Conversations aboutsexare happening more freely and frequently than they once did.
But even as we becomemore comfortablediscussing certain topics, there are others that stillmake some people a little bashful.
We asked sex educators to share the seemingly weird or embarrassing questions they actually get asked all the time.
Below, sex experts reveal seven common questions and their answers.
“What comes out when I squirt?
Is it just pee?”
People have alotof questions about squirting, and thats understandable; evenscientists are perplexed by it.
It is sometimes known asfemale ejaculation,although it can happen to anyone with a vagina.
While the two terms are often used interchangeably, some experts believesquirting and female ejaculation are distinct processes.
Because research on female pleasure is lacking, this is still being debated.
Heres what we know: Both female ejaculate and squirting come from the urethra.
Female ejaculate tends to be less fluid and thicker.
“Am I masturbating too much?”
Sex educatorFrancisco Ramirezoften gets questions from people wanting to know if their masturbation habits are normal.
He assures them that any frequency whether its often, occasional or almost never is OK.
But theres nothing wrong with masturbating multiple times a day.
If thats the case, then it could be anissue worth addressing.
But otherwise, it shouldnt be a problem, Ramirez added.
“Will my vibrator desensitize me?”
Good news:The answer is no.
Any clitoral numbness you might feel after a session with your vibrator is temporary.
So let those good vibes roll.
If you do experience a lasting loss of genital sensitivity, your sex toy probably isnt the culprit.
Make an appointment with your OB-GYN to rule out any medical conditions.
“Do my weird sexual fantasies mean theres something wrong with me?”
People have a tendency to read into their fantasies and judge themselves for what turns them on.
Some may be interested in safelyexploring taboo desires or activitieswith a consenting partner.
Inside your head is for you and you alone.
“Is there anything Ishouldntbe putting in my butt?”
As for what you shouldnt be inserting up there?
Well, a lot of things, actually.
Sex toys designed for anal insertion will often have a flared base, Ramirez said.
A flared base on an anal sex toy is a must we dont want anything getting lost inside!
“If I enjoy butt play, does that mean Im gay?”
Physically speaking, its no surprise that they enjoyed it, she said.
Our culture often associates anal play with being gay, Milstein said.
Being gay is an orientation.
It means that you find men attractive.
“How can I make my penis bigger?”
My advice is simple: Dont do it!
And chances are your partner doesnt care as much about the size as you think they do.
