“I give myself permission to relax.
Hundreds of women replied and told us about their favorite solo activities.
“I spend my time being ugly.
“I give myself permission to relax. No one can judge, observe, or bother me, so I can read, watch a silly movie or show, or do nothing. It’s bliss."
When my husband is around, I always feel the need to look presentable and act like a lady.
priyakristopher
2.
“My husband is allergic to shellfish, and I grew up eating Louisiana Creole food.
I return to my 12-year-old self eating shrimp, crab, and scallops on toast points with butter.
It fills my soul.”
progoose536
3.
Afterward, I usually pretend like I spent my day cleaning.
unreadysauce405
4.
“I make some coffee, sit out on my back porch, and enjoy the quiet.
Then I put on an audiobook and deep-clean any given room.
I love it so much when I get to clean alone.”
gijoekungfugrip
5.“Sing.
But when I’m alone, I belt out my favorite songs until my throat is hoarse!”
kimberlyy403bcd84b
6.
“I call my mother and gossip.
We both are mature adults, but we talk shit about people in private.
Not having my kids and husband around is the best time for that.”
Anonymous
7.
“I enjoy decluttering without my husband or kids looking over my shoulder.
I don’t get rid of anything IMPORTANT, but every decision would be questioned otherwise.
That holey pair of boxers?
That broken toy that was from a bag of cheap party favors?
nerd2yourmother
8.
“I take a long hot shower and sleep.
I get to have the entire bed to myself.
I have two little ones, and everything is always rushed, and the bed is always cramped.
So yes, just those two simple things.”
julemi
9.
“I just adore the quiet.
My husband blows his nose at least 20 times daily not normally, but VERY loudly with honking.
But it’s a habit and will be one forever.
Also, the questions.
Man, I love that.”
altenbas
10.
“Cuddle with my dog!
Let the full-on cuddling commence when Im home alone with my dog!”
robinb4cc473da4
11. tracyb16
12.
“Living in every room of the house, and I mean truly living.
Music, candles, romantic lights.
When my husband’s home, I get, ‘How do you watch this?
Its horrible,’ or ‘Do you have to read all day?
Can we watch a movie?'”
morgandemkey
15.
“I talk to myself a lot.
It’s like I just have to get those thoughts out.
burtney
16.
“Being able to breathe and collect my thoughts.
angrypunk67
17.
When Im home alone, I enjoy the house staying neat and tidy!”
Basically, I write my own Hallmark movies for my enjoyment.”
“I have many roles in life, as do all humans.
I honestly enjoy silence and not being touched at all.
God bless partners who share the load!!!!”
“My spouse is away for a MONTH!
Yes, lawd!”
allisond1
21.
“Watching adult content with the volume on and using a magic wand on the highest setting!”
“I enjoy having a drink and relaxing in the pool by myself.
23.“Farting.
I do my best not to in front of my husband, and I appreciate his same efforts.
But when hes gone, I’m a farting machine!”
“Honestly, if my spouse is away, I order a giant Uber Eats order.
skimtrout56
26.
Do I soak in the tub?
Do I binge eat all the food excitedly, knowing I don’t have to share it with anyone?
Do I snuggle under a blanket with hot tea in my hands and a super-cheesy chick flick on?
There are no interruptions that way.
There’s no hubby to walk in and make fun of what I’m watching.
It’s just me and my favorite things: food, tea, movies.”
sleepingminion78
27.
Between both my jobs, I talk so much six days a week.
When he goes out of town, I have the same routine.
“Eating ice cream out of a pint without having to share it.
I don’t always finish it, but something about not having to share it makes me so happy.
My husband knows I do this and thinks it’s funny.”
I know he does the same when I’m out of the house.
We both know that solo time is important!
It’s silly to always rely on another person for your own pleasure.”
“I give myself permission to relax.
“I do an extra long workout.
Its the best!”
“Honestly, I just listen to death metal and jam out.
Ive also been really digging crossword puzzles in my solo time lately.
I guess Im getting old.”
“I enjoy the quiet.
My husband has been retired for a year.
He is always home.
And he plays videos on his tablet nonstop!
On the rare occasion when he and my daughter are out, I revel in the quiet.
I dont want to talk to anyone and rarely watch TV.
I will read or work on a craft in peace.”
“Watching a trash movie or show and not getting judged.
Sometimes, I’ll watch porn if I’m feeling into it and need self-care time.
“Staying up late watching musicals while returning emails and grading papers.
And then I change into comfy clothes and get ready for bed.
Its a ritual at this point, haha.”
“I just want to sit silently and pick what I want to do or watch.
I am so exhausted from being a mom and wife 24/7.
I love my family so much, but I miss being able to do anything without someone needing me.
“Reading smut Wattpad stories.”
I take a shower without my name being called a million times for basic tasks.
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