It’s over ten years later and I’m still finding out things he lied about."
TheBuzzFeed Community*submitted some of their own, so we’re back with more.
Here are 36 heartbreaking and shocking secrets people discovered.
*We also included some responses from theoriginal Reddit thread.
Note: There are mentions of suicide, abuse, and sexual assault in this post.
I’m grown now and have the actual custody agreement in my files.
She didn’t want to pay my medical bills and gave me up."
u/DirtySouthDoc
2.
He just flew back to London and got a job."
I have no idea what to do about it.
u/Head-Cod-8762
3.
“My friend had this moody girlfriend I did not like nor did anyone else.
Shed fake pregnancies and treated him like crap.
She moved away after their breakup with a new piece of crap boyfriend.
Her mother called my friend to blame him and so did her cousin.
Anytime we got really drunk, hed bring her up for years.
Ten years went by, and she added me on Facebook.
She didnt die; her whole family is just shitty.”
u/Pretty_Frosting_2588
4.
I, of course, stopped talking about mine and went into comfort mode.
But I should continue to yo her because its part of her healing journey.
Her therapist said it was necessary for her.
“Anyway, one night we were fighting and she was drunk.
We were fighting because she’d cheated on me.
Two days later, we finally discussed it.
I felt disgusted and betrayed and horrified and so, so hurt and angry.
Honestly, Im still not over it.
I still cant trust people and struggle with dating and even making friendships.
This was seven years ago.”
u/CowNovel9974
5.
“My mom faked cancer on Christmas 2018.
I spent a week thinking my only parent was going to die.
Turns out it was all a ploy to get sympathy during a fight with my sister.”
u/pennylane923
6.
He carried this lie on for months to keep me attached.
Over time, I saw red flags that convinced me he wasn’t sick.
But at the time, I was naive and made excuses for him.
“His ‘mom’ texted me the funeral home he would be buried at if he succumbed.
Safe to say that the lie unraveled and we havent spoken since.”
u/sassysoosa
7.
“My mom told me my dad died in the Gulf War.
I found out later that he was arrested for raping half a dozen kids under the age of four.
u/Confederacel
8.
His uncle, whom he lived with and raised him during his teen years, had passed away.
I left work early to comfort him.
He finally popped his head out of his bedroom window and realized I was outside.
He let me in, but he was so belligerently drunk I couldn’t ask him any questions.
I just tucked him into bed and stayed with him.
Months later, I came to find out that both of his uncles are very much alive.”
It wasn’t until toward the end of our three-year relationship that I realized he was a pathological liar.
He lied about very small things to very big things.
I feel like our whole relationship wasn’t real.
I didn’t know anything real about him."
u/BrewskiBehb
9.
A few years in, he still talked about her quite a bit.
I started having feelings of not being able to measure up to a dead woman.
In my stalking, I realized…she’s still alive."
“He lied to me for years.
He bonded with me over this lie.
When I confronted him, he blew up.
He was mad at me for looking into it.
But I don’t give a shit what she did.
That lie was woven into every aspect of our relationship.
It lured me in and then broke me down.
It was shared in response to my story of my father’s very real suicide.
I hated him for years after I ended things.
Now, I just feel disgust when I think about him.”
u/FishingDifficult5183
10.
Ex and I got engaged.
This was a big deal to me, and I took it seriously.
I was so happy and proud to be a good father and partner."
Difficult as life can become, I persevere for those I care about and carry on I did.
I always focused on the happiness and health of my new family.
Maybe three years in, I began to realize how seldom my ex went to the doctor.
It seemed like she was going to her pain management appointments regularly, but that was it.
I noticed little in the way of actual disease treatment.
As we are both still in our thirties, I felt this was an important aspect for everyone involved.
Obviously, I’d prefer not to lose my fiance sooner rather than later.
I may have crossed a line.
But the disproportionate response I got raised flags.
Flags bordering on verbal and emotional abuse in response to a gently proposed conversation about her long-term health.
It seemed kind of like it was a deterrent to prevent me from EVER bringing it up again.
So, I didn’t bring it up for three more years.
During that time, nothing changed in regard to her health or treatment.
