“I knew at that moment I never wanted to touch her again.”
Note: This post contains mentions of pregnancy loss and sexual assault.
When two people get married, they always have the best intentions.
People of theBuzzFeed Communitysharedthe specific moment they knew their marriage was over.
Here is what some people bravely shared:
Note: Some responses have been edited for length and/or clarity.
“I was deathly sick with food poisoning.
I was afraid and asked my now ex-husband to hold my hand.
Instead of helping, he left to go to Wal-Mart.
Hed been emotionally unavailable in our marriage, but I foolishly thought he needed time and care.
When he made that announcement, everything inside just died.
By the way, she didnt have cancer, and she stiffed him for thousands of dollars.”
He didnt want to travel or see the world.
He just wanted me to think so so he could trap me."
chillrockstar65
3. ericmcauliffe
4.
“After struggling financially for years, I got an amazing job.
This was more than she had made in the past 10 years.
Her reaction: ‘Is that all?’
I knew then it was over.”
superjaguar70
5.
My ex once said to me, ‘People who dont put their children first dont deserve to live.’
I knew at that moment I never wanted to touch her again."
I was deeply embarrassed by my reaction and shared it with him in a moment of vulnerability.
It wounded me to the core, and I was done."
awfulknight65
7.
We had lived together for eight months while engaged.
I thought he was kidding.
radiantcoach30
8.
I lay there under him weeping, waiting for it to be over.
I went on being too nice to him for a few more years."
“We had three young kids.
After four years together, he received a kidney transplant.
I drove daily from Seattle to Portland to be there for him.
I fed the kids breakfast, left, and went home to put them to bed for three weeks.
I had cared for him while on dialysis.
When I had our last child at 30, I almost died and was hospitalized for 2 1/2 months.
Before a major operation, they let me go home for a few hours to see the kids.
When I survived the operation and was being discharged, he was three hours late to pick me up.
The next morning, I went back to life with kids and newborns.
I was 54” and weighed 82lbs.
I knew I was done.
It took three years, but I left.
It was both of us.
Wed married young, and I was his first.
Childhood taught me not to be weak or complain.
He had a successful second marriage.
I, unfortunately, replaced him with worse, but thats over, too.
I have my pets.
I hold no grudges.
I wish them the best."
shaysmith3
10.
“We got married after three months (red flag) because I found out I was pregnant.
I ended up miscarrying on the day of our wedding.
He made me go through it alone.
He left me alone in our new house while still moving in.
Thankfully, my friend came over to comfort me.
I was upset, and all he could say to me was that I was acting nuts.
smellyprincess222
11.
“She was my college sweetheart.
I loved her, and we had two kids.
About 14 years into our marriage, I expressed interest in opening my own business.
The business failed, and it hurt us financially.
She blamed me for anything bad after that.
If I forgot a loaf of bread, it was a huge failure.
We tried marriage counseling.
And I realized I just didnt love her anymore.
So I asked for a divorce.
We divorced after 18 years of marriage.
We both have been remarried to others for nine years.
We get along ok for the good of raising our kids.
But she still resents me and finds a way to be mean to me.
My youngest turns 18 next year.
I misstepped climbing down and fell off.
He also had this habit of just leaving that drove me nuts.
He never in 25 years asked or even told me he was going anywhere.
He was a total slob, too.
We live separately now, and I am very happy about it.”
bigsbyboo
sparklyfan676
14.And finally, “I went into labor with my last child six weeks early.
Thankfully, she was fine.
She only had to stay in the hospital for one extra day.
So, I walked after being in the hospital for eight days due to early labor.”
