“Do the chores.
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Intermittently I will place a heads-up penny somewhere slightly conspicuous so that she’ll find it.
I almost always do this if she’s having a bad day.
She’s never caught on.”
“Every day we lay down and hold each other tight for five minutes.
No talking, no kissing, or anything else.
“Do the chores.
All the love notes and cuddles don’t mean shit if you leave your dishes by the sink.”
It shows that you’re invested in her life beyond the superficial.
Its all about understanding and responding to her emotional needs without her having to ask.”
“When you are mad… SAY IT!
Stop holding it in and resenting the other person.”
That simple phrase changed everything about how we argue.
Instead of escalating, it makes you acknowledge that you just hurt your partner."
“Love notes tucked away in lunch boxes.”
“Assume positive intent.
Its so easy to fall into the trap of assuming someone did something intentionally to hurt you.
Nine times out of ten for us its a simple mistake or lapse in judgment.
Even if we are still in the same room it makes me smile every time.
It can’t be overridden, cancelled, or otherwise changed.
“We like each other.
And act like it.
I told him I dont always remember him snuggling me but I appreciate it.”
“My wife and I set our alarm in the morning, then set another for five minutes later.
We spoon and hold each other in bed for five minutes until the second alarm goes off.”
“I was unemployed for months and staying home to conserve money.
It was depressing and purposeless.
But my husband would still ask me about my day every day.
“We grab each others butts.”
“We always say thank you and show gratitude, even for the small things that are expected.”
“We have routines that emphasise our commitment (e.g.
My husband and I are like crows.
“Solve problems, don’t win fights.”
“I have a go at make her laugh at least once a day.”
“Know each other’s strengths and weaknesses and be a great team.
My wife loves to cook but hates the prep and clean-up.
So, I help with the prep and clean up after we’re done.”
I neververballylet my wife know how much I appreciated her.
“Put extra love in my partner’s coffee.
Hearing that makes them feel better.”
“Say nice things about your spouse to anyone who’ll listen.”
We started doing it jokingly, and now we love our long kisses.
We get home from work and just stand in the kitchen and look at each other and kiss.
Its the best.”
“I work from home, but my husband doesnt.
Even for a few seconds.
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