Turned out she never had cancer.
Or any health issues outside of a drug addiction.
Within two months of my revelation, I was suddenly receiving every imaginable form of domestic abuse.
The family I’d given every waking moment of myself to for years is suddenly no longer my own.
Like, how can she do that to her kids?
I get it now that I got used, hard.
Where do we draw the line?
How do people disregard kids like that?
Still messes me up to this day."
u/LunatiCriminaLove
11.
“My mum’s a narcissist, so I have some big ones.
She made it up to get custody.”
u/warkifiedchocobo
12.
“My cousin died from a brain aneurysm because of intravenous drug use.
She had been clean for two years and had a one-year-old daughter.
My aunt told her granddaughter that my cousin was on vacation for yeeeeaaars.
Eventually, a neighbor kid told her her mum was dead.
She went down a very dark route after that.”
Anonymous
13.
“[The lie was] that I’m an only child.
My mom has two daughters who are much older than me.
One of them lived down the street from me growing up.
I played with her son my nephew regularly after school.
When I was 15, I specifically asked my mom if she had any children other than me.
She looked me in the eye and told me no.
About two weeks later, one of my sisters contacted me online and told me the whole story.
My aunts and uncles confirmed it.
u/staccatodelareina
15.
“An ex-boyfriend and I were pretty serious, then suddenly he started pulling away.
We had talked kids, marriage, everything.
Then one day he told me he had colon cancer.
“Hed thrown his sister out and moved this woman and her three kids in.
Well, they got married, and she basically treated him like garbage.
She was after his money and his big house.
They were married for eight years when one night he tripped and smacked his head against the sink.
A few days later he passed out, was rushed to the hospital, and never woke up.
I dont want to say karma…but…”
u/Illustrious-Bunch572
16.
“That my dad was dead.
I was told this all my childhood by my grandma.
He even hit her in the stomach and broke her heart.
I was glad to know the truth but also sad.
I’ve got a fantastic stepdad who IS my dad now.
He’s been around since I was 10 years old.
ANYONE can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a dad.”
u/helensmelon
17.
Her cousin told me.
Out of the blue …
I met my biological father a month later.
The cousin took me.
He was a rich doctor who promptly rejected me.
He did say he was my biological father, but to never, ever contact him again.
He had a family who knew nothing.
I never reached out again.”
acidicminion91
18.
“I THOUGHT I was dating a single navy guy.
He ghosted me, so I texted him telling him just to be an adult and use his words.
He then tried to convince me that he was kidnapped.
He lived on base.
He was also married.
u/not_a_milk_drinker
19.
“I was married at 21 and divorced at 29.
My ex-wife passed away two years after our divorce.
We had a six-year-old daughter at the time.
My daughter graduates college this coming May and has never seen a dime of it.”
u/CarolinaRod06
20.
“[The lie was] that I was adopted.
My mother told me right before she passed away, and my father also confirmed it.
I lived for 17 years thinking I was neither my nor my father’s actual child.”
u/maryjanelae
21.
“A girl I used to work with told everyone she was pregnant.
She didn’t look pregnant, but some people don’t balloon, so fair play.
Cue tears from 80% of the workforce, weeks of mourning and tears from concerned colleagues, etc.
flowers, gifts, and so forth…all bullshit.
She was never pregnant.
It was all a lie to trap a one-night stand into paying her child support payments in cash.”
u/Jeht88
22.
Surprise surprise, there was never any trust or college savings.
Just a big lie they held over my head for 17 years.”
michelangelofangirl
23.
“All my life I thought I had a spring birthday with the tulips.
I was an Aries, which totally suited me.
One day my dad pulled me aside and told me my birthday was a fake.
I was born too close to the wedding.
This was back when such things mattered.
I can still legally prove two birthdays.”
She beat me every few days from the age of eight to the age of fifteen.
u/Over_Bend_9839
25.
“I always wished that I had more siblings.
But I was their last kid, and they were very open on that.
(I did have two older sisters.)
‘, thinking she was having an affair.
She was like, ‘Of course he does, that’s your brother.”
‘You have another sister too.’
Not one slip-up in 10 years from any of them.
