The amount of holiday breakups makes me want to throw up.
Weaskedmembers of theBuzzFeed Communityto tell us about the worst ways they’ve ever been dumped.
We received quite an array of bad breakup stories that were equal parts infuriating and devastating.
Here’s what people shared:
1.
“He ended it after 10 years together, four of those living together.
I called him to see what he wanted to do for dinner and kept getting his voicemail.
Called his secretary, and she said, ‘Oh, he should be on his flight by now.’
He left me a note saying he was sorry.”
amandavaught
2.
I had two young kids at that point.
He raised them with me for those eight years.
My youngest bonded more deeply with him, as their bio dad abandoned his role.
We would take turns visiting each other.
He didn’t have the integrity to tell me himself.
I had to find out through mutual friends.
He’d been sleeping with both of us that entire time.
The breakup was brutal, and my heart will never be the same.
Anonymous
3.
“My husband left me one week after our 25th anniversary for his affair partner.
He deserved to be able to have ‘romantic walks on the beach.’
I am in a wheelchair.”
angels4d4906ef4
4.
“I helped him rent an apartment in a duplex owned by some friends of mine.
A couple of weeks later, he moved to Florida without telling me OR them.”
amberinthetardis
5.
“On my birthday.
We lived in different cities (only about 45 minutes apart).
I requested a week of vacation time starting on my birthday.
He took me out for a very nice dinner, then we went to a quiet bar for drinks.
I got the ‘its not you, its me’ speech.
I drove 45 minutes back home at about 2:00 a.m. feeling emotionally shattered and used.
To this day, it’s still my worst birthday ever.”
atticcrazy
6.
“I dated a man who was 20 years my senior while I was in my mid-20s.
Needless to say, my parents were not pleased.
They eventually got on board, though, and we all went on a cruise together for my birthday.
Afterwards, we were laying in bed and talking.
jessicahicks2
7.
“With a note.
He looked me in the eyes and told me he loved me that morning.
Then, I found the note when I got back from work.
We were engaged and had been trying to conceive the previous few months.
I had no idea.
We had been together a long time, and he was my best friend.
I never saw him again.
frodofreaklotr
9.
Then, two weeks later, he started acting weird and distant.
The entire time I was gone, he tried to ghost me.
But, I could see that he was using his phone because he was watching my Instagram story.
ray94
10.
I was going out with his/our roomie one evening and had to stop back by the house.
bloodwynne
11.
I had friends and family there, too, so the move wasn’t solely based on him.
Hearing that honestly made me believe in god a little bit.”
sarahadams2
12.
We had been together for over two years.”
mariangreenmondoux
13.
Then, one night, he asked me if I wanted to have sex.
I did, and after he was done, he just got up, got dressed, and left.
I followed him to the door covered in a sheet, asking him where he was going.
He literally never spoke to me again, and I still cringe thinking about it."
l1zbro
14.
“He was supposed to come over for Christmas.
I called and texted, and he wasnt answering.
I checked his Facebook, and his ‘ex’ had tagged him in photos in their house.
They never broke up.
Stupidly, I went back.
We broke up after he flipped out over an old text message on my phone.
Now I’m with the love of my life and our two dogs in our new home.”
emilymacdonald2
15.
He got weirdly distant, and all day he wouldnt show me any affection and barely talked to me.
haileyclarke19
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17.
“He changed his Facebook status to ‘single.’
I didnt even know until my best friend called to ask me about it.
He did it, like, nine days before my birthday, too.
kandidlykristen
18.
“He disappeared with the car we bought together.
He stole money from my house and my parents' place and completely ghosted me.
“He (21M at the time) was supposed to come to my place to spend the weekend.
A big storm was about to hit us with lots of rain and wind.
He was a little weird, saying he was thinking about stuff.
Then, he told me to call his mother to know more.
I was so worried, thinking something might’ve happened to a family member of his.
I called his mother in panic.
She then informed me that the relationship was over and not to call her son again.
He didnt have the guts to tell me himself!!!!
After two years of a relationship!
Three days to process the breakup without internet, Spotify, or cell service.
