Its really a tough spot and I dont envy it!"
Today we have a 26-year-old pregnant woman who is seven months pregnant with her first child.
However, afteru/BabyNameThrowaway931publicly announced the name, one of her close friends started becoming distant.
Two years ago, she tragically lost her baby girl to a stillbirth.
It is important to reiterate thatu/BabyNameThrowaway931never knew this.
Until recently, no one knew what her baby was going to be called."
Well, this story has more layers than just someone stealing a name…
But do understand that your friend will likely choose not to be in your life anymore.
Is that a healthy reaction?
Probably not, and Im sure therapy would be very beneficial.
But grief is all-consuming and your friend has indicated that this is a hard line for her.
No, you’re not an asshole.
A good friend is something to be cherished and is not easy to find."
Make peace with whatever is your decision."
u/Individual_Noise_366
“Not an asshole.
You associate the name with life, hope, and the future.
You obviously had no idea that your friend’s deceased child was given the name.
Be prepared to lose a friend, but neither of you is the asshole in this situation.”
Grief is funny like that.
To her, the name is forever associated with someone who should have been.
A future she should have had.
Your daughter will forever be a painful representation of what she should have had.
50% of her DNA that she grew, loved, and carried for several months."
I think I’m gonna go with ‘not the asshole.'"
There was always going to be a chance of this happening.
