“A friend of mine once said: Men have to assess IF there is danger.
Women have to assess HOW MUCH danger there is.”
Here’s what they shared:
Warning: Post contains mention of sexual assault and harassment.
u/inkiwitch
2.
“IUDs are inserted without any kind of anesthetic.
If you’re lucky, they warn you to take some Advil beforehand.
Then, they grab your cervix with metal tongs and force it open.”
It was the most pain I’ve ever been in.
‘A pinch and some pressure’ my foot."
u/ConnasaurusRex
3.
“Feeling a fart roll up your vulva in the front.”
u/whatadoorknob
4.
“Discharge can bleach underwear.
Not stain, actually remove color.”
u/milka-maple
5. u/LikeTotallyZero
6.
“You’re standing in a busy bar and someone wants to pass you.
u/german1sta
7.
Often, even your ‘no’ answer isn’t good enough.
I haven’t had a uterus for 21 years.
Doesn’t matter, I’m still getting a pregnancy test because ‘patients lie.'”
u/candimccann
8. u/fieldsofjade
9.
“The number of women who have suffered sexual abuse at one point or another in their lives.
It is absolutely unbelievable to me, although I know its true.”
u/CavediverNY
“Came here to say this.
The math aint mathing.
Trying to explain this to most men I know is baffling.
They absolutely do not believe me.
And, people wonder why so many rapes go unreported.”
u/merlinshairyballs
“Id like to add sending D pics to this.
The servers at my restaurant get random D pics all the time.
Where does this inclination come from?”
u/Green_Agency3208
10.
“Cuddling/physical affection from our platonic friends.
Regardless if you crave non-sexual/affectionate touch, I hope you find it and that it is healing to you.
It will make your life so much richer in a multitude of ways.”
u/Puremerr
11. u/km6669
“Sharing the Uber ride is another one.
I once had a driver really bungle the instructions and go a weird way to get me home.
u/CenterofChaos
12.
“Professionally speaking: getting dismissed, ignored, or overlooked, usually in favor of a man.
I work in IT and was trying to set up a new phone system.
I sent an email asking a question and it was ignored.
He sent an email asking the same question and received an immediate answer.”
“My boss’s jaw just dropped.
Until that moment, he thought it was something that only happened in theory.
It actually blew his mind that it was real.”
u/Sassysinister
13.
We aren’t super-human in our ability to locate things or replace something before it runs out.
It’s from years and years of training and conditioning.
Everyone is certainly capable of it, but the responsibility is largely set on women.”
when we get older, as an excuse for why we should continue to do these things."
u/asylumgreen
14.
“Men can say, ‘I want a baby’ or ‘Lets try for a baby!’
and only have to orgasm for that to happen.
Some moms dont lose the pregnancy weight.
Some moms have severe PPD.
Some moms bodies never fully bounce back.
And, there’s way more after the baby is born.”
u/acid-cats
“Related: how common miscarriage is.
We were almost in the second trimester.”
u/ConstantSalad152
15.
“Having to be cautious and having coping skills for so many daily situations.
Like, walking home at night and changing the street because someone is walking behind you.
Having your keys between your fingers in case you have to defend yourself.
Faking or actually making phone calls.
Avoiding certain areas that are too dark.
Going different ways to avoid people.
Packing an extra oversized shirt for the way home from a party or club.
Telling a friend and sharing your location when going on a date with someone you don’t know yet.
The list goes on and on…”
u/Leahlein
16. u/PrairieGrrl5263
17.
“Realizing men want you sexually when youre a child.
I think most women realize at a very young age that men see you in a sexual light.”
u/Clementinequeen95
18.
“Loss of bodily autonomy by government action.”
u/ElizabethFamous
19.
I said I always have my ID on me if I leave my apartment.
He didnt understand why I needed to do that just to go for a walk.
So, I explained it would make it easier to identify my body.
He thought I was being morbid."
u/Careful-Nebula9995
20.
“Nonexistent or useless pockets in clothes.”
“How often we would rather have pockets than carry around a purse.”
u/Icy-Pomegranate24
21.
“A lot of us can’t orgasm without external friction.
u/Mommy-dearest724
22.
“How radically menstruation can mess you up mentally.
It was just my period, actually.'”
u/Emilytea14
23.
“A dress that is XXL is an entirely different size than 2X.”
u/RilohKeen
“XL, XXL, etc.
are measured by sizing up from straight sizes.
But, 2XL, 3XL.
are plus sizes and are measured up in size from a plus-size fit model.
Like, they take a plus-size 16 and add a specific amount of fabric to go up each size.
BUT, if you order from Amazon, none of that matters.
If youre a 2XL in real life, order the AMAZON 5X and itll still be too small.
u/Beneficial-Safe-2142
24.
“The effort that it takes to look ‘effortlessly’ good.
u/NiamhHA
25. u/Beloveddust
26.
“Getting approached and commented on near constantly.
My husband always thought I was exaggerating until we were on our honeymoon.
He was both shocked and disgusted.
It was like any other vacation to me.
u/Maiyku
u/SuperIngaMMXXII
28.
“How you’re constantly underestimated.
It gets tiring sometimes.”
u/in_memory_of_chey
29.
“Not being able to be as friendly as you want.
I wonder if men ever worry about a ‘good morning!’
or a smile being misinterpreted.”
u/Anxious_Sorbet13
30.
“Needing completely different-sized clothes depending on the shop you buy them in.
My boyfriend just orders stuff knowing it will fit perfectly every time!”
u/Distinct_Selection76
31.
“A friend of mine once said: Men have to assess IF there is danger.
Women have to assess HOW MUCH danger there is.”
u/QuaranGene
32.
“How busy our mind stays.
I feel like most of my friends agree.
Youre always in fight or flight when youre out and about, especially at night.
Ive tried to explain to my boyfriend how nice it is to just turn off my brain with him.
I still dont think he fully understands what I mean.”
How they pressure, whine, beg, and wheedle for sex.
How many of them venture to stick it in without a condom.
u/Groundbreaking_Bat22
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