“Being in a relationship with him was like dragging an open parachute behind me on the ground.”

they provided very thoughtful and honest answers.

Here’s what they had to say below.

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“When I realized he was acting like a child more than an adult (i.e.

conflict avoidance, lack of self-control, over-emotional responses).

Adults manage their emotions and handle things directly and logically.

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Both behaviors are extremely unattractive.

As soon as I could see any of this in my partners, I was over them.”

u/Roxygirl40

“Yeah, my ex was like this.

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He didnt seem to understand why punching holes in walls and doors when youre mad is an issue.

Honestly, It was like watching a toddler having a temper tantrum.”

u/_Hologrxphic

3.

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“He started to have medical issues and couldnt work.

After 28 years together, I was done.

I packed up and moved out of state a couple of months later.”

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u/[deleted]

5.

“I felt incredibly stuck.

I dreaded when they came home.

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“When I fell in love with my current partner.

I realized I hadnt ever actually experienced what real, true love felt like until I met him.

u/theycallmegale

“Absolutely this.

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I kinda figured you just found someone you could tolerate, and that’s as good as it gets.

We eventually broke up.

He couldn’t understand why I had an issue with that.”

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u/emack2199

9.

We were from the same state, but I couldnt afford to fly home at the time.

I realized he did not love me how I wanted to be loved or how I loved him.

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), and he said to me, ‘Dont be a fucking baby.’

I broke up with him the next day, moved out, and two months later, COVID hit.

“I couldnt have sex with him.

I spent time with him just because he was my boyfriend, not because I really wanted.

I lost the intense feelings a short time after we spent time together.

I didnt actually have fun with him all the time.

He didnt make me happy the way a partner should do.”

u/shewolf-91

11.

“Every single last thing he did annoyed the hell out of me.

Even the way he held his coffee put me in a rage.”

“When he dumped me, and I was only sad for one day.

u/yuhkih

“Isnt it funny when that happens?

Turns out, I had mourned the relationship months, if not years, before that.”

u/bumblebeequeer

13.

“I didnt miss him when we werent together.”

“He started moving his stuff into my place, and I had a panic attack about it.

I was not excited about us or our future I was terrified.

I broke up with him the next day.”

u/SquidSchmuck

15.

“I found an engagement ring and panicked.

It wasnt what I wanted.”

I couldnt respect him, and I quickly realized I didnt love him when the haze wore off.

In my opinion, respect fuels love because love truly is a verb.

Once the respect is lost, I cant continue the action of love.”

u/tallconfusedgirl12

17.

“I asked myself, ‘What do I like about him?’

And I couldnt answer it.”