“When they tell me I have to choose between them and my friend.”
Like…some of these are GRUESOME.
There’s no coming back from any of these situations.
hey proceed with caution.
None of it has worked.
You don’t feel angry, resentful, determined, or desperate for them to get it.
You don’t even feel drained.
And you think,Whoisthis?
Why am I even having this conversation, and how do I get them out of my house?"
I dealt with this recently and just reached the point of being completely done.
I’m so much happier now that they’re not in my life."
u/Direct-Analyst8211
2.
“When either one of you tries to be objectively mean in hopes of hurting the other.
There’s no coming back from that, in my opinion.”
u/aoi4eg
3.
“Perhaps cliche, but infidelity.
Even if you decide to stay and work things out, your relationship is changed forever.”
u/catseye00
“This is my red line.
If you screw someone else, it’s immediately over.
“I now live by a one-strike-and-you’re-out rule.
No couples therapy, no pleading, no do-overs.
I do not care what the explanation or justification is.
“On the flip side, I would never cheat on my partner.
u/NuclearLunchDectcted
4.
“When you and your partner have different beliefs about each other’s worth and cannot agree.
Most people choose to leave and then demonstrate their worth to another partner.”
They won’t admit their value because they’d have to treat them better.
u/Obv_Probv
5.
“When you could’t trust them anymore.
It’s also likely not the same trust as before.
Plus, no two loves are 100% the same.”
u/Good-mood-curiosity
“Trustcanbe repaired, but it will never be as strong as the first time.
There will always be fault lines…one good quake and it’ll come toppling down.”
u/absentmindedjwc
6.
But you don’t follow through.
They are already gone.
You just don’t know it.”
u/EasyPeasy2U
7.
“Very desperately wanting to look in their phone.
u/farrah_berra
“I tried explaining this to my little brother when he thought his ex was cheating on him.
He didn’t believe me when I told him the relationship was over.
“Soon after, he did go through her phone, and surprise, she was cheating on him.
He lost it.”
u/rallyracerdomingus
Shopping Deal Alert
8.
“When you’re in it for different reasons and have different definitions and expectations for a relationship.
u/RinoTheBouncer
9.
It’s the death knell 99.9% of the time.
u/p3ptodismal
10.
“The point of no return is when one party refuses to go to couples therapy.
If they’re that bad, you won’t fix things alone that’s your only real shot.
If you might’t get there, it’s pointless.”
u/stacysdoteth
11.
Now it’s hard for me to let people in that way.”
u/iStitch_mc
12. u/Tolkleone_Sandwichu
13.
“When you or your partner genuinely no longer cares about the other person’s welfare.
I read this in a book from a renowned psychiatrist.
u/Sharpest_Edge84
14. u/PermaBanTogether
15.
“For me, it was when my ex openly said that she could replace me if she wanted.
I told her if she wasn’t happy, then she was free to go.
u/foolishdrunk211
16.And finally, “When you start making excuses to not hang out with them.
Like, at that point, you know the relationship is over.
But the worst is when they haven’t done anything that makes you feel okay hurting them.
No matter how nicely you do it, dumping someone will hurt.
u/illini02
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