“We literally grew up together.
At that point, we had been friends for over half our lives.
And it was all gone in a day.”
Recently, Reddit useryurivantaasked, “What was ‘The Incident’ in your friend group?”
People replied with shocking and heartbreaking stories about what tore their friend groups apart read them below.
“A car accident.
Four friends were in the car when it got T-Boned.
It was totally the other driver’s fault; she was going too fast into a blind hill.
Our friend in the seat that was closest to the accident died from internal injuries.
The last time we were all together was at his funeral.
But for some reason, we all just…never got together again.
No one talks about it.”
u/Its_Curse
2.
“A friend of ours was talking to a girl on the internet.
He went to meet her and got arrested.
He traveled almost 200 miles to meet this underage girl.
It broke our friend group apart.
u/SpoonFed_1
3.
“We found out that a friend had faked his death and assumed a new identity.
This was because he used to be a drug dealer and needed to disappear to avoid arrest.
This all came up because his girlfriend at the time hit him and then called the cops.
Once he was fingerprinted, it all came up.”
u/f0gax
4.
“A friend’s dog ended up killing and eating another friend’s smaller dog.”
“Said dogs were a yorkie and a chow-chow mix.
After that incident, nobody talked to him until he moved away.
u/Heroic-Forger
5.
I was the intended target.
The shooter got himself instead.
For my health, I decided to change cities and friend groups.”
“He intended to ‘scare me’ because I made a jest, and he took it personally.
But the firearm went off as he drew it.
This guy had been my best friend since seventh grade up into our early 20s.”
u/Rude-Consideration64
6.
He was traveling a lot in his car and had a second secret mobile phone.
His wife found it, and there were literally hundreds of phone numbers for sex workers.
u/trauma_doc
7.
No one in the group saw this coming.
He is dead to me.”
u/cuddlycephalopod
8.
It was devastating."
u/Historiun
9.
“My friend fucked my girlfriend inside my house, on my bed… u/steri_ka
10.
A few months later, we found a story about her arrest.”
u/rekoil
11.
“We were in school when this happened.
I had no choice but to tell on him.
I only did it so he could get the help he needed.
… My other friends got pissed off at me for doing it.”
u/Warioandwaluigio
12.
“It was my friend group/D&D group.
We killed his character and made sure the rest of the group and even our local game store knew.
He is banned from the store, and we haven’t seen him since.
And if he’s smart, it’ll stay that way.”
u/Solenthis87
13. u/Fhaquons
14.
“A friend asked all of us to be bridesmaids at her wedding.
We found out when the wedding pictures were posted on Facebook.”
u/heysmilinstrange
15.
I was livid [the next day.]
I was extremely angry.
u/HeroToTheSquatch
16.
“My friend A was clearly not mentally well and became obsessed with friend B.
A was always going to B’s house and always calling and texting.
A got a little wild, and B ended up needing a restraining order.
That all went down about 14 years ago.
Last I heard A got help and got her shit under control.
I think they even made up at some point.”
u/bigdreams_littledick
17.
“I’ve had a group of buddies four of us total since high school.
We all ended up in college together.
I brought a woman into the friend group.
I got a girlfriend, and she ended up fooling around with a guy back home.
It was really no big deal.
We still remained friends with no hard feelings.
One of my friends ended up hooking up with this girl regularly a total FWB situation.
“We noticed our third friend ended up getting really distant and resentful.
THREE YEARS LATER, on a road trip, he got drunk and confronted my buddy.
We basically brought this incident to ‘Friend Court.’
All four of us had a trial and really gave our friend a piece of our mind.
u/No_Party_6167
18.
This created a divide in our group, and things were weird for a while.
Unfortunately, this caused a big crack in our group that never fully healed.
u/yes_u_suckk
19.
“I liked my friend (A) and eventually told her.
I was sure she felt the same about me, but she said she didn’t.
We stayed friends and continued on as if that conversation had never happened.
A few months later, I met a woman (J) and started dating her.
My friend (A) apparently did like me and was now jealous.
A started stalking J on Facebook and sent weird messages to her.
I haven’t seen A or talked to her since then.
She started talking shit about me to our mutual friend (D), who believed her.
D is also friends with J.”
I lost my friendship with A.
D lost friendships with J, A, S, and myself.
D eventually saw the truth, but it just wasn’t the same anymore.
