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“I’m a groom who called off the marriage.
53, New Jersey
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“We had been together for three years and were in our late 20s.
Not long after we got engaged, she suddenly lost her job.
She struggled to find work, but she was determined.
However, it started to take a toll on her mentally and financially.
I wasnt making much, but I helped her where I could.
“I was devastated, but we both said we would go through with it.
Then, about a month before the wedding, we got into a big fight.
45, Washington, DC
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“My dad was engaged to this woman who came from a very wealthy family.
He was Catholic, and his church required them to go to counseling before the wedding.
He slowly realized they had absolutely nothing in common, and called off the wedding three days before.
She didn’t take it too well and flipped out and refused to let him leave the room.”
“He slammed the wall with his fist, and she stepped aside.
u/mejulies
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“My boyfriend’s father joined the Navy and left on a ship to avoid his wedding day.
His bride-to-be had lied to him about being pregnant to guilt him into marriage.
As the big day approached, she admitted she was not pregnant at all.
He joined the Navy to get away and dumped her as he was going to training.”
“He ran into her decades later, and she acted as if they were old friends.”
u/dear_science
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“I called off the wedding because I realized we weren’t ready to make a marriage work.
Shortly before the wedding, I realized that we didn’t have those skills.
That made me extremely uncomfortable with the prospect of going through with it.
And ultimately, I couldn’t bring myself to start something that I knew couldn’t last forever.”
u/throwaway823746
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He replied, ‘Don’t count on it, the wedding’s off.’
He didn’t.”
I guess sometimes when you know, you still don’t know.”
Anonymous
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“I realized that she was more in love with getting married than she was with me.
But she didn’t care about me more than a friend.”
u/blitzbom
8. u/zakos
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“I was going to get married in March 2012 and called it off in January of that year.
Basically, it just came down to a disagreement about what we wanted out of life.
She wanted kids, like, almost immediately.
This was causing more and more of a divide between us.”
u/yakovgolyadkin
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“I went on my first date at the age of 23.
Having never been in a relationship before, I thought everything was going well.
About three months in, we got pregnant.
This was a shock to my system, and we separated briefly following the announcement.
We got back together, though, and really tried to make it work.
My daughter was born in August, very near our one-year anniversary.
I’ve learned so much through her about responsibility and being an adult.
I proposed, and for some time it made things better between us.”
“The situation was just too difficult, though; we had nothing in common other than our daughter.
u/i_i_i_i______O-___
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“We were together for seven years and were getting married in a few months.
We’d already bought a house and started tying our lives together.
She was emotionally distant for some time, but I ignored it like a fool in love.
Eventually I noticed that she was spending significant time chatting with a guy she’d met onWorld of Warcraft.
She was also taking phone calls ‘from a friend’ in private.
I called her on it, and our wedding was called off the next day.”
u/SoundsReasonable
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“My mom was engaged to a guy who called off their wedding two weeks beforehand.
At the time, he said it was because his family didn’t support his remarriage.
She stuck with him and eventually married him a few years later.
Turned out, he had at least two other wives during this time.”
In the end Mom lost everything, and now she lives with me.”
u/chicklette
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“Two weeks before the big day, I called off my wedding.
It all went down the weekend after her bachelorette party.
She tells me, ‘You cannot marry this crazy bitch.’
She had about three small, different groups of friends together sharing stories.
One example was when she claimed to have a modeling contract at an agency.
Basically, she used her friends' stories as her own.”
“After the conversation, I was stunned for a moment.
I felt empty but emotionless.
I told my manager that I had to leave.
I wasn’t getting married anymore, sir.
It was good enough.
After I got out of there, I went and talked to the priest.
Told him the wedding was most likely not going down.
Called the reception hall.
That guy was pissed because I was supposed to write him a check the next day.
Lost the deposit, though.
Filled up my car and drove to my parents' house.
My mother was shocked but happy because she hated my fiance.
She called when she got back, but I didn’t answer.
Didn’t even talk to her for a few days.
In hindsight, I could see all her lies.
I dodged a huge freaking bullet.”
u/Thuggish_Coffee
14. u/Vicious_Violet
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“I was to be married in June of this year.
We had been dating for about four and a half years, living together for almost two.
I called it off a few weeks back.
Instead of things staying the same or getting better after I proposed, things got worse.
Fighting all the time, no sex, and I didn’t even want to be around her.
It got to the point where I would dread having to go home when I knew she was there.
I would find any excuse not to go home, or to stay out later.
I went away on vacation for a week without her back in January.”
It was a tough breakup because there was a lot of emotion from her side.
I moved out a couple of weeks ago, and I couldn’t be happier!”
u/TonzB
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She opened up about her past, and I did everything I could to support her through it.
After about a year, I proposed, and things were going well.
But then it took a dramatic turn for the worse.
Things kept getting worse, and I realized how controlling she was.”
And finally…
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“Thirty-five years ago, I called off my wedding.
I got cold feet three days before the event and canceled it.
It just devastated me.
I did everything I could to regain her confidence, but it took almost a year.”
I had many sleepless nights imagining the worst.
By the time we reached Washington, Mount St. Helens had erupted.
We were on the highway about 40 miles from it when it blew.
The sky just turned black, and the mud flows washed out the bridges north of us.
We were rerouted along the coast and finally made it to Bangor.
She had to return to Cincinnati, but this time it was with the plan to return to Washington.
When she flew back, we eloped with a justice of the peace.
That was almost 33 years ago.
We have three sons, and we couldn’t be happier.
Our boys are all grown up, and I’m not far from retirement.
Marrying her was the best, smartest thing I ever did."
u/bicyclecrazy
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