“BIRTH IS NOT A SPECTATOR SPORT.”

“For the most part, our relationship is really great.

He was just mean and unsupportive.”

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I wasn’t loud or screaming or anything but they did bring tears to my eyes."

“From that moment on he was back to being his amazing self.

I just want him to come in after.

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I don’t think I can handle that pain alongside feeling so neglected again.

He says I’m just trying to punish him for last time.”

His opinion changed to he needs to be in the room about a month ago.

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I think that’s fair to both of us."

If this next labour and delivery goes this way, I will likely be seeking divorce."

His one job is to support you and he failed last time."

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“BIRTH IS NOT A SPECTATOR SPORT.

He might realise just how badly he f*cked up last time.”

This has me very worried for you, down the road.

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“Talk to your labour nurses.

YOU are the patient and the nurses dont give a hot damn about anyone else or their feelings.

Let them be the bad guys.

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If he gets mad or pouts, tell him to grow up.”

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And then there are others who think OPisthe A-hole:

“YTA.

The birth of a child and becoming a parent is stressful for BOTH parents.

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When our second was born I was.

Youll both benefit from going through childbirth a second time now that you both know what to expect.”

You either forgive him or break up with him.

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You’re holding a grudge and being petty.

Why are you having a second baby with him if you still feel this way?

Excluding your husband from this moment because he isnt exactly specifically how you want him to be?

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Kind of absurd."

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My take?

OP is not the A-hole.

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Strong boundaries and a switch up in attitude is definitely needed…

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