Beware, these relationship issues could be warning signs.
In anymarriage even the strongest,happiest ones problems and frustrations will inevitably arise.
Annoying but youll live), there are certain problems that really shouldnt be ignored.
Some issues, likeabusive behavioror a major breach of trust, are generally regarded as obvious red flags.
But other issues that may appear harmless in comparison could actually be cause for concern.
You feel anxious when youre around your partner or before seeing them.
You feel lonely even when youre together.
We all havecrappy dayswhen we feel disconnected from our partners.
Feeling lonely is a sign of disconnection physically, emotionally, or both.
Active steps are needed or the gap between you will grow bigger.
You dont know how to fight fair.
Conflict is a natural part of any relationship.
The ability to talk through issues in a respectful way is asign of maturity and health in the relationship.
Instead of addressing problems head on, they just sweep things under the rug.
Pervasive conflict avoidance can indicate that one or both partners do not feel confident to bring issues up.
Avoiding short-term conflict leads to long-term resentment and disconnection.
Its the leading cause of roommate syndrome, where couples get along but do not feel an intimate connection.
Its typical for couples to make their fighting routine seem OK.
Either theyll say, Every couple fights or We never fight like thats a good thing.
Both fighting too much and never fighting are destructive for relationships, he said.
When you talk about money, it always turns into an argument.
But how a couple reconciles these differences says a lot about the relationship.
Yes, money can be a touchy subject.
In fact, money is always listed on every list of topreasons couples divorce.
Yet couples almost never come to counseling to resolve their money differences.
Your partner makes digs and jokes at your expense.
It can breed resentment and contempt, which is a relationship death sentence.
Sometimes, you feel more like your partners therapist than their spouse.
You have a really hard time making decisions.
Decisiveness is not a quality that comes naturally to everyone.
In a marriage, they may go back and forth about wanting to separate or stick it out.
It could also mean they are fundamentally incompatible.