We literally grew up together.
At that point, we had been friends for over half our lives.
And it was all gone in a day.”
u/theFooMart
20.
“We all worked at a popular fast-food restaurant together.
On the way back to her old house where A still lived, D died in a car crash.
We knew he was a dealer, but selling to kids crossed a red line.
One of us admitted to anonymously tipping off the cops about it.”
u/Gorganzoolaz
22.
None of us ever said anything because A didn’t seem to care, so why should we?
Then, A and J got engaged.
We were all shocked and thought it was kind of pathetic.
A and J uninvited M to their wedding.
It was some wild times.
u/PaisleyPerkins
23.
“My husband’s friends wife-swapped a few times.
Both were (stupidly) trying for babies at the time.
One woman got pregnant, and they couldn’t be sure who the father was.
She wanted to wait to find out; the other three pressured her to have an abortion.
She spiraled after having it and ended up in a mental health facility for a few days.
The next month, the other couple fell pregnant and kept the baby.
It was all really sad.”
u/pumpa_nickle35
24.
“This fucked my school friend group to the core.
We had just finished high school like the month before.
C drove T home and sexually assaulted her in his car.
T didn’t want to speak to the cops or let anyone else know at the time.
T was going through a lot of trauma and asked others to let C’s newly pregnant partner know.
That didn’t happen, and it caused a fight.
… Our friend group never recovered. "
“This was years ago.
u/ChainsForAlice
25.
“[I was in a] group of about seven friends.
We all started drinking a little with her roommates, but nothing too much.
The three of us started kissing on her bed, and I ask D, ‘Is this okay?’
J asks if shes sure.
She says yes and starts to undress my boyfriend.
Then L barges in and yells that the two of us need to leave.”
“Embarrassed, we got our things and ran out the door.
We quickly booked a hotel and started to drive off.
D ran out, drunk as hell, and begged us to take her with us.
She started sobbing and apologizing, saying that she wanted this.
We were a little confused and told her to go to bed.
She went back inside.
J and I knock out at the hotel.
I wake up to missed calls from her, crying and apologizing.
I ignore it and move on.
My boyfriend and I have a fun time at the beach.
I looked up her profile and saw that I was blocked.
…
L told me that that was the last straw and told D she should move out.
… D called her family to pick her up, and she left.
Anyway, long story short, our friend group hasn’t talked to her since.”
u/pumpkinkin
26.
“When the TSA escorted our friends off our flight, that was the beginning of the end.
Since then, every public outing with her involved her becoming … belligerent or rude to strangers.
There was me, Derek, and Rob.
Rob was … usually the life of the party.
Derek was a lot more laid back; just a good man but not really good with the ladies.
I was kind of just there as the youngest and most immature.
Rob graduated way before the rest of us.
Derek was next, and I was the last one left in high school.
We all kind of drifted apart after high school.
Derek joined the military.”
Around 2009, my sister called me, hysterical, saying that our friend Derek had passed away.
It kind of hit me like a splash of cold water.
I was stunned and in denial.
They weren’t good people, so consequently, I’d stopped hanging out with the group.
Rob just attracted that sort of crowd, and Derek was just one of those see-good-in-everyone types.
While at the strip club, one of the dancers noticed that Derek had a lot of cash.
He told her the plan.
Once they got to her place, he knocked on the door.
The dancer’s boyfriend was waiting to ambush my buddy for his cash.
He ran around the side of the house and hit him square in the face.
He went down like a sack of potatoes and landed straight on the back of his head.
They got him back into the car and drove him home.
They had to drive past THREE hospitals to get to his house.
He was unconscious and bleeding all over the back of the car.
They got him home, a whole hour away from where this all happened.
He didn’t live in our hometown anymore, so they took him to his mother’s house.
They left him on the couch and told his mother that he just had a lot to drink.
(They must have cleaned him up by this point.)
She thanked them for bringing him home ‘safely.’
He had passed away in his sleep.
His mother and sister never really got over the whole thing.
He really was a shining light in the lives of many, myself included.
They just wanted a quick cash grab, I guess?
I never thought a few thousand dollars was worth our friend’s life.
I still think about him today and how I haven’t seen his mother or his sister in years.
They don’t live in the same house anymore.
The funeral was the last time we were all together.
I don’t really speak to the group anymore.
u/RedcrosKnight
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