That one was rough!!”
“I was a high school junior dating a guy Id had a crush on for forever.
We were several months in, and it was my birthday.
He told me he had a gift for me and to meet him by my locker.
I got there with a big smile on my face, and he was standing there with his friends.
“A Google doc.
After a year and a half together, living together, and having just gotten a kitten together.
We sat on the bed, and by the time I stood up, we were on a break.
Five days later, I received a Google doc ending things.”
He never showed up.
They got back together that night.
I found out we were NOT getting married via an Instagram post.”
“My soon-to-be ex-husband and I were long distance while he was a traveling surgical tech.
The next day, I asked if we could at least talk on the phone or FaceTime.
He said we couldnt talk because he was at Disneyland with his ex-wife and child.
Havent looked back since.”
sunshine0301
24.
I never heard from her again.
Shed apparently dumped that guy for me with an identical text message.
postl
25.
“I was with a guy through high school and part of college.
We were together for nearly three and a half years.
He broke up with me VIA SKYPE.
skipnees
26.
“We were together for four years, and he dumped me the night I graduated from college.
We were literally putting on our coats to go celebrate with my friends when he decided it was time.
I found out from a mutual friend he’d been planning it for weeks.
The worst part: I thought he was proposing.”
“I was with him for four years.
He was dating both of us the entire time.
Honestly, he did me the biggest favor.
He treated me like crap, but I didnt think I deserved any better.
He called me a month later crying that he loved me and was getting a divorce.
Six horrible months later, I discovered he was lying.
It finally got through to me what a creep he was.
Told him to get lost.”
“I had been dating a guy for about five months when he went home for Christmas break.
He invited me to visit and meet his family in January, and then we would drive back together.
The trip was amazing.
I loved his family, they loved me, and he and I spent a lot of time together.
Everything was great until we started the drive back, and then he was weirdly quiet and distant.
I was so shocked and confused.”
It ends on a good note, though.
Almost exactly a year later, I got engaged to the best guy.
“I started dating a guy who recently broke it off with his long-time girlfriend.
Turns out this anonymous person was correct.
The very next day, he proposed to his ex-girlfriend, and she said yes.
Then, they broke off the engagement a week later, and he came crawling back.
Obviously I did NOT take him back.
Ive never figured out who the anonymous person/account was.
Maybe it was her?
Or, maybe it was him?”
“I had a really serious conversation with my boyfriend where I came out to him as bisexual.
I did not want to change anything because I loved him and didn’t want to explore other relationships.
I just wanted to be open about who I am.
Over the next couple of weeks, I started to get some weird vibes from our friends.
I lost most of my friend group, but it did have a happy ending.
“My last breakup came from the guy I was dating in law school.
It was midnight, I was drunk, and it was a two-hour drive back to school.
“This was back in 2007.
We were in our early 30s and had been dating for almost a year.
We were going through a rough patch, but I didnt think much of it.
Never heard or saw him again.
It wasnt just because he ended the relationship, but also the fact that he couldnt even face me.
He had to hide behind a computer screen.
It took me a while to accept what happened and move on.”
“A few months after moving in with my boyfriend, my mother was killed in an auto accident.
I was given 12 days to find another place to live and move out.”
Prom was a truly magical evening with him and my friends.
He was staying overnight because he lived about an hour away and didn’t drive.
As we kissed goodnight, I blurted out that I loved him.
He responded, ‘Look, I’m sorry, but I could never love you.
Like, ever.’
I still had to make him breakfast, and then I was supposed to drive him to school.”
And no, I don’t know what my dad said to him on the drive.
“We were together for about two years.
Then, the day after Christmas, he suddenly stopped talking to me.
He was supposed to come over on New Years Eve after a gig.
Didnt call, text, or respond to my messages.
Acted like I didnt exist.”
I was so embarrassed and heartbroken at the same time.
The teacher walked back in, and I had to hold back tears.
Obviously, it was just puppy love, and Im totally over it.
I love bringing it up to my sixth-grade students when they talk about relationship drama.
Its so innocent.”
jessweet88
Note: Submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
