“You don’t have to marry everybody you love.”
Read what they had to say below.
Responses have been lightly edited for clarity and length.
Tell everyone you know that youre single and looking for love.
Tell everyone you know that you are looking for love and ask them to set you up.
Only go on max one date per week so you dont get burned out.
Mike Goldstein, founder ofEZ Dating Coach
Pay attention to how they interact with waiters.
However, Im not referring to physical chemistry or having feelings for the person.
Instead, Im referring to feelings of safety within a relationship.
Does the person respect your boundaries or do they consistently venture to push them?
That advice came from my mother and it remains the best Ive received.
Have confidence in who you are!
Lean into who you are.
Be proud of your likes and your dislikes.
Have a curiosity about who this person is.
Also, wear material that is breathable.
The looking goes both ways.
In the beginning, dont look for love look for reciprocity.
Does this person show up in meaningful ways?
Do their actions align with their words?
Do they do what they say theyre going to do?
When you do something nice for them, are they eager to reciprocate?
Does it make them happy to make you happy?
Does it hurt them to hurt you?
You dont have to earn love.
Recognize what you bring to the table.
You might find perfectly nice people who arent a good fit for you.
Thats OK. Be ethical and release them for someone who fits their quirks.
Know how to dump and be dumped.
Watch someones character and be clear-eyed about their level of investment in you.
Dont be afraid to ask, what was the reason the last breakup occurred?
How do they believe that they contributed to the problem?
If the prospective person only blames other people, thats a bad sign.
While if they can take some responsibility and show some insight thats a better sign.
But one of the predictors of long-term happiness in a relationship is how nice the person is.
So see how they treat others around you like their friends, family or other people.
Dont stay in the wrong relationship just to avoid being single.
Heidi Lux, a Los Angeles-based satirist and screenwriter
Stop trying to manufacture love.
Its about being open to having romance develop rather than trying to make romance happen.
Dont venture to paint them differently.
Just calm down, girl, it will happen.
Focus on you and find love in yourself first.
Id been through a couple less-than-stellar relationships.
Looking back, I realize I entered into a couple of them out of desperation.
I mean, who else would date me?
Only after I became comfortable with being alone, did the woman I married appear.
So, my overall advice is: Be patient.
Remember, we can all be awkward at first!
Hold your boundaries, but be mindful if youre really building walls that push potential loves away.
Bex Mui, founder and author ofHouse of Our Queer
Love yourself first.
Work on yourself first.
When you fall in love with yourself two things happen: First, you scratch your own itch.
You feel loved and lovable because you are.
The more you feel love, the more love you attract.
Secondly, you stop feeling desperate or needy both of which drive people away from you.
Karen Covy, a divorce coach and mediator
Trust in your timing.
that if you miss your window, its too late.
But from hosting my dating podcast for the last eight years, this is simply not true.
Weve seen people find love at any age!
Whatever stage of life youre in, enjoy it for what it is.
The first part of this is just recognizing that an amazing relationship wont just land in your lap.
Are you looking for someone who matches you?
Someone who differs from you?
How do you feel about someone who likes to sing, or likes to take pictures of their food?
Also, what do you bring to the table?
Sam See, a stand-up comic based in LondonThis article originally appeared onHuffPost.
