They’re toxic and unbelievable, and have left a very damaging mark on folks today.
Note: Some submissions include topics of child abuse and verbal abuse.
c’mon proceed with caution.
It wasn’t until I was 14 and we were arguing in the car that I finally fought back.
So I responded, ‘No, but when you say that, it makes me FEEL stupid.’
She got a funny look on her face and was quiet the rest of the drive home.
I don’t remember her saying it to me ever again."
buttfarts7000
2.
“When I was a teenager, my boyfriend cheated on me…with my mother.
She tried to tell me I was ‘crazy’ to think that they would be together.
I genuinely believed I may have been ‘crazy’ who would do that to their own daughter?
I must be ‘losing it.’
When I got a new boyfriend, this ex went wild.
“I moved out of my own house.
They still tried to deny it all, but everybody knew at this point.
They dated up until five years ago (11 years dating total).
She was only open about the fact they were an actual couple once they broke up.”
Anonymous
3.
“My mother was terrible to me growing up she was a covert narcissist.
She constantly compared me to my eldest sister, who was ‘the golden child.’
In my thirties, I finally went to counseling and realized what was wrong.
“My parents were never affectionate to me or even said anything nice to each other.
zimmyzada11
5.
“They always acted like nothing was ever wrong.
I really wouldn’t change a thing.
If they do, they have failed.'
They didn’t mean to do this and they meant well.
u/EarlyEarth
6.
When my stepson was around six years old, he would make himself and his younger sister ketchup sandwiches.
fujoxas23
7.
“I have six younger siblings and would constantly have to watch them.
I was depressed growing up, but I was always too afraid to tell my mom about it.
Most of my childhood was taken away from me because of this.”
Again, I was five years old when this started, and it continued well into my twenties.
I struggle with believing I’m worthy of love and fearful that those I let in will abandon me.
“My parents would constantly lead me to believe we had money problems.
We didn’t we were very well off.
My mom just complained that we didn’t have enough for her middle school-age daughter.
Now that I am an adult, I constantly think what I’m making is ‘not enough.’
I refuse to touch my savings even, if it is the difference between me making rent or not.
camilla16
10.
“I’m a 32F, and growing up, I had a great relationship with my father.
When my sister and I came to puberty, everything changed.
She was in high school, so I was around 11 years old.
I didnt understand it then, and I cant understand it now.
Dads: hey be nice to your daughters its not their fault they grow up.”
I’m 30, and need to solve my own problems.'
I was ‘failing my kids as a mom’ for ‘not teaching them about god.’
u/Thick_Preparation648
12.
“I was pregnant with my first child due May 2020, so in the beginning of the pandemic.
My mom was mad because I canceled my baby shower because of the pandemic.
“I didnt talk to my mom during the last two months of my pregnancy.
I did let her know when I was in labor, but nothing more.
“My mom told me that I was a disappointment when I was 16 years old.
I had just gotten my first ‘C’ in school, and she was furious.
I had always tried my best in school, and I had never gotten a ‘C’ before.
I didn’t know what I had done wrong, and I felt like a failure.
That one comment from my mom stayed with me for years.
It made me feel like I wasn’t good enough, and it made me doubt myself.
It took me a long time to realize that my mom’s words didn’t define me.
I am not a disappointment, and I am capable of achieving anything I set my mind to.”
u/MrMcpills
14.
“Saying, ‘I love you, but I don’t like you.’
I ensure my kids know they are loved and appreciated every day, even when things get difficult.”
u/hogwarts_earthtwo
“I’m not sure [my parents even realize they do this].
u/Kansai_Lai
15.
Im not sure what the argument was about, but my mom corrected my dads behavior.
He said, ‘Its notmyfault!
Seethat’ while pointing at me.
He then threw the tinfoil ball at me, hitting me in the head.”
daniellelynnw2
16.
“I’ve been thinking about my mom’s cruelty towards me about male attention and heartbreak.
I was shocked and flattered.
I had no idea why they liked me, but I rode the wave.
I felt unworthy because my mom would say, ‘Why are they with you?’
As if I was very unattractive and unlikeable.
I internalized that.”
“When those boys found someone new, my mom never comforted me.
It was always, ‘Well of course what was he doing with you, anyway?
He was too good-looking for you.’
I believed her for a long time and thus shot low.
I see now that it was all her unhealthy jealousy of me.
It was so mean.”
altenbas
17.
I would never stay with a spouse just ‘for the kids.’
The mental toll constant fighting parents takes on a developing brain is severe.”
u/LoserBroadside
18.
That was the start of what has been one long, manipulative relationship.
I keep her at arms length for my own peace of mind, as do all of my siblings.
I just want it to be over honestly.”
s42bb9c35d
19.
“Im adopted, and my birth mom and I got in contact when I was 15.
She told me I needed to do more to ‘win him back.’
20.And, “I used to think of my dad asSuperman I was ‘daddys little girl.’
But as my parents' marriage became more hostile, the more he began to resent me.
I was tearful but rational and wanted him to see how much I wanted him to be proud.
After this, he called the police and then fled.
He then called my mom and tried to turn my entire family against me.
grouchycomet68
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