If you routinely accuse your partner of being the selfish one, it miiiiight actually be you.

In anyrelationship, we all have moments in which we act inselfishways.

But when self-centered, immature or inconsiderate behavior becomes the norm for you, then theres anissue.

Two people squinting in the sunlight, one shading their eyes, in casual wear

Or do you just call all the shots without any regard for their wishes?

If this sounds familiar, theres a good chance you havent realized that youve been unfair to your partner.

Below, experts share the signs that indicate youre probably the selfish one in your relationship.

Silhouettes of a man and woman standing back to back in front of window blinds

You expect your partner to listen to you vent but you dont offer the same in return.

That feeling of being understood and accepted is what intimacy is about.

Even if your partner doesnt protest, its still a recipe for loneliness in a relationship.

Two people in a kitchen, one appears frustrated with hand on head and the other is standing with hands on hips

Amy Begel, marriage and family therapist

2.

You give your partner the silent treatment instead of tackling difficult conversations in a mature way.

It is self-centered to not make an attempt to communicate when you are hurt or angry at your partner.

Person comforting another who looks distressed, sitting on a couch, indoors

Tough conversations often come up in a romantic relationship.

You put your partner through a lot of distress when you refuse to talk.

Marni Feuerman, marriage and family therapist

3.

You insist that your perspective is the correct one on everything.

This is a definite red flag indicating a strong degree of selfishness.

If thats the case, you really arent a partner at all.

Gary Brown, marriage and family therapist

4.

You routinely accuse your partner of being the selfish one in the relationship.

We can hardly tolerate qualities in others that we dont like about ourselves.

Often what we mean when we accuse partners of being selfish is that theyre not meeting our selfish preferences.

Steven Stosny, psychologist

5.

You get pissy when your partner makes plans that dont involve you.

There is no reason to be joined at the hip.

It is healthy to have your own interests and balance me time with we time.

Feuerman

6.

Youre overly critical of your partners friends and family.

Begel

7.

Youre oblivious to your partners needs.

Begel

8.

When you dont get your way, you threaten to end the relationship even if you dont mean it.

Even in the very best of relationships, none of us is always going to get what we need.

BrownThis article originally appeared onHuffPost.