“This made me better as a person but also massively positively impacted my dating life.”

As the saying goes, hindsight is 20/20.

Here is what some shared:

1.

Taylor Swift performs on stage with dancers in formal attire, including top hats and tails. She wears a sparkling white outfit with high boots

“They’re just people.

There’s no reason to put them on a pedestal or be afraid to approach them.”

“Go for it.

A man and a woman enjoy drinks at a dimly lit bar with glasses and bottles lining the shelves behind them. They appear to be engaged in conversation

Be upfront about liking someone; if they don’t return your feelings, move on.”

u/daddytyme428

3.

Full stop, no exceptions.

A person in casual clothing sits on a bed with their hands pressed to their face in a thoughtful or stressed pose

A break-up is not the end of the world.

Believe her true colors.

After a breakup, stay the heck away from her social media."

Two pairs of feet, wearing pastel socks with rainbow stripes and bare, peek from under a bedcover, suggesting a cozy scene. No names or text present

4.Hey, you idiot (to myself)!

These arent traps, guy.

It isnt elementary school.

Three men are sitting and laughing together in a casual indoor setting

I dont think Id need to give specific advice after that.

Thats the push Id wished Id heard."

u/SeaBackground5779

5.

Two people in silhouette face each other. The person on the left is gesturing angrily, while the person on the right covers their face with their hands

I didnt communicate, and I expected my girlfriend to be ready for sex whenever I wanted.

If I got rejected, I felt like a massive failure and that she must not love me anymore.

I always did my own thing and didnt care much about making plans together.

Two people, a woman and a man, smiling at each other; she holds a bouquet of flowers, and he holds a gift box

Turns out communication is key, and its okay to be emotional as a man.

Its completely okay not to be in the mood for sex too."

u/throwaway43565467

6.

“Its a myth that if you find the right person, everything will turn out all right.

Shift your focus to becoming the right person for someone else.”

u/Adamliem895

7.

“Remember, compatibility isn’t just about sharing hobbies or interests.

Communication is crucial, but so is understanding that actions often speak louder than words.

Show appreciation, be supportive during the downs, and celebrate the ups.

Your self-worth is not tied to a relationship status.

The right person will complement you, not complete you.”

u/MiaDale567

8.

“See things for what they are.

If shes treating you like shit or playing games with your head, walk the fuck away.”

u/PartYourWhiskers

9.

“About approaching women: Your worth as a man isn’t determined by whether she rejects you.

“I’d say to give a shot to view women more empathetically.

So I’d probably go with that.”

u/AnthonyPillarella

11.

“Dont become someone else for a woman.”

u/phoex1

12.

“Dating them doesn’t mean you’re required to take shit from them.

Don’t be afraid to stand up to your girlfriend if she’s treating you unfairly.”

“When you’re asking her out, work the word ‘date’ in.

When she shows up, tell her you like what she’s wearing.

give a shot to break the touch barrier slowly.

It’s not worth the trouble, and why would you want to be with someone like that anyway?

Do what you will with that information.”

u/gigachadmane

14.

“Life is about more than just relationships and how many people you’re free to sleep with.

u/CountOff

15.And finally, “Dont idealize one woman you have a crush on.

But its rarely a ‘hot girl you admire from afar.'”