Recently, wewrote aboutwhy friend groups fell apart, and members of theBuzzFeed Communitysubmitted their own examples.
Here are 29 more stories of how friend groups ended in flames.
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*Along with some answers from theoriginal Reddit thread.
“I was sexually assaulted by a guy at a party in high school.
This obviously created a friend group divide, and everyone decided to play Switzerland and not intervene.
Needless to say, I’m no longer friends with anyone from high school.”
u/ExoticPeace7222
2.
“I had a friend from elementary school through after college.
I trusted her completely.
I left my dog with her for a weekend while I was out of town.
She was excited to have him.
I got him back a couple of days later with a DIY haircut courtesy of my friend.
She had left him alone to go off and do whatever.
I almost called the police.
problematik
3.
“We had been friends for about seven years, since high school.
There were six of us, but two girls (L and D) were inseparable.
L’s mother had a stroke and almost died.
She was in the hospital in a coma for several months close to a year.
D was always invited, and she always said she would come, but she didn’t visit once.
The other two friends of the group visited as well.
This led to our friend group breaking.”
“C and D went their own way, and the rest of us stopped talking.
When she needed her best friend the most, D just vanished from her life.”
u/MSBeatles
4.
“One of the group shared a screencap of his laptop in the group chat.
He hadn’t closed down his porn tabs which included searches for children.
I called him out on it, he went fucking ballistic.
Calling me nonstop and shouting abuse, sending hundreds of messages a day.
After I blocked him, he got new numbers to do it all over again.
Afterward, he threatened to find me outside my office (we live in different cities).
I have no idea why he would want to attract police attention to himself.
After that, the group just petered out.”
u/Quack_Candle
5.
“I had a friend who liked to make up ridiculous stories about boring events.
It was annoying but never that bad until it was suddenly REALLY bad.
I haven’t seen or spoken to her since, and neither has most of that friend group.”
skilletgirl81
6.
“A member of my friend group served five years for distributing porn, including child sexual abuse images.
I walked in one night, saw him, and walked us all right back out.
Nobody had warned us, although several people knew.
They thought I’d ‘get over it.’
Some women were uncomfortable, so they and their husbands began to stay home.
It tore apart the group, but my kids come first.
It’s my job to protect them.”
Anonymous
7.
“My kid is almost four now, and I miss her every day.”
u/LeeVH1
8.
“I had a friend group that was based around racing motocross bikes.
She was selling it on eBay from multiple accounts under the names of everyone in the friend group.”
“After that, no one trusted anyone, and we have never talked again.
u/nicola39726
9.
“A friend of mine broke up with her fiance after he hit her.
He lost it and posted nudes of her online.
So she pressed charges against him for both things.
He had been to jail previously.
She knew this but believed him when he said it was petty stuff.
It was not it was things like aggravated stalking and terroristic threats.
The local media obviously hyped it for all it was worth, and that didn’t help either.
u/MarlenaEvans
10.
“Junior year of high school, a new girl joins our friend group.
She quickly became a huge focus of attention.
Super chatty and friendly with everyone, but after a few months, things got really toxic.
Which just so happened to be exactly what every person had been through but worse.
Someone in the group got sexually assaulted; now she’s got a story about being gang-raped.
“Those of us who were hurt wanted her out of the group.
Her flunkies wanted to devote all our time and energy to ‘supporting’ her.
She denied it all, and that was the end of our group.
We split off, and there was no contact between the groups.
Friends who’d known each other their whole lives now just glared across hallways and classrooms.
She moved away at the end of the year but strung her followers along over Myspace and texting.
Turns out W had decided to sexually assault one of his kid’s preteen classmates on the regular.
He’s dead to us now.”
u/MapleGoesInEverythin
12.
“I broke our friend group apart.
I got hooked on drugs while everyone went off to college, and I felt stuck at home.
And when they came back and wanted to hang out, I was too far gone.
They offered to help me out of my addiction, but I couldn’t accept help then.
adrienoelle2258
13.
For a while, it was great until my boyfriend started abusing me.