They are incredibly good at hiding things.
I’m a mom and couldn’t imagine just hiding two kids from only one of my other children.
And no one seems to think that that is absolutely nuts.
Cue distrust being born lol.
Anyways, I loved both my older siblings immediately.”
u/endangeredbear
26.
“One early morning, my partner’s alarm went off.
I knew things had been bad before, but thought hed learned his lesson.
Name after name, photo after photo all explicit, times and dates for meet-ups.”
“And this was not long after I forgave maybe the third time he cheated.
I stopped counting after 18.
He also had syphilis but we hadnt been intimate in a long while because I knew something was wrong.
When I saw those messages, I gently woke him, said, ‘I know everything.
Moral of the story: when someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them.”
‘Youre just like your dads mom.’
‘You get your depression from your dads side of the family.’
She died 10 years before I was born."
u/00icrievertim00
28.
“My mother lied to me about who my father was.
Growing up, I was always closer to my dad.
I had to get it replaced.
It seemed to take forever.
One day, I got a call saying my father’s information didn’t match the form.
I told them that I was fairly positive as to where my Dad was born.
They told me that the name they had was completely different.”
“My dad isn’t my bio dad (thanks, 23 and me).
Explains why that side of the family never cared for me yet loved my younger brother!
Found the half-sister on Facebook in 2008, but she quickly blocked me).”
Its like they think Im going to break or something?
Like holy shit, you put me through enough lies over the years, Im pretty immune!
Grinchbettahavemymoney
30.
It turned out to be one-third true.
I was adopted."
“After my adoptive mom passed, my adoptive dad remarried.
My younger brother stood with him as Best Man.
He didn’t even think to ask me, and why would he?
Even though I was his ‘oldest son,’ I wasn’t his biological son.
… Due to 23andMe, I discovered I have a half-brother who is one week younger than me.
Our dad died in a car wreck at 33 and never knew I was born.
My brother and I are close now.
I have other half-siblings from both my biological parents.
I found all that around in my early forties.
He still didn’t have ‘his blood’ up there as Best Man anyway.”
u/MaleficentBasket4737
31.
“My ex-wife told me that she was maxing out her retirement account just like I was.
When we went through the finances during the divorce, I had something like $300k in my account.
She had maybe $300.
All that money evidently had been going to fund her recent escapades with her supposed ex-boyfriend.”
u/Broad_Adz
32.
“Everything my dad ever said about my mom and their divorce.
“I was in a car accident when I was 16.
My best friend was driving, and it resulted in a severe concussion for me.
My friend immediately refused to have anything to do with me.
She spread vicious rumors about me in school.
She stated there wasnt an accident.
It was absolutely bizarre, as we were so close.
My memory from that time is a blur.
I remember going back to school; my grades were awful, and I could not graduate.
“My mother had passed away, and my brother and sister were absolutely useless.
I didn’t know the name of the doctor.
I just didn’t remember.
One of my friends helped me trace my former physician, and I picked up the records.
No wonder why my memory was a blur.
I was severely concussed.
She sent me back to school because she couldn’t be bothered.
No wonder why I was an absolute mess.
I was very good to my mother to the day she died from cancer.
I am lucky to have good friends that I consider family.
“When I was 18, I was told that my mother was not my biological mother.
u/fi0ritura
35.
Just before my 21st birthday, I was helping my mom copy documents for a work background check.
One of them was the legal name of everyone she’d shared a residence with throughout her life.
I was on there with a different last name.
It turned out that my ‘half-sister’ was biologically my mother.
They managed that goal; I’m child-free and had surgery to ensure that continues.
But in the process, they fucked up a perfectly good human with all kinds of trauma.”
u/SilverArabian
36.
“My brother married a woman fairly quickly.
The only people who could go were them and our parents.
Come to find out, she had her first marriage there.
One year later, she got pregnant.
12 weeks to the day of her pregnancy, she wanted a divorce.”
It really messed him up mentally, knowing he was just used so she could have a baby.
I wholeheartedly believe sooner or later, God is going to cut her down.”
One day, I came home from school and the cage was open and Rocky was gone.
She let me think it was my fault.”
