“Not clinging on to empty promises.
If they want to be with me, theyll have time and make the effort.”
“Allowing myself to be emotionally invested in someone who makes me feel confused or anxious.”
Sadly, even when they tell you, we aren’t listening."
u/TheNinjaPixie
3.
“Being way too emotionally invested way too soon.
Long into the journey of self-love now.”
u/dinnerwithchopsticks
4.
“Focusing on making them like me instead of seeing if I like them.”
“Not clinging on to empty promises.
If they want to be with me, theyll have time and make the effort.
Actions speak louder than words.”
u/my-anonymity
6. u/Various_Dragonfly_24
7.
“Going too hard on makeup/hair/outfit on a first date.
“Telling a man what I want in a partner.
No, show me who you are and Ill decide if its what I want.”
When you tell them they pretend.”
u/KiwiRepresentative20
9.
“A relationship should feel natural and easy fairly early on.
u/LadyBird1281
10.
Have a bottom line, don’t get hurt yourself trying to make them feel better.”
“Go on a second date just in case chemistry develops.
Second dates have never changed my mind.
If there is no chemistry at first meet, there never will be.”
u/evelinisantini
12.
“Assuming theyre probably not dating or talking to other people because they seem super into me.”
I have also recently learned this lesson."
u/likejackandsally
13.
“Ignored red flags because I had low self worth and just wanted to be loved.”
“Somebody that tries to make up for their bad behaviour with gifts.
It’s not my love language and doesn’t do anything for me, do better instead.”
u/femassassin
15.
“Consistently letting a person disrespect my boundaries.
Tell me theyll do something and habitually not do it.
Being a people pleaser.
It got so bad to the point where I was this person’s coping skill.”
u/Mccomj2056
16.
“Being with someone and disregarding who they currently are because of their potential.
Red flags were waving but I was looking well past them.”
Dont stick around for him to just drop you once hes done."
u/No-Button-9088
18.
“Mistaking a trauma bond for the development of an intimate connection with the other person.”
u/GalaxiGazer
19.
“Dont invite people into your space too soon.
This could be your mental, emotional, or physical space.”
u/camelismyfavanimal
21.
H/T tou/Mackenzie_43andAskWomenfor having this discussion!
Note: All submissions have been edited for length and/or clarity.
