Dating experts and daters reveal the things your date is likely and unlikely to notice right off the bat.
Read on for their thoughts:
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Posture is also something your date will take notice of.
To have better posture, by the way, dont just pull your shoulders back.
How they get a waiters attention.
How they sit in the chair, she wrote.
Do you make and hold eye contact, and are you authentically smiling?
Or are your eyes evasive and you look ill-at-ease?
Again, the former signals confidence and the latter lack thereof.
Nick Notas, a dating coach who works with men, also underscored why eye contact is so important.
Looking into someones eyes helps create a sense of connection, he said.
Avoiding eye contact can make her feel distant from you and set an awkward tone.
Similarly, a warm smile can go a long way towards diffusing tension on a date, Hoffman said.
Your grooming and hygiene.
Things like a trimmed beard, groomed eyebrows and fresh breath show pride in your appearance, Notas said.
Dirty fingernails or body odors suggest a lack of self-awareness.
Renata M. wrote on Facebook that good hygiene always stands out to her in a date.
A well-groomed person with good manners shows he has self-respect and respect for others, she said.
Everything else can be worked on or brushed off, unless he is married or jobless.
Just see to it youre dressed appropriately for the setting.
It should go without saying, but your clothes and shoes especially should look clean!
How much you talk about yourself.
Does the conversation have a nice back-and-forth, or is it very one-sided?
If your date cant get a word in edgewise, thats a problem.
Do they listen or just talk about themselves?
reader Mary C. wrote on Facebook.
Reader Cayci C. said she pays attention to whether they talk with me and not at me.
Your manners and how you treat your server.
It screams volumes about someones character, Shanna M. wrote on Facebook.
I am hella awkward and need a bit of space and time to warm up to someone.
I have no problem giving people the benefit of the doubt for the same reason.
But a lot of very simple behaviors can hint at compatibility.
How you make them feel.
They will, however, remember how you made them feel.
Was something said that creeped them out?
Or made them lean in?
And heres what your date probably wont notice.
Theres no sense fixating on things your date is unlikely to pick up on anyway.
But your date probably isnt focusing on any of that and neither should you.
Unless its something really obvious, your date isnt zeroing in on minor details, he said.
Shes focused on your overall vibe and how you make her feel.
Same goes for pimples or blemishes, Anderson said.
Not a big deal!
Everyone gets the occasional zit.
You want the overall look to be put-together but beyond that, the specifics dont matter all that much.
Your outfit choice probably isnt going to tank a date as long as its appropriate for the setting.
The exact words you use are less important.
How you say something is so much more important than what you say.