He was also exceptionally good at hiding/convincing me to hide any evidence of our ‘disagreements.’
The entire friend group turned on me, even the ones who had been my friends first.”
Then, they started harassing me too.
I eventually moved out of state to escape the toxicity.
Years later, I heard my ex had been married and was getting divorced amid accusations of abuse.”
Turns out she resents my girlfriend now because of how ‘privileged she is.’
It’s mostly art supplies so that she can craft.
This is what triggered this now ex-best friend.”
I say good riddance.”
u/Son_of_Ander_
15.
“One of us found religion.
They didn’t even stick around to see if the people downstairs were okay.
u/smr312
17.
“My friend group went out to the club one night.
I wasn’t there because I had to work early the next day.
I don’t blame her.
I never spoke to anyone involved again, either.
Who needs friends like that?”
u/-Bag-of-Dicks-
18.
“A friend married a guy after a few years.
The guy was integrated into our friendship group.
The guy and our friend divorced after the guy said he no longer wanted kids.
u/MuayJudo
19.
Their parents and two grown-up siblings were also present and already deep into the hard liquor.
The doorbell rang, and the police entered, asking where the horses were.
Then, they arrested my friend and his dad after a couple of questions.
That was a fucked up day on so many levels.
It shattered our group.
No one saw it coming.
… Our group never got together again, not even without those two ‘friends.’
The last I heard, the ‘horse-lovers’ were both married, one with kids.
It’s been some 30+ years now.
u/TotallyInOverMyHead
20.
“One night when we were teenagers, we went to the lake.
There were four of us, and we ended up at this party.
We were probably 15; none of us could drive except him.
I’m guessing they were between 18-20.
There were three of them, and they were alone.
We conversed with them for a brief minute and then went on our way.
He was not joking.
He was dead serious.”
“At this time, I was in shock.
I didn’t really know him that well and had only hung out with him a few times.
(I was in the backseat directly behind him.)
I know he wasn’t.
Who but someone fucked up enough to do it.
That’s my incident, and it’s stuck with me ever since.
I just hope he never did anything we could’ve prevented, somehow.”
u/Flatland_Poetics
21.
“We got in a car accident while we were driving to the airport.
None of my friends stayed with me.
They took their (our) plane and left.
u/Lo-pisciatore
22.
We didn’t know this until Joseph and Daniel’s wedding when Melanie showed up by herself.
Until then, we’d assumed Richard was ill or too busy with work.
He hid his bigotry well right up until then.”
Let’s at least keep a line of communication open.'
He gave Melanie an ultimatum to ditch our whole group or lose him.
u/nx01a
23.
We’ve all remained solid friends and maintained our relationships with each other and our respective partners.
From what I’ve heard, … he’s lost all his childhood friends.
It’s all a bit sad, but yeah…fuck you, common denominator.”
u/Boisterous-Oyster
24.
“The biggest ‘incident’ was my dumbass HS best friend.
u/anon_e_mous9669
25.
I was the new one in the group, and we would go out a lot.
My boyfriend cheated on me for months, and my best friend failed to let me know.
Her boyfriend pushed her to tell me the truth, but she refused since it was her brother.
Her boyfriend gave her an ultimatum to tell me, or he would tell me himself.
He spilled the beans.
I confronted my best friend and boyfriend, and they both denied it.
I dumped my boyfriend when his side chick confessed.
That broke up our group for good.
Us guys got together, and I talked a bit about it to get it off my chest.
And it wasn’t joking sort of stuff, either.
They really meant it.
Needless to say, I do not associate with them anymore.”
u/OkUnderstanding9627
27.
But during the engagement, she became overbearing with him: clingy, temperamental, jealous, etc.
They organized a fancy baby shower and invited everyone and their dog.
The group never really recovered, even after they divorced.
She created a divide between the men and women that was never there.”
u/ARo0o0o
28.
My best friend stopped speaking to me, and then the rest of the friend group followed suit.
And then a year and a half later, she was dead.”
u/chrisdurand
Submissions have been edited for length/clarity.
