“That was the night I realized I couldn’t rely on him.
And if I couldn’t rely on my partner…he wasn’t really my partner.”
Warning: This post contains mentions of abuse and death.
just proceed with caution.
It can be an even harder thing to get yourself out of it.
Here are 20 stories they shared:
1.
“I was taking pre-reqs for nursing school, working full-time and doing my classes at night.
One day I dropped my 3-year-old and 6-month-old off with their dad and headed to class.
His response: ‘Well, you know I dont change diapers.’
Then, he went to bed.
Nope, that was it.
Its been 16 years since my divorce.
Best decision ever!”
“I sat alone in a semi-private room in a nursing home and watched my mother die.
Multiple texts, voicemails, and video chat requests to him went unanswered.
When she was gone, my first call was to my best friend, not him.
She made the hour drive in 35 minutes.
He lived 20 minutes away, and it took two hours for him to finally show up.
That was the night I realized I couldn’t rely on him.
And if I couldn’t rely on my partner…he wasn’t really my partner.”
Anonymous
3.
“I was seven months pregnant with twins, and I came down with a bad cold.
I was supposed to be on bed rest, but with a hyperactive 3-year-old, that wasnt possible.
That was the final straw.”
We got into a massive argument, and he asked me why I was so mad about someone else.
It clicked during that argument that he had no care or love for anyone but himself.
I just stopped mid-argument, started packing my things, and left.
I knew there was no point arguing with someone like that."
moonlightbae685
5.
I decided then that we were going to have to end things.
“My last straw was when he called me stupid in the drive-thru line at Burger King.
She told me he was worried that if I got educated, then I’d leave him.
But he opened his mouth first.
So, I got out of the car and walked away, because I was done.”
aprilp13
7.
“Had been dating and was engaged to my partner of 10 years.
During the pandemic, my nephew was in the hospital, and it did not look good.
My sister called and said that he was dying.
I got off the phone and went out on the porch.
My partner came out after several minutes, and I told him what my sister had said.
I threw him out and never looked back.
I couldnt live with this level of selfishness anymore.”
So…we were done."
darthjarjar
9.
“The last straw was after four years.
He never visited, not once in the two years we were in a long distance relationship.
Turns out, he was cheating during the week and on the weekends I couldn’t go down.
Waste of four years of my life.
I owe my friend a lot for pointing out his behavior.”
“On our 23rd anniversary trip, we went camping at a beautiful spring.
Anytime I went in the camper, he went outside.
I put on lingerie, and he looked up and said, ‘Oh God, really?’
I realized he wanted a mother, not a wife.
Someone to cook his meals, pay the bills, and wash his laundry.”
“Bi woman here.
I dated a woman for a year who was in her late 20s when I was 21.
Then, my dad had a massive stroke.
He didnt go home with me then, either.
My dad died a few days later.
I was at lunch.'”
“In 2015, my family lost my 36-year-old brother suddenly and unexpectedly in a car accident.
We had to go to another state eight hours away for the funeral.
My husband’s handling of the whole situation was the beginning of the end.
He barely knew my brother and acted so victimized by the whole thing.
What an odd thing to say and think.”
“Mine came after a 20-year marriage.
I had just given birth to our third child via C-section.
He said he couldnt stay at the hospital with me because he had a lot of work.
They said no he told them he stayed with me at the hospital.
I always suspected he was cheating, but never could prove it.
I hired a detective, and four months later, I got my answer.
He had someone else in a little town six miles away from where we lived.
I filed for divorce exactly 20 years to the day we got together.
Ive been happily married to a wonderful man for 15 years now.”
“My younger sister died after a long battle with alcoholism.
My dad had been trying to save her life.
I knew from the building manager that it was filled with empty alcohol cans.
It was my job as her only sibling.
His response was, ‘Shes dead, just throw everything away.’
That was when I felt my heart break and knew it was over after seven years.”
I had no idea where we were but somehow managed to get us back to our hotel.
That was when I made my decision to leave the marriage."
“We were high school sweethearts who married in our 20s after graduating college.
Toward the end of the marriage, this also included too much alcohol.”
My ex said, ‘Are you deaf?’
And, ‘You are so lazy about taking a pan from the middle of the stack!’
in a very contemptuous tone.
“I had been dating this man for a few months when I realized I was expectant.
I lived in a different city, so he wasn’t aware of the pregnancy for some time.
I informed him, and he sounded OK with it.
I gave birth to a baby girl.
We moved in with him immediately, but he wasn’t happy.
He was always irritable most of the time, and it was uncomfortable.
One evening, he came from work with a colleague, and we were having tea.
I just knew it was over.
What followed was dead silence in the room.
I left the following morning, and now 27 years later, I have never looked back.
My daughter has recently graduated from medical school, and I am so proud of her.
She’s my world.
I don’t regret having left him when I did.”
We bought a house together within walking distance to a vibrant town with lots to do his desire.
I sold such a house to combine incomes to get the house in town that he wanted.
But we compromised with our long-term plans.
It doesnt sound dramatic, but it was to me.
It just made me realize that he didnt give a damn about what I needed or wanted.
I broke up with him that day.
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