Here’s what people revealed:
1.
“His mother told me not to marry him.
Three years later, I finally realized she was right and got divorced.

She knew her son better than me.”
u/SceneNational6303
2.
“He got arrested on our first date.”

u/AngelicAdornn
3. u/vstacey6
4.
“We went to move in together, and he wasn’t packed come moving day.
We didn’t work out.”

u/OneLifeThatsIt
5.
After all, we hung out with his brother sometimes, so that was fine, right?
Finally, a family wedding came up, and I met them.

He was furious that I told them we’d been dating for four years.
He wouldn’t let me see them again after the wedding.
We broke up a few months later after he cheated on me.

u/Unitaco90
6.
“Another girl called him on our first date.”
u/ilikedognbarbells
7.

“He still lived with his ‘ex’ girlfriend.
She wasn’t his ex.
He was dating both of us at the same time.

He gave me this big sob story about how he had nowhere to live.
I, being so naive, believed him.”
u/Cute-Hottie
8. u/WhyLie2me18
9.

It’s completely on me for ignoring the blatant red flags in the first place."
u/Gem-Megumi
10.
It was my first ever surgery, and one considered to be an amputation.

Not a single text.
I saw him through the very same surgery years before when we were only college roommates.
Just like he always did.

I’ve never felt as lonely as I did in that relationship.
I will never again date someone who isn’t objectively stoked about me."
u/Former-Finish4653
11.

“His friends told me to stay away from him.
That should have been a giant red flag.
But noooo, it only intrigued me more.”
u/NuclearFamilyReactor
12. u/coldbrwd
13.
“He lived at his apartment for six months but had no furniture.
Yet, he spent our whole date bragging about how much money he had in the bank.
His excuse was he ‘hadn’t gotten around to it’ because he works a lot.”
u/Pawsoverpeople
14.
“He used to compliment other women in front of me.
Not like, ‘You look nice,’ but, ‘Damn, you look fine today!’
or, ‘You have a great body,’ etc.
I knew this wasn’t normal, but he gaslit me whenever I brought it up.”
u/LeaderOk5776
15.
I believed him and forgave him."
u/KuroTenhi
16.
“I once dated someone who never drove to see me for over three years.
I had to drive an hour to see him every weekend.
I felt so alone and heartbroken the entire time we were together.
I was exhausted from working 40+ hours a week and driving so much just to make it work.”
u/Outrageous-Spite-408
17. u/Eveny101
18.
“My ex didn’t know how to cook ravioli just standard, cheap, supermarket ravioli.
He was 25, still lived at home, and his mum did all the cooking and laundry.
His mum also told me she’d had the choice of marrying two men.
“He eventually got married and moved to the town next to mine.
My town is tiny, and I go to his area often.
I bump into his wife occasionally at a mutual interest group.
I knew her through the same group before they started dating.
I want to ask if she’s genuinely happily married, or is it just for show?
Our sons played the same sport a few years ago, and I’d see him every weekend.
He wasn’t a bad guy.
I wanted to break up, but he wanted to try and make it work.
u/Buttercup23nz
19. u/Minute_Meal4837
20.
“After being exclusive for a few months, he casually scrolled Tinder.
He was so confused why I would be upset.
He said I never said ‘no Tinder.'”
u/PuzzleheadedTie8752
21.
I confronted him, and he said, ‘Oh, I’m just her friend.’
Turns out they had been married for years.”
u/caritasticnumbaone
22.
He also wrote me a detailed letter calling me every awful word he could think of.
I dated him for five more years and was married to him for another four.
Then, I got therapy and left him.”
u/Amazing_Ad_1693
23.
“Any health issue I had was all about him.
It’s messed up, actually, when I look back on it.”
u/Wheredounicornsgo
24.
I said, ‘Nah, don’t say that,’ for another year.
u/Leavemelonely1
25.
“He liked memes about cheating on Instagram.”
u/Mulberry888
26. u/Johnthebolt
27.
“She was always furious at something.
Sometimes, it would be her dad, mom, friends, or work.
Then, for seven years of marriage, it became me nearly constantly.
Towards the end, I realized she was just angry at herself and projected it on everyone else.
She refused to change, so I refused to be treated that way anymore.”
u/snipesjason64
28.And: “She told me she’s very manipulative.
Turns out she’s very manipulative.”
u/Ganda1fderBlaue
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