A little while ago, we shared thelessonspoor people learned when they dated rich people.
A ton of people in theBuzzFeed Communitycommented with their own experiences dating people from different financial backgrounds.
So, we just had to share those, too:
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“I dated a super wealthy guy as in worth $200 million when we met.
That everything costs so much more these days.
They had nothing when they first started dating and got married.
Well, he did not want me to work.
I was 32 and gave up my own business.
14 years later, I was sick of how he treated me, and I left.
He had a list of rules for me to follow, including being 122 pounds and exercising every day.
Broke my heart.”
“I grew up lower middle class with occasional food insecurity as a kid.
My wealthy boyfriend didn’t even own a plunger.”
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“I grew up in an upper-middle-class family, with my father being well-known in the automotive industry.
Money was no object; I attended Catholic and private schools.
Im the youngest of my siblings, so I had new everything.
When I was an adult, I entered into a relationship with someone who grew up poor.
His life choices due to low self-esteem lead him into poor adulthood.
When he got a sum of money, no expense was spared.
He would purchase outfits and shoes, go to the club, and spend recklessly and foolishly.”
“I was with my husband for over 30 years.
Money can’t buy class.”
Though I come from wealth, I still had to work hard.
My parents instilled that in me at a young age.
Generational wealth to the max."
“I was married to someone for 20 years who came from an extremely wealthy family.
They honestly did not know what poor meant.
I was shocked to meet an actual ‘rags to riches’ family.
However, I found a picture from when they were first married.
They were standing next to a Jaguar and a Cadillac with a huge brick home in the background.
You see, to them, that was extremely poor.”
They always saw me as white trash."
“I come from an upper-middle-class background, and my boyfriend grew up working class.
One difference I noticed between us is how important it is for him to ‘keep up appearances.’
On the other hand, he will throw away his shirts, bags, shoes, etc.
as soon as they start looking old or used.
I told him I wanted to make it last, and he said we could just buy more.
“A friend set me up once with the only child of very wealthy parents.
He had condos, a boat, and a house on the lake.
I didn’t sign up for another date.
His money was his money, not mine, and I have power imbalance issues.”
She worked a good job but had received a sizable inheritance.
She earned considerably more than me and had wayyy more than me in the bank, investments, etc.
When we went out, I paid for dinner, gas, etc.
85% of the time.
Going to dinner was three or four times a week.
She liked long weekend trips and vacations; I paid for 90% of them.
“It felt like there would be no end to it until I was broke.
At that point, I’m sure I would have been shown the door.
Rich people are usually not generous.
On the contrary, how do you think they got rich?”
“Yes, I have dated a couple of people with money.
I had some great times, and I learned a lot.
The other bragged and wanted to show off.
It didn’t last long; I am a strong-minded and self-confident person.
Those skills that you learned while poor are the ones that will serve in times of crisis.
Money can be nice, but money has never made people better or nicer.”
“I dated a man for eight years who came from very old money.
Were talking castles in Ireland old.
I was really young when I met him; he was rather old.
I ended up having two children with him.
The biggest narcissist on the planet.
Grew up with a silver spoon stuck up his ass.
Well, he walked around feeling absolutely entitled to everything.
I came from a poor family of blue-collar artists and musicians in Tennessee.
I was always astonished by how my kids dad would pinch pennies despite being totally loaded.
“Yet he would shop for our kids' food at the Dollar Tree!
I was lucky to get away.
We were just property to him.
I dont regret my kids, but I regret meeting that rich douche.
I am still proud of my humble beginnings, my parents, their work ethic and resourcefulness.
I never felt poor, just rich in spirit.”
“Sometimes it’s not just wealth vs. poverty but types of wealth that create a divide.
I managed to experience both problems at once.
Her very wealthy, new-money parents tolerated me but obviously hoped for a better match.
Did they like me better?
Not at all!”
“I come from a family who grew up with money.
My wife comes from a working-class family and was raised by a single parent.
My wife has a great head on her shoulders and an excellent work ethic.
She gets super annoyed (rightfully so!)
I think people who come from money are just way more out of touch with reality.”
My Christmas gift that year was my plane ticket to visit them in California.
She said she would cover all of the costs.
I explained I did not have enough vacation time for that at work.
And she replied, ‘Well, cant you buy more?
I will pay for it.’
I had to explain that it doesnt work that way.
I ended up breaking up with him shortly thereafter because our values just did not align.”
17.And finally, “Not me, but my parents.
My dads side comes from money, descended from barons from all over Europe and can prove it.
Theyre good people but incredibly uptight and rigid in how things ought to be done.
Even some of the silverware has documented lineages.
My grandma still doesnt like my mother.
Mom grew up distinctly working middle class and attended state schools growing up.
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