So much for in sickness and in health!"
Here’s what people shared:
1.
“It was actually almost immediately after getting married.
Our relationship had taken a nose dive as soon as we moved in together.
He screamed at me, telling me he hated traveling with me, and I ruined his vacation.
I was too stunned and humiliated to do anything except sit on a beach chair and cry.”
u/gridironbuffalo
2.
“I knew on the wedding day.
So I told her no more.
She fought me on it but finally agreed.
Wedding day comes, I’m standing with my groomsmen, and in comes the ice cream truck.
I knew right then, sadly.”
u/StrangeJitsu
3.
I still stayed, and then other things piled up, so I filed for divorce."
u/Kitchen_Mix_3665
4.
Like a superhero!'
u/ThrowawayJane86
5.
“It was a Wednesday night after a terrible day at work.
I cooked supper and did the dishes while he sat on his phone.
u/MyBlueHighway
6.
My dad had to go get us burgers.
I still gaslit myself into staying for the next 10 years anyway.”
u/RelentlessOlive54
7.
“When he left me with a bad fever to play cards with his friends.
When he accused me of cheating on him while I was pulling all-nighters to finish my degree.
When he said our kid wasn’t HIS.
When he never complimented me because he said it would get to my head.
When he took anyone’s word over mine (and I meananyone).
When his way of flirting with me was putting me down.
When I had to keep the most ridiculous secrets just to keep peace in the house.
u/ozraf
8.
“When he ran off to play golf after we came home from the hospital with our son.
It turned out I had severe mastitis and a 103-degree fever, and he just took off.”
u/stinkykitty71
9.
“We were in the bathroom getting showered and dressed for a friend’s wedding.
She was finishing her makeup, and I remarked on how beautiful she looked.
I waited for her to say something nice in return, but she didn’t.
And it just hit me.
I couldn’t remember a single time when she complimented me on my appearance.
“She stopped applying her mascara long enough to roll her eyes at me dismissively.
So I mistakenly asked her, ‘Do you even find me attractive?’
She flatly said, ‘No.’
I asked, ‘Why did you marry me then?’
and she said, ‘I didn’t think it was important at the time.’
I’ve never felt so ugly and unloved.
u/Seandouglasmcardle
10.
I should have known better.
I’m happily divorced from him now.”
u/UnsureAboutHumans
11.
“When he didn’t mention me in his speech at our wedding.
He thanked everyone else, commented on the bridesmaids, and talked about our daughters.
I may as well not have even been there.
So much for in sickness and in health!”
u/LBelle0101
12.
“Right after saying, ‘I do,’ we were taking photos with all our friends.
I heard him tell his best man how beautiful one of our guests was.
I tried my best for five years amid his violent alcoholism and gaslighting.
We had a baby, and he never once got up to help.”
u/xbbn1985
13.
“I was eight months pregnant.
He’d lost his job a few months prior and had spent all his time gaming since.
I said in frustrated despair, ‘Why can’t you get a job?’
and he said, ‘Why don’t you get a job?’
I had to leave work early because of pregnancy complications.”
u/Azazael
14.
“I come from a low-income family.
Her family gave us $10k for our wedding, and she spent it on a motorcycle.
I was struggling to pay my bills each month.
She did it anyway.
After six months of living in the house I didn’t want, I told her I was done.
She told all my friends and family it was because I was cheating on her.
I lost many friends, but I’ve never been happier.
She can keep them.”
u/Dont_Shred_On_Me
15.
Instead of offering to pitch in and help, he suggested we put the baby up for adoption.”
u/angiebenz
16.
“When I almost died because he refused to take me to the hospital despite my begging.
I had become so isolated at that point, and I also knew better than to call an ambulance.
All he could say was, ‘But you don’t even NEED to be here.
My stomach hurts so bad.’
It took a month or so longer to end the relationship.
But I realized then that he never loved me.
And I was just lucky to have made it out alive.
I hadn’t spoken to them for weeks/months before then.”
I am glad to have left him behind.”
u/jagkfrost15
17.
This might have been at the 13-year mark."
u/PenelopeGarcia65
18.
He didn’t even look over to watch her walking for the first time.
That’s when I knew."
u/fknnutter
19.
He was too afraid.
It was at that moment I knew I would always have to be the strong one.
I wanted to be able to break and crumble when I felt the need to."
u/kalisita
20.
“We were married for 11 years.
He planned his business trips exactly on my birthdays to avoid being with me.
He always worked during our anniversaries, too.
He never made any effort in our relationship.
When asked, he says he’s not the romantic throw in or the one who puts in effort.
But it hurts so bad when I see him put so much effort into making others happy.”
u/MapHistorical7368
21.
“A week after we were married, we had a minor disagreement.
u/irislatifolia
22.
All of that fell on me.
And it’s not like his job was more stressful; it was quite leisurely most of the time.
I once asked him to bathe the dogs since we were expecting company.
He threw the biggest fit until I finally backed down and said I’d do it myself.
u/RubySoledad
23.
“When I left the religious cult that we were both part of/we got married in.
By this time, we already had a kid together.
u/crystalmerchant
24.
That was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
u/dk573
25.
Then she started talking to a friend at work and told him she loved him.
There were many signs before that, but I just ignored them because I wanted us to work.”
u/animusv
26.And: “We got married and went on a honeymoon in China.
We were both PhD students at the time.
I was from the working class, and her family was middle class.
Her father gave her $10k for the honeymoon.
Well, I spent the entire two months alone in tiny hostels while she did research.
I also had no family support back home, even if I did manage to make it home.
I opened the laptop one morning before she left to survey a field site without me.
Her email was open.
She left a message up on the laptop screen.
It was to her father, stating she wished I wasn’t there on the trip our honeymoon.
Again, I was told this would be a honeymoon with maybe a slight detour for research.
It turned out to be a research trip where I was a burden.
We stayed together for a few more years after she got sick and I became a caretaker.
I wish, in hindsight, I had left China after reading that email.”
u/Mtt76812
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