“He remained active on dating apps after we started dating.
We were together for three years.”
Reddit userSelect_Example_794asked, “Whats THE secret you discovered that made you leave your ex?”
People quickly began spilling shocking secrets in the replies.
Here’s what they revealed:
1.
“He was married with a son.
I took the train home immediately.
He was also not 21, he was 30.
Guy was a bellend.”
u/ConsistentAd3146
2.
“He had a kid he never told me about from a one-night stand before meeting me.
Color me surprised when he was out of town, and I found child support payment forms.
I confronted him, and he said, ‘I was going to tell you this week!’
The kid was 3!!!
And his whole family lied to me, too.
No one said a word the four years we were together.
He missed the start of his child’s life so I wouldn’t be mad.
u/slumberpartymassacre
3.
All the while, his buddy made sure his record stayed clean.
By the way, that buddy passed away due to a DUI a few years ago.”
u/tklishlipa
4.
I got suspicious and messaged her.
u/Quik_Brown_Fox
5.
“My ex-husband was having his fourth affair (that I know of) and told my then-13-year-old-daughter.
He told her he’d never speak to her again if she told me or anyone else.
u/burnmeup82
6.
“He charged over $150k on credit cards behind my back.”
u/vpblackheart
7.
My girlfriend said we never fought because she didn’t care enough about me to fight about anything.
u/ravenssettle
8.
The real reason was that he failed a class by not going to it for three months.
He was telling me lies the whole time.
He told me and his parents the truth the day before graduation.
To top it off, he was in his fifth year of college and had already failed multiple classes.
All he had to do was get a C-!”
u/dyinginurbana
9.
He wrote about ‘her beautiful grey eyes.’
My eyes are green.
I gathered all his stuff together while he was at work and kicked him out the same day.
He said because he hadn’t done anything physical, he thought it ‘didn’t count’ as cheating.
But he wasn’t in a relationship with me realistically.
He was in a fantasy relationship with her.
I was just his meal ticket."
u/IntellectualKinkster
10.
It was the first piece of ‘real’ jewelry I had, and I cherished it.
I wore it daily, except when showering or doing dishes.
I would put it safely in my ring box.
One day, I couldn’t find it and absolutely panicked.
A week later, his sister’s wedding ring went missing.
He STILL denied it, but the pawn shop cameras showed otherwise."
u/justalittledonut
11.
We had just returned from a holiday for our anniversary and moved in together."
u/Gartholamewd
12.
“He lied about getting tested and treated for the chlamydia he gave me.
He admitted that he never went when I asked, so I told him I was done immediately.”
u/Lucifrene
13.
“The guy she was cheating on me with found out about me.
He found me at a bar, told me about it, and bought me a drink.
I immediately got on the phone and broke up with her.
I was about to get an apartment with her and dodged a bullet.”
u/detectivedueces
14.
“He remained active on dating apps after we started dating.
We were together for three years.”
u/Strange-Clerk5111
15.
“The coworker he was worried I was attracted to?
He later regretted it and said the grass isn’t always greener.
I’m glad I stayed on my side of the lawn.
A partner should never have to feel insecure about you going to your job.”
u/DelightfulSerenade
16.
Months later, I discovered she never applied to any jobs out of fear of rejection."
u/Th3_Accountant
17.
I guess my mom being white meant I was ‘passing enough’ for him.
He actually thought I was joking when I packed my stuff and left."
u/Saltynut99
18.
“He had an affair with my cousin.”
u/yukimozz
19.
“A few things happened at once that helped me end the relationship.
On there, he would repeat whatever right-wing alpha-male rhetoric he could find.
He thought it was funny.
u/zoebadwolf
20.
I learned the hard way.”
u/LuxurtyTravelAdvisor
21.
I was still a minor at the time.
The tape starts before I even enter the house!
He was a compulsive liar, and that was the last straw for me."
u/winonaworm
22.
He said he thought it was more compelling.
I only learned about it when his mom told me.
I emailed the school he was applying to.
u/Pluto-Wolf
23.
She still believes they have a thing to this day.
I didn’t know about it until around four years into the relationship.
Things didn’t last much longer after that."
u/Kitchen_Priority_825
24.
“He left his phone at my place and asked me to bring it to him.
I still don’t know why, but I opened it (no passcode).
He’d left the text message with a picture of another woman’s vagina on it.”
u/Brilliant_Wait_3266
25.
“He left his alternate email open on our shared computer.
It was the email account he used to hook up with random people on Craigslist.”
u/t3hshoe
26.
“I wanted to surprise her by picking her up from work and taking her out.
He intentionally planned his wedding for when I would be on vacation in Greece.
That’s how he was able to pull it off.
u/TaylorSplifftie
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