EVERYONE in the restaurant was watching and I was sitting there turning red.
I even voice recorded it!
It was ANOTHER full-on fight.”
ybbag
17.
“Ordering for, or assuming orders for the other person is a red flag.
“I called a guy over to my place for a hookup.
We had been flirting over Hinge for a while and he seemed pretty cool.
He came over and it was going somewhat well.
But, then he said he needed to chant while he took off every item of clothing.
Underwear to socks every item got a chant.
He kept calling me his angel and tried to start very personal conversations about how he hated his mom.
I believe that was my last random hookup.”
hiitsnicetomeetyou
20.
I had never met him before.
I didn’t know these things!
He also wanted to play two truths and a lie and the winner got to ask truth or dare.
He said, ‘If I won, I would’ve dared you to kiss me, obviously.’
He also tried high-fiving me a few times.
AND, he wanted to take a walk after dinner.
It was pouring rain with thunder and lightning.”
“It was a first date from a dating app.
When I get to the restaurant, hed already ordered and had started eating.
jcd3811
22.
“So many red flags!
We met at a coffee shop one evening after I got out of work.
He paid the barista in cash and tossed coins down on the counter (not cool, bro).
He was awkward throughout the date, but things got super weird when it was time to leave.
He REALLY wanted to come back to my place with me and ‘hang out.’
“He told me his feet were soft because he used Vaseline.
He then took his shoes off and rubbed his foot on my leg as a demonstration.
I was mortified!”
“I met a guy on an app.
He was fun to talk to and seemed very chill.
He asked me to meet and said that he could order pizza and we could watch a movie.
I went to his place and the dude didn’t speak the way he texted at all.
He just seemed completely different in person.
I was too polite back then, so I stepped up.
We proceeded to have the most dull conversation ever.
He then tried to move in for a kiss.
I stopped him and said I would leave if he thought that’s all I came over for.
He apologized and said he felt like there was a ‘moment.'”
“As the evening progressed, he tried it again.
I stopped it again, and then he asked why I can’t just kiss him.
Later that week, he kept insisting that I invite him to my place.
I texted him straight-up that I didn’t feel the vibe and was not comfortable continuing things.
I blocked him, but he found me on another platform and called me lame for blocking him.
I reported him on all the platforms I could find.
I wasn’t allowed to talk during it because I would ‘ruin the song’ if I interrupted.
Those should’ve been my red flags, but I stayed because I was young and naive.
It made no sense and was actually quite awful.”
“To top the night off, he leaned in and told me he had a secret.
He then read it to me.
You should trust your instincts.”
26.Finally: “I went on a date with a guy I met on a dating app.
We had hit it off initially through texts and phone calls.
When we met up it felt seamless, as though we had known each other for a while.
We did some shopping and then had a late lunch.
I noticed that he brightened when he saw the hostess who sat us.
Things were going well until after he ordered food and excused himself to the restroom.
But, then he returned and had a totally different vibe.
He hurried through the meal and seemed less energetic.
When we were done, he made some lame excuse about having to get home soon.
When we left he and the hostess exchanged a weird glance.
I truly think they hooked up in the restroom or something.
Needless to say, we parted ways and I never heard from him again.”
jeanettec439d752da
